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8/13/2014 9:28:42 AM
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Why do so many people have such low standards for relationships?
Oh, she demands we listen to her music? Whatever.
Oh, he does drugs? Whatever.
Oh, she's a total b[b]i[/b]tch? Whatever.
Oh, he's just using me for sex? Whatever.
Oh, she refuses to talk about important issues? Whatever.
Oh, he doesn't tell me I'm pretty? Whatever.
How can people enter into or stay in a relationship that simply isn't a good relationship? I would never date a girl who smokes, does drugs, or yells a lot. I would never date a girl who is controlling, b[b]i[/b]tchy, or rude. I would never date a girl who doesn't like to be intimate, who won't make sacrifices for me, or who abuses animals.
How can people be so lenient in their relationships?
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3 RepliesEdited by Cultmeister: 8/13/2014 10:30:54 AMIf love is there then tolerance should be there too. Listen to her music if she wants you to; it's OK, you can still love her, she can still love you, it's just music. If she doesn't understand that you have as much a right to listen to your music as she does to listen to hers then that's her problem, and if troubles arise from it then that's her doing. But relationships will only last (and should only last) when there's love from both sides, and if at any time there stops being love from both sides then that's a sign that something isn't working; anything else is inconsequential really. So what if she does drugs all the time? So what if she doesn't have a job? If you love her and she loves you then there isn't a problem with the relationship. If you don't like something about her, don't assume you will be able to change it, or that you can force her to change it by blackmailing her with the "if you love me you'll stop doing drugs" card. If you enter a relationship with that attitude, it will be short and end bitterly. [b]Love who she is, not who she could be.[/b] Let me make it clear though, love and lust are very different animals and relationships won't survive on lust alone. If the only thing she wants you for is sex or money then drop it; a relationship like that is poisonous and can only end badly for one or both of you. How do you tell between when she loves you and when she just wants your money? You'll have to be the judge of that yourself.
