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10/21/2017 10:39:36 PM
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Anyone that used to feel lonely even when surronded by tons of people?
I have to deal with this curse every Monday through Friday for 7 hours. It's been affecting me every since Kindergarten for the past 8.5 years. I try to make friends, but I come out as too tense, sensitive, or nerdy.
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6 RepliesThe 'tons of people' are the problem. Finding good, quality friends out of a bunch of strangers isn't easy. Try doing something smaller- a sport, club, musical group, whatever. And remember, your middle school self doesn't define anything about you-- people might remember, but only the shallowest will care.
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I was the same way in high school, I felt so awkward in social situations, I was constantly worried about what others thought about me, and how they viewed me... The best advice I can give, takes baby steps and time to wear the anxiety down... Start with small social gatherings, be yourself, always treat others with respect, surround your self with positive people, don't let anyone get away with putting you down, and just let friendships happen naturally... The anxiety will go away slowly, but it does go away... The most important advice, is very hard, but you can do it... NEVER let what others think of you, change how you view your self...
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You allow your inhibitions to control you because you lack self-esteem. Learn to appreciate yourself. Nobody can instill that into you besides you.
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Edited by Fartmonkey: 10/25/2017 6:52:12 PMI notice that a lot of people that feel this way often give in and tell themselves that they have or are these negative traits. By doing this you're only worsening your current situation. I read through a few other comments and answers a few saying medical help which is always an option especially if you don't have the will or mental strength to conquer this. I also saw people telling you to make good friends, I can say from experience that's easier said than done, the trick is to find a common interest or hobby. Most of the time I found myself not making friends because I had nothing to say when they were talking but I watched charismatic people talk to others and they have an interest in the other person and they have an interest in that topic as well even if it's small. Branch out and see what you enjoy, if you only have one hobby that will drastically limit you to your friends. If you ever want be free from this you'll need to either toughen up, get medical help, or try new things and take every new opportunity that presents itself. Never just say you're lonely and settle, you should always be thinking about what you can do to not be lonely.
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Just get a girlfriend and bang her and you feel better. :)
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Speak to your parents about this issue. You require help and medical attention.
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1 ReplyMiddle school doesn't mean anything. High school doesn't mean anything. College doesn't really mean anything. You don't gotta stress about things that don't really mean anything.
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10 RepliesEdited by doom816: 10/23/2017 2:41:29 PMHere's the key I figured out, don't be yourself. Be who you want to be and here's how. You have to look popular. Look at what the people who have all the friends are wearing. You have to act popular. Act like you don't care about anything. And move with confidence: walk without a care in the world, walk like you own the place, pretend you have the swagger that you always dreamed you had. Here's the hardest part: talk like your popular. When you try to join a friend group, you have to join in a conversation and talk about what they are talking about, whether it be a sport, a video game, or politics. If you can do all of these step I guarantee you will have friends.
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I feel like this all the time. I'm so anti-social but I also want friends.
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This happens to me especially at amusement parks. Seeing all these people who look happy, having a grand ole time. It makes me feel so disconnected from the rest of the world. There's all those people, and then I'm over here.
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1 ReplyWhy would you hang out around fat people
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3 RepliesI gave you a voice for a reason. Now go use it and make friends.
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Who needs friends? Heh...
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[quote]1st Day of College[/quote]
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Then work on your issues to better yourself and make new friends
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