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8/4/2019 6:39:55 PM
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Am I a jerk for not wanting to hang out with my cousins?
This is the second time I’ve met them. I was really young the first time, and the majority of what I remember is one of them beating me with stuffed animals. Not a fun first experience, but I was a little kid so it blew off.
Now, the thing about my cousins is that two of the three have mental disabilities, one being full on autistic and the other just having autistic tendencies.
Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against people with autism. I love to see people with autism succeed, like my little bro who is autistic and nonverbal.
The thing is, the fact that I’m expected to want to hang out with these people who are veritable strangers because “they’re family,” and the fact that the only one who doesn’t have some kind of disability is like 5 years younger than me makes it tough for me to socialize with them. And I can’t socialize with the adults because I’m expected to play with the cousins.
So am I a jerk for not wanting to hang out with them and thus avoiding them?
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It's fine. I hate my cousins bro
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Nah you’re good
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7 RepliesNo your not a jerk I don’t like my cousin who is 12 and try’s to make out with me sometimes getting a lot worse than that so I refuse to get around her cuz when we go in public she be slapping my booty and touching my nuts I could easily punch her but I hold it back and hide when I get around her and in about a year I can drive away from her
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[quote]The thing is, the fact that I’m expected to want to hang out with these people who are veritable strangers because “they’re family,” and the fact that the only one who doesn’t have some kind of disability is like 5 years younger than me makes it tough for me to socialize with them. And I can’t socialize with the adults because I’m expected to play with the cousins. So am I a jerk for not wanting to hang out with them and thus avoiding them?[/quote] Kind of, but at the same time you're just being a normal kid. We don't get to choose family members, and we shouldn't exclude them just because they have a difference. You just spend time with them because it's the right thing to do. It's not like you have to be around them all the time, is it? But I get it. We all have family members that we just don't have any connections to.
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No, I hate my cousin and uncle on my dad's side with a passion because she is terrible, it is perfectly fine to ignore cousins.
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Definitely not a jerk, it's understandable to not want to have to socialize with people you barely know whether they have autism or not
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... No, just don't say you dislike them to their face... [spoiler]not included in the DLC[/spoiler]
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You're not a jerk for not wanting to hang out with them. When it comes friends/social interaction nobody should dictate who you like and dislike except you. However, what makes you a jerk is how you act based on how you feel^. You'd be a jerk if you actively ignored them or tried your best to stay away. Like you said, you've only met them once or twice and they're still fanily, so you should hang out ocassionally with them regardless whether you like them or not. (Unless they did something like abuse or whatever, but those are special cases) But, don't feel like you have to be around them 24/7. You shouldn't feel obligated to babysit your cousins, so there's a line that can be crossed. (Unless someone specifically asks you and you accept to hang out for a long period of time, then you'd be a jerk because you broke your promise by ignoring them.) For example, two Christmases ago, i went to three christmas parties with family on three consecutive days. Now, a thing about my family is that when we gather, on both my mom's and my dad's, we gather for 4-7 hours at least. None of that 2 hour bs. So, on the third day, little introvert me couldn't handle all the socializing, so i took a nap about three hours in. Don't get me wrong, i am extremely grateful and happy to have such a large family, but about 6 hours a day for three days of partying is too much, so i needed a break. TL;DR Nobody dicates who you like and don't like except you You are expected to hang out with family regardless of your feelings You shouldn't be expected to hang out with family if you are too exhausted/your patience wears too thin
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ehhhhhhhh probably but I’d think the same
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11 RepliesConsidering most of the interactions I've had with you on these forums I'd say you're a bit of a jerk in general.
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Mentor the cousin 5 years younger than you at least.
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Nope! I completely understand as I'm in the same thing during holidays. I hate most of my cousins!
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Well yes but actually no
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No, I do the same thing
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You'd be a jerk for not giving them a fair shot.
