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11/9/2015 12:39:23 AM
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How do you get out of social anxiety?
I've had this anxiety my whole life never had a close friend or fit in with a group, I try to talk to people and its nerve racking and I end up stuttering.
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1 ReplyI don't fit into any social norms either. I find myself bouncing between the empty spaces of each group's sphere of influence, and there's only one sort that I've gotten the closest to calling 'home'. But that's just not me. I've been too used to performing solo pieces in life in terms of identifying my character. My group is the people out there like me, always moving but with no stable 'faction' to settle upon. There aren't a lot of us, if anyone can relate, and we're all spread out, distant from another. In terms of social encounters, I don't make lots of eye contact, and I have trouble starting even basic communication. Most of that is just me, I suppose. But when someone gets me into a topic I can go on about, like this one for example, I pounce on the opportunity. It's difficult stuff, trust me. I used to take meds for the depression and anxiety, but they made things worse, so I've just done my best over the years with my therapist to overcome these things using intellect and adaptive skills. I'm a lot better in social interactions now than I was, but even today I feel alienated constantly at times.
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1 ReplyI've been in a similar situation for the last 5-6 years. And before that I just wasn't generally confident anyway, just not anxious about it. Well, maybe nervous sometimes, but I didn't overthink it then like I've done since. What happened? A woman.
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Edited by ShapelessHorr0r: 11/12/2015 12:37:16 PMHow to confidence: 1) Talk with people online. This removes the pressure of maintaining friends. 2) Talk to people about topics you really enjoy. This allows you to have a lot of content in your side of the conversation. 3) talk talk talk. Never stop talking to people. [u]Say hello. Smile. [/u] 4) Look for people who are generally nice to everyone. 5) DONT EXPECT IMMEDIATE RESULTS
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1 ReplyCaffeine...
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Same. Mainly cuz I'm homeschooled. So I'm not really around other people often.
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I don't.
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I always get way more comfortable around people when I'm able to actually do things rather than just sit and talk. Board games, video games, watching sports, building things or doing projects, working, etc. Or if you are just going to talk, go to places where the talking is officially supposed to be about a subject, and have things to say about that subject (like a group project, Bible class, book club or something). It makes it easier because it's less about you as a person and more about what's going on around you. (Men are generally more uneasy in face to face interactions, we evolved to be side-by-side.)
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I yell out: [i]"I didn't expect the Spanish Inquisition!"[/i]
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Because you opened this. you will get kissed on Friday by the person you love or like. Tomorrow will be the best day of your life. Do not break this chain. You have 2 minutes this is not a fake...apparently. Forward this to 15 people in the next 15 minutes and you WILL have the best day of your life tomorrow. You're number one crush will either KISS, ask you out, or call you. If you break this chain, the little girl named Kaitlyn who died 2 years ago on a car crash will be in your room TONIGHT! Good luck <<3, and your time starts, right know No Cheatin
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3 RepliesGet drunk. Works for me.
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2 Replies[quote]420blazeit[/quote]
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My best advice would be to practice social interaction with other people and maybe talk to your doctor about it. Also just find a way to calm down before approaching someone and know that things are alright.
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Eventually, you'll expire
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If i had an answer to give you would be the first to hear it.
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11 RepliesGetting over social anxiety disorder, or any anxiety really, is like explaining to someone without it why you can't get over it and them fully understanding. It's not possible. You can cope and enjoy life more and more each day you work to overcome it. But it will always be with you. I would suggest talking to someone. A professional or even just someone who feels the same way.
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1 ReplySocial anxiety is a bitch. An absolute piece of shit that takes alot to deal with. You'll get there.
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Edited by BKU Mako: 11/10/2015 6:51:00 PMMeditation, medication, and a hell of a lot of effort. It's not something you just get over. That, or just avoid your triggers.
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I just hide myself until people talk with me offline tbh
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Alcohol.
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Alcohol.
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Find someone who doesn't care that you have social anxiety and it will slowly go away. I should know. My sister had horrible anxiety problems until she made some new friends and then a year later she can go up to anyone and just start talking to them
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Do some shit. Get out there and realize that it doesn't matter so much. You can always move on. Finding the right people to mesh with is pretty important. I tend to get on well with everyone but only became that way over time. Part of it is getting out of your own head more. You could probably do with some enriching experiences, but the most important thing... Is just to do a thing. If you're serious in your approach and realize [spoiler]I'm introverted and don't even really care for hanging out with friends [b]ever[/b], but once I settle in it's usually for the better. I'm my biggest problem; I just have to do it and go. Seeing people once-a-week outside of work for an evening is pretty much my limit.[/spoiler]
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Will you be my friend? [spoiler]im being serious [/spoiler]
