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Bearbeitet von irishfreak:
12/17/2015 10:32:04 PM
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Girlfriend wants to "take a break"
So I've dated this girl for 4 years. We survived a long distance relationship in college seeing eachother once every two months during the semesters. We are both 23 years old.
So I try to talk about the future. For example:marriage, children, and our careers. She freaks out and says she doesn't know anything.
So this goes on. I bring it up every couple of weeks or she won't think about it. Finally last night we sit down and talk about it. She still doesn't really know what she wants though.
After 4 years I'm thinking she owes me this much at least so we can either move on from here. So she says she wants a break for a week or two. I reluctantly accept.
So I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Don't know what to do and I'm pretty sad.
Advice is appreciated
Edit: so majority say she's banging another dude. If that is the case I have no problem breaking it off and making her feel like shit about it. But I won't know for a couple of weeks until I pop that question. Secondly regarding this, there does require trust while this is happening which I have so I want to believe in her. And as far as I know we were virgins when we stated dating and I was given no reason to believe she has cheated on me thus far.
Next most common is that she's prepping the break up. Here I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. And I'm definitely not gonna cheat on her ever unless we are officially over.
It's all making me anxious but I have to wait a couple weeks to find out. Appreciate all the responses, whether genuine or jokey
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Only time I've ever wanted a break at that age ( give or take 3 years) is when another girl would be willing to jump my bone if I were single.... Break entered, bang/get to know new girl, make decision on either A) completely leave old girl and continue with new... Or B) stop banging new girl, go back into relationship having enjoyed my hall pass.
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Do other people think of you as a couple? Are there signs that she's acting different?
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Bearbeitet von vxvrxvxn: 12/19/2015 1:11:04 AMJust cuck my shit up fam
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Pay the cab and get the hell out of dodge, she wants to break up but is afraid of hurting your feelings, that's all.
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2 AntwortenMy girlfriend wanted a break, too...... So i chocked her
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Break her neck
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Maby she just wants to take [u]her[/u] life one step at a time. Not everyone wants to get married and have kids the minute they get out of college. Some people never get married and they maintain healthy relationships with a significant other. Maby she has anxiety about what her life will be like and constantly asking her definitely won't solve it for her. Is there a chance she's sleeping with someone? Yes, but from what I'm reading it seems like she just needs some breathing room. In a relationship you can't just think about your future or even "our" future because there could be a chance that "our" becomes yours again. What I'm saying is try to see it from her point of view. And that could be hard because you can't just go ask what she wants out of life because she might not even know herself. Best of luck and try not to smother her, nothing ruins a relationship faster than that
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[quote] but I have to wait a couple weeks to find out. [/quote]No you don't. Man up. If you're not getting what you want out of the relationship, and she's not contributing, it's time to move on.
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All I have to say is prepare yourself to be let down so if I were you I would look around for other woman to get her jealous.
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Your first mistake is thinking that she owes you anything at this point.
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2 AntwortenMy advice: Prepare for the worst so when it happens, you're not disappointed.
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Kill her
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1 AntwortenCould be worse. I mean imagine if you had a kid with her and [spoiler]that kid grew up to be a sith who kills you[/spoiler] but at least you're not [spoiler]Han Solo[/spoiler]
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Break up with her. Its as simple as that, that way if you figure out she was seeing someone else you will be glad you did. But if she wasn't then you can always get back together if you really love each other. Breaking up is better for you to cause you can see other girls without feeling guilty about it.
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GirldFriend wants to try another dick. Copy that, and paste in the title. I FTFY
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Give her the week and if shes not sure or not wanting to have what you want, break up.
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The issue is probably that at 23 she's not ready to plan out the rest of her life. Can't blame her. I'm very different at 33 to how I was 10 years ago. Respect this, and you'd be okay, but you've pushed too hard and now she's probably pushing you away as a result.
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Bearbeitet von FeboFourtyTwo: 12/18/2015 5:59:33 PMGet a doge and move to alaska. ;D GL bruv Edit: If you really love her or love her at all believe in her and maybe next week or next time you see her she'll get over whatever shes goin through. You only grow through anguish.<3
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Please stop giving princess anomaly attention guys.
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Uh-oh it could be Sancho
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Just make sure the glove don't fit, then they HAVE to acquit :D
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Yea she met another dude or you being too pushy drove her away. Good job.
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Dude that really sucks. Hope it turns out well for you no matter what happens
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I'm not saying this is necessarily the case, but a lot of times when someone wants a break it's because there's someone else. They may not be cheating on you but they might be thinking about it, at the least. Personally, I think the whole taking a break thing is childish because it's bullshit to play games like that. People who are meant to be together don't do that. Either way, I'm sure you'll find out when you guys talk again but it sounds like she needs to grow up.
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She wants to take a break? Tell her to eat a Kit-Kat!
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Go see Star Wars, it'll make you feel better
