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9/14/2017 4:34:56 PM
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[quote]I was suggesting, not commanding. I could read the room. I just think it's dumb to treat any situation special. To me, this is just another forum post. And I do not seek negative attention. I actually thought people would ignore me[/quote]
If you thought people would ignore you, why did you even post a reply? If you didn't want ANY attention then you wouldn't have posted anything at all. The whole point of POSTING anything is for others to read it (i.e. attention) If you expected no attention you would have kept your "opinions" insights to yourself.
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No. I expected people to read my comment, but not to reply. I was DEAD wrong, obviously. But I posted this so the OP would see it(idk if he did or not). I made my suggestions, and forgot about it. And now I have a bunch of people saying yelling at me, a lot of them don't even know what they're talking about.
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So basically you were so disinterested and unconcerned about this thread that you decided to take the time to compose a post and publish it for no reaction, and then forget about it. And then in the post, as a sociopath, your suggestion to someone who is apparently not a sociopath is that they should react to the situation as you, a sociopath would react. Is this part of your sociopathic pathology? And I'm not yelling at you by the way, I as a non-sociopath myself am just trying to figure out the purpose of your post. It was directed to the op, whether they read it or not, to what: be helpful, hurtful, indifferent, what? And to the op, this "not for attention" post has not completely hijacked your thread. I've never lost anyone to suicide which I'm sure adds another level of pain to your grief. I have lost loved ones though, as recently as 3 years ago and as long as 20 years ago. I empathize with you in the grieving process. It can hit you at unexpected times and in unexpected ways. It still affects me at times from over 2 decades ago. As a previous reply said, there is no right or wrong way to deal with it. I'll just say, I'm glad you were able to find some solace in this creative form of entertainment we all enjoy. Take comfort where you can find it and enjoy the things no matter how big or small that can bring you a little joy and peace of mind.
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The purpose of my post was to be helpful. I find it annoying when people start talking about how sad they feel. Especially when it has to do with grief(like in the OP) or depression. So I tried to be helpful and provide a way to solve the problem so he would stop.
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So your suggestion to remedy the situation was "be sociopathic, like me"? But you said that it was something you are genetically predisposed to. Where is the logic in suggesting the op change their genetics, you already said you can't change yours. And when you said the purpose was to be helpful did you mean helpful to yourself or the op? Your lack of empathy would suggest that you have no intention of trying to "help" someone who is grieving. So what were you trying to help him do, shut up about it so that it would stop annoying you?
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Getting over, and forgetting about someone's death isn't necessarily sociopathic. There's another guy in this thread who moved on and he want sociopathic. So no, my solution was not to "be sociopathic like me". To answer your other question, yes, help him shut up about it. The best way to do this is if get over his friends death. I was trying to make him shut up by helping him.
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So what was the purpose of your helping him again?
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Bearbeitet von NotPocky: 9/14/2017 9:23:27 PMTo Make him shut up.
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Make him shut up to end your annoyance?
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[quote]Make him shut up to end your annoyance?[/quote] No. He already made the post. I was already annoyed by it. It was to Make him shut up to end future annoyance.
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Ok right, future annoyance (semantics). My point is why didn't you just say that in your first post to the op. Why beat around the bush?
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I didn't beat around the bush. I made my suggestions and ended my post there
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But the true nature of your post was to end YOUR future annoyance, no one else seemed annoyed (not that that would be a consideration anyway) not to necessarily be helpful to the op. So why not just say that? No need for any guile here right? Was not the true intent to "help" yourself?
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Because no one would listen to that. When you ask someone to do something, you don't say it's for you. You make it seem like it's good for them to. And how is getting over his friends death not helpful to him? You think it's a good thing to cry when ever you presented with memories?
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[quote]All of what you said is correct. In real life I am superficial charming and nice. I show fake empathy and sympathy, and take advantage of others empathy. But there is no reason to do that on here. Nobody on website can give me anything I want, so their is no reason to act. There's nothing to take advantage of on here, so why be fake? In real life you are 100% correct. On here however you are not. Thanks for having a reasonable argument. Almost every other person who replied to me had no -blam!-ing idea what they were talking about, but you do. You understand.[/quote] But you said in this post: "But there is no reason to do that on here. Nobody on website can give me anything I want, so their is no reason to act. There's nothing to take advantage of on here, so why be fake?" - So why the attempted manipulation of the op by couching it in language you think he will listen to. You said yourself there is no advantage to be gained on here, so why be fake as you put it? Why not just be blunt about your desire for him to shut up?
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Bearbeitet von NotPocky: 9/15/2017 11:57:52 AMBecause at that point there is no reason to listen to me. The fact I want shouldn't be important to him. The fact that it helps him is. I wasn't manipulating him. I was making a suggestion. Big difference. I wasn't being fake and superficial either. I gave my opinion, and suggestions, then ended my post. There is nothing to gain from being superficial on here. But there is to gain trying to get someone to listen to you, because they might actually listen to you. That's all I did. And besides, there is something to gain here. The end of future annoyance.
