{{
`${userDetail.user.displayName}${userDetail.user.cachedBungieGlobalDisplayNameCode ? `#${standardizeBungieGlobalCode(userDetail.user.cachedBungieGlobalDisplayNameCode)}` : ""}`}}
{{getUserClans()}}
Bearbeitet von irishfreak:
12/17/2015 10:32:04 PM
699
Girlfriend wants to "take a break"
So I've dated this girl for 4 years. We survived a long distance relationship in college seeing eachother once every two months during the semesters. We are both 23 years old.
So I try to talk about the future. For example:marriage, children, and our careers. She freaks out and says she doesn't know anything.
So this goes on. I bring it up every couple of weeks or she won't think about it. Finally last night we sit down and talk about it. She still doesn't really know what she wants though.
After 4 years I'm thinking she owes me this much at least so we can either move on from here. So she says she wants a break for a week or two. I reluctantly accept.
So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Don't know what to do and I'm pretty sad.
Advice is appreciated
Edit: so majority say she's banging another dude. If that is the case I have no problem breaking it off and making her feel like shit about it. But I won't know for a couple of weeks until I pop that question. Secondly regarding this, there does require trust while this is happening which I have so I want to believe in her. And as far as I know we were virgins when we stated dating and I was given no reason to believe she has cheated on me thus far.
Next most common is that she's prepping the break up. Here I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. And I'm definitely not gonna cheat on her ever unless we are officially over.
It's all making me anxious but I have to wait a couple weeks to find out. Appreciate all the responses, whether genuine or jokey
-
-
It's a wrap dude. There's no coming back from a break.
-
2 AntwortenOP, this your future self: Run like hell and just forget about her. She's already moved on. The sooner you accept that and cut her out forever, the happier and healthier you'll be. She may come back when the guy she's currently ditching you for treats her poorly, but nothing will change, she'll never be a good spouse. You clearly can't trust her. The longer you waste on her, the less likely you are to find that special woman who will make you and your happiness one of her top priorities. She's out there. Go find her. You'll regret every moment you wasted on this current bitch that doesn't have the character to be honest with you. Tl;dr : it's over and she's already banging other dudes. Move on and find the right one. Get mad, get running, get to the gym, improve yourself.
-
Do it and never look back
-
Honestly, she may just need some time to herself, and that's it.
-
I'm sure u know but posting something like this here will get u a lot of stupid responses (she's bangin another dude) from ppl who probably aren't over the age of 30, don't get out much, and have little to no experience in relationships. No offense btw lol Ok so sounds like you've put yourself out there and are leaving it up to her now. I wouldn't do that. In my experience long distance relationships don't work. If things have progressed from there though and you've told her what u did and she didn't show she felt the same then move on. You're young and so is she. If it's going to work it just will. As for whether or not there's cheating who knows. She isn't worth the worrying if she would do that anyway and you'll just be paranoid and driving yourself nuts and pushing ppl away if you do worry so much about it. Just tell her that you're ok with w/e she does so long as you're both open and honest about it so you're not both just waisting time and so that you both know if it will actually work out or not. I mean stuff like that comes out on its own anyway - eventually. Never be the only one chasing/the only one trying to make it work. Other than that hope for the best and have fun.
-
That means its time for Destiny
-
4 AntwortenA) you sound like the woman and she sounds like the man. B) you were a virgin at 19?
-
Bang her and all the problems will go
-
4 AntwortenPlot Twist she's pregnant with your baby
-
I is a TadPaul
-
Bearbeitet von Wow I Jake: 12/18/2015 1:15:26 AM
-
2 AntwortenWE WERE ON A BREAKK!!!
-
Dump her. Clichés are there for a reason: because they actually exist and happen a lot.
-
I'm going with you're pushing a girl to lock down with you only after a few months of dating Try living together XD see if you don't want to kill each other after a few months. That's a keeper.
-
4 Antworten*sits in a polished black leather chair* "I understand the break, it can be an important choice to decide wether you stay together or not but... She already doesnt see you on monthly intervals, and she would like a 'break'... Ask if she is with another guy, if so do whatever, if not and she doesnt want to continue ask if there is anything that can be changed for her to help her feel more comfortable. If all else fails, have one final date, make it happy and enjoyable, have sex, and tell her you had a good time with her and you are happy she is happy to try a new fate."
-
4 years!? WTF were you doing? You waited too damn long. Women know what they want, and when they know a guy will sit around waiting- they're going to take advantage of that. You sound like a pushover TBH. I get you wanted to not pressure her or wait for her to tell you herself how she feels but 4 years? Really? You might as well man up and ask her what she wants out of this relationship and if she sees you two together and if it's not the same as yours then leave. You're still young, don't waste your time on someone who's not gonna stick around at the end. Trust me, you'll regret it when the right one comes. [i]if[/i] she does. The only way you will know if you ask!
-
My ex and I were like that for a couple years then she decided she needed a break to sort something out... Turns out that something was her decision to leave me for the other dude she started to date or just stay with me. After I found that out it was a short conversation.... Of course every situation is different but thats my story with this infamous "break" bs
-
Too be honest, an answer like that is never good, when girls get all worried about commitment, there's a major problem no matter which way you roll the die, she's either already doing something and has something to hide, or she's "not ready" and she's not done hoeing yet, so have a talk with her, a real intense one, and make sure you're not getting strung along because you're the only one who cares for her because she's her
-
2 AntwortenHave you tried sparrow racing?
-
Just bite the bullet and pop the question
-
Maybe you shouldn't be talking about marriage and kids during a long-distance relationship?? Has it ever occurred to you that not everybody is super anxious to lock themselves into a legal contract and get tied down? Dude, you guys were seeing each other with month(s) intervals... The years don't matter, you guys clearly weren't close to that point, and you successfully scared her away. She could be cheating, but that isn't even close to the only answer. I say it's you.
-
Bearbeitet von Bobby Maybury: 12/17/2015 11:21:34 PMYou should move on. Because she doesn't want to continue further after 4 years and she's indecisive like that. Those breaks are sketchy too. She's probably not too faithful although I don't want to say that because it's a terrible thing but she's being distant and doesn't want to move on with the relationship. Red flag
-
2 Antworten-blam!- man. My fiance and I have been having troubles lately. We've been 2 gether with 2 beautiful children for 5 years now. And man when she threatened me to leave because of my Xbox. I decided it was time to give destiny a break. I played for the first time last night since hard mode came out. Just saying.. I need somewhere to vent.
-
Just gonna be straight with you, dude. It's pretty likely she's just using this as an excuse to go bang someone else and is probably using the two weeks to get ready to tell you that it's over. At the very least, she's just getting ready to tell you that she wants to move on. Just start steeling yourself, dude. It's more than likely not going to work out in your favor. I'm sorry to say that.
-
Hmm sounds like something I've heard before...[spoiler]Friends anyone? WE WERE ON A BREAK!!![/spoiler]
