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9/2/2015 8:59:55 AM
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My girl says am to old for gaming
After gaming since the 80s, with my commodore +4.. I was 8ish, my girl now says I should have grown out of playing games..
Why did she have to say this, 2 weeks before TTK...
I love gaming it's my hobby, but I don't want this to cause friction within our relationship..
So gaurdians what to do?.. because am at a loss😢
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There are better out there. I'm 35 and my wife is not a gamer and doesn't have an issue with me doing it.
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Dont worry bout wat she said if u lik or love vg then keep at it in the end its ur life not hers also get a new girl
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I'm a 46 year old gamer,if you look at my bio it says "growing old is inevitable,growing up is optional" for all the people that says you're too old oh well never mind.there is a guy in our clan who is in his 60's so you're never to old to play games,I remember playing Alex the kid on the master system lol how consoles have progressed since then.
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Time for a new girl.
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Get a new girl! Control and emotional blackmail is BS. Life's too short.
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Hey man. You know, some people "grow up" and spend half of their free time vegging in front of a tv watching Netflix and terrible reality shows and think it's a more valid way to spend their time. It's all subjective, but I think video games offer a bit more to keep one engaged. Also destiny's social side is full of great people and fun interactions. My roommate gave me the most insane eye roll when I came home with a ps4 and after giving her the whole "well it's no different than you spending your whole life in front of your iPad" shpeal she realized it was silly to criticize. She also dove right into gtaV and beat it so... I'm about to turn 34 btw;)
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1 ReplyI'm 41 my daughters 15 we game together all the time. I've been playing since pong asteroids etc. gamers are naturally intelligent and we seek mental challenges most ordinary people don't understand. We have a hard time sitting watching tv endlessly because it's not challenging or rewarding. Your GF is jealous just like mine, this underlying problem she has is seeking more attention from you. But once you give in and give up gaming to better suit her wants. She'll only find something else to gripe about so on and so fourth... If you're a gamer and it's your hobby then this defines you. So why change? Are you not the same person she met when you first started dating? I stop playing for weeks even a month to please my girlfriend and guess what? It doesn't change anything, she just finds something else to complain about... I fly fish, bike ride, hike, camp, boating, series TV watching etc etc and it doesn't matter. Don't change who you are because of someone else's views on video gaming. Unless you have a super bad addiction to gaming. Just my .02 dude.
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If she is the right person for you she would under stand and let you keep playing
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Bitch please! *closes door on her face and continues playing game*
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Dismantle her
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Enjoyed reading real funny, sexist, crazy replies you got and man there are a lot of gamers out there who are counsellors or empathetic and insightful at the least.
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3 RepliesAsk her if she'd rather you be in the house minding your business playing games or out and about running around in every club you can find getting in trouble
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1 ReplyYo man i am 55 years old and still gaming. You have to find balance between both your hobbies. Goodluck guardian
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I've also heard that argument, that I'm too old for video games (not from my wife, thankfully). Without even knowing your age, I can honestly say you are not too old for them. Why? Because no one is too old for video games. It would be one thing if she said you spent too much time playing them (you would need to determine if that was true or not), but it's quite another thing to tell you that you shouldn't do be doing something (non-destructive) AT ALL that you enjoy. Maybe start by giving her the benefit of the doubt and asking if she just meant she thinks you should play less (some people suck at saying what they really mean). If that's really what she meant, I REALLY don't think you should give up gaming entirely. You will only grow to resent her for it with time and will both end up very unhappy. This would be my advice to anyone with a partner asking them to give up anything that they love; whether it's video games, dancing, a hairstyle, or anything else that isn't harmful to themselves or others. Good luck, man.
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2 RepliesLook, I'm a girl gamer but it wasn't always like that. I played as a kid and pre teen then stopped. My now ex boyfriend played ALOT of games -apps, pc and console and i would get so annoyed and it was coming between our relationship until he bought a game we both liked and the list just grew. I gradually got better than him in every game we had in common because I had more time to play so he got jealous and stopped playing with me lol. The tables eventually turned to where he was trying to get ME off the game lol. So the moral of the story is try seeing if she wants to play too but be ready for a change in her :)
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2 RepliesYea give up staying at home gaming, start going out with your friends drinking and see how she likes that. Anything that takes attention away from her she won't be happy with. Look out man, if you give up something you love then 10 years down the line you find out she's having an affair and your relationship ends you missed out on ten years of doing something you love.
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If she can't accept your hobbies ditch the b*****
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Tell her that it's something you love, and you wouldn't ask her to give up something she's been doing for years if she really enjoyed it. She shouldn't have a right over what you do. If it makes you happy, do it. That's like asking her to not use social media, or read because she's too old for it.
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What I do is if there's ever a new release I cut gaming back to a minimum or stop all together, spend quality time with my lady friend then at some point two weeks before release casually mention that there's a new game coming out shortly that you'd really like to invest some time into. You provide a warning of sorts as to where your time will be invested and there shouldn't be a reason for her to say no. If the game permits then doing little things like giving her your full undivided attention when she talks to you. Eg. You're on a 9 kill streak in an unimportant crucible game, she walks in the room and wants to talk to you about something. Put your controller down next to you and look at her and engage in conversation. If it goes on longer then expected then politely ask if you can finish this round quickly(asking politely never works with my girl but might for nicer ones). Also helps to treat your lady to something nice in the weeks that you game a lot. I myself find healthy eating pet friendly places to take her to and bring the puppy along for a family outing of sorts. Hope some of this is useful and good luck :)
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Hey I'm 24 girl and I still play video games since sega mega drive. It's a hobby tell her it makes you happy : )
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Try getting her to play a few games with you. A couple that games together, stays together. Thanks for the gaming flashback. Had a Colecovision console myself :) Good luck and you're never too old to have fun gaming. I'm 46 and female, and I can't get enough of PC and Xbox console gaming. Cheers, Stephanie
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2 RepliesEdited by KidTheRedRanger: 9/5/2015 4:30:40 AMReal response: The average age of people who play video games is 30. I'm 24 and my dad is 47. I play a shit ton and he used to when there were good new games to play together. You're never too old to have fun. You need to understand why she is putting this pressure on you. Is there really some cultural standard that says when to stop playing video games and she is embarrassed? Or do you act like an idiot while you play? Yelling and screaming, asking for her to make you food as you play for 8 hours straight? How much time do you put into this hobby? How many days a week? Does it get in the way of your other duties both spoken and unspoken? #1 tell her it is your hobby and you intend to maintain this into old age and this has been your plan since X years old. #2 Ask if she really thinks you've outgrown it or if theres another reason. #3 what would she have you do with your time instead? #4 Do what she wants and feel it. Your misery will or potential happiness might affect her. I dont know either of you but this is what I would do. Good luck.
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1 ReplyThe other day, I saw a thread post from an 76 year old man who plays destiny on a Xbox one. I think you're fine.
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NEVER TO OLD
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My father's 45 and i'm 18 and we game together lol
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You are never too old.
