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Bearbeitet von irishfreak:
12/17/2015 10:32:04 PM
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Girlfriend wants to "take a break"
So I've dated this girl for 4 years. We survived a long distance relationship in college seeing eachother once every two months during the semesters. We are both 23 years old.
So I try to talk about the future. For example:marriage, children, and our careers. She freaks out and says she doesn't know anything.
So this goes on. I bring it up every couple of weeks or she won't think about it. Finally last night we sit down and talk about it. She still doesn't really know what she wants though.
After 4 years I'm thinking she owes me this much at least so we can either move on from here. So she says she wants a break for a week or two. I reluctantly accept.
So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Don't know what to do and I'm pretty sad.
Advice is appreciated
Edit: so majority say she's banging another dude. If that is the case I have no problem breaking it off and making her feel like shit about it. But I won't know for a couple of weeks until I pop that question. Secondly regarding this, there does require trust while this is happening which I have so I want to believe in her. And as far as I know we were virgins when we stated dating and I was given no reason to believe she has cheated on me thus far.
Next most common is that she's prepping the break up. Here I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. And I'm definitely not gonna cheat on her ever unless we are officially over.
It's all making me anxious but I have to wait a couple weeks to find out. Appreciate all the responses, whether genuine or jokey
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Go see Star Wars, it'll make you feel better
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-blam!- breaks, she gonna -blam!- another man. She ain't ready to commit, then she's ready to cheat.
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1 AntwortenMy advice. Don't do long distance relationships.
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2 AntwortenI'm going to say this again, because most of the majority here obviously haven't had very much luck with relationships. Or they are being more of a dick than usual. I am also in a 4 year relationship that was once broken off; we've already accepted to marry. My advice is to wait, but prepare for the worst; a lot of times, when I was thinking the way the majority do, she would prove me completely wrong and only make me fall in love with her more. The majority either have had bad experiences or are simply assholes. Waiting can be worth it, but prepare for the worst. Not too much, though; stress destroys the brain.
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Wait a minute there was an episode about this on Friends... You are going to go crazy and your new catch phrase will be "WE WERE ON A BREAK!!"
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"We were on a break!" -Ross
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1 AntwortenWhen they say things like that they still usually "Love" you, but they are feeling insecure about the relationship, themselves etc. Or it might just be they are getting fed up seeing your face, and arguing every day... What you first need to do is "Set a date" and stick to it. Say something like after a month and if she can't decide to get back together. Then you need to walk away. During this time you need to starve her for attention.. So no phones calls, no emails, no dropping by to say hi. Cut her off cold turkey. This way it will actually make her miss you more then you, her. And she will likely be the one that calls you first.. (Seriously!! Women sometimes have the temperaments of a cat, and ignoring them will make them try harder)
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Solution: send her a snickers in the mail
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" If yo havin grill problems I feel bad fo you son...."
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She definitely banging somebody else man.
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I see no reason she'd want to "take a break" unless she just wants to -blam!- around with other guys. Being with only one person for that long probably makes her feel like she's missing out on things. Especially if she's never been with another guy. She's either gonna -blam!- someone else and regret it or most likely WANT TO EXPERIENCE FUN. Some people just dont like being tied down. MY advice to you is take advantage of this and go get some ladies. That's just my opinion, I've never had a relationship that long or want to get married any time soon. Good luck.
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Long distance is hard. She just may not be ready to be tied to a official relationship (marriage). She wants a break? Please if she really loved and appropriated you keeping this going long distance she wouldn't need a break. You are not a stranger but a 4 year partner why cant she just say she isnt ready? She is taking the break to put it words. I find the break cruel after all that time together, dont over think things it will only make awaiting worse, best of luck.
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Might aswell go on plenty of fish and find a new chick who doesn't have comitment issues.
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No offense but maybe not bring up the subject so often and let her decide on her own time. If you can't accept that she may not know for another 4 more years then you should probably move on and forget her. 2 people can be together without having to plan the future beforehand. My gf and I been together for almost 3 years and we kinda just live by the moment and it works out fine
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time to get out the pail of ice cream
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Cheating.
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Throw her in a well and get a lot of lotion for her skin. The well must be in you basement.
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Sounds like your girlfriend has a side dude
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Some one say my name :o
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3 AntwortenBearbeitet von EL: 12/17/2015 11:17:53 PMHas anybody seen bob?
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I think she feels uncomfortable about the "children" part. Maybe she doesn't feel like getting super serious yet. Her cheating is a possibility but I wouldn't dwell on it too much. Just give her some time. Show her you respect her decisions.
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Rip the dream
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Dump her. You've just been back burnered. There's no going backwards in a relationship. Only forward. There are somewhere around 4,000,000,000 women on the planet, so there's no sense in getting twisted over this one.
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One of my close friends had a fairly similar situation, his girlfriend wanted a break, and about 3 months later she came back to be with him and now they are getting married next year. What's meant to happen will happen, keep a positive mindset, and don't worry yourself too much. Lifes to short for it. Wish you the best.
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Like a Christmas break or a break in your relationship? Because breaks don't work in relationships, it's usually break up prep and or wanting someone else
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