WARNING:I have bad grammar so just reply DAT GRAMMAR THO if you have a problem with it.
So I play Destiny of course and enjoy my time on Destiny especially this week with patch 2.0 up!Sadly my grandmother has been bugging me about me being addicted for many years and not giving me a break and allowing me to play Destiny because she believes im addicted.I was addicted to Halo when I was 6 I must admit and she took my Xbox 360 away from me a few years later.I got a PlayStation 3 at 2014 and enjoyed playing Destiny but my grandmother jumped in shortly after me getting one and got scared that I was gonna get addicted again.She told me I couldn't play it on the weekend's but never cared to talk to me about it or give some good explanation why.I started going to therapy for my addiction on Xbox and continue to go there because my grandma continues to think I'm addicted to Destiny.She made some points saying how I don't get off when I'm told to because I'm doing an activity when she tells me too and I expect her to respect what im doing and say something like 30 more minutes then turn it off but she just comes in my room and tells me to lock it off and when I say "I'm almost done grandma."she begins to yell at me just for saying those words.Her only real excuses that I can try my best to point out really are-
·School
·What she says go's
·You don't get off when I tell you too!
I try to talk to her about it but she doesn't care and is too ignorant to talk about games all she really is interested in are grades and I'm already doing good in school and she tells me to go pick up a book even though I'm not interested in reading books at home.So today I sat next to her and talked to her and she ignored me but I carried in talking for about 30 minutes until she actually cracked but all she said was the exact same thing she always says when I manage to get her to crack."Whatever I say go's."I talk to her saying that's unfair and not a very good decision.I'll just show you our conversation
Me:Grandma can we talk about the game and why I feel as its a good idea for me to play it throughout the week?Becau-
Grandma:(Cuts me off)NO!NO!NO!
Me:Why is you buggin?
Mom:You don't talk like that to your elders
Grandma:Exactly
Me:I was kidding but seriously grandma can we talk about it?
Grandma:No!We've spoken about this and I've said many time whatever I say go's!
Me:That's not good decision not to.give much reason on why you act like this to me Grandma.I just want to play my game throughout the weekend and I enjoy it but when I want to talk about it you just ignore me.
Grandma:You understand but I don't.
Me:That made no sense at all,you're basically telling me that you don't understand why I like it but I understand why I like it but because you don't understand I can't play it?
Grandma:(Ignores)
Me:Grandma I just want to enjoy my time and play my game and you think it wouldn't work because of school but I actually have a reason explaining why it would be a good idea!If you let me play my game I might just not be obseesed with playing it on the weekend's.You leave me without my game and I can't chill out and enjoy my time the way I would want to enjoy my time because I enjoy playing it.But I'm becoming obseesed with the game because of this and your just thinking about the bad things not the good ones so why don't you allow me to play it throughout the week so I won't be obsessed with it.You know since I know I can play it another day..
Grandma:I don't want you on that game at all because I said so.If you touch that game I will rip the cords out and throw it out the window.
Me:You're being too ignorant about this grandma.You should be a better guardian/parent and just compromise with me.
Mom:My head's hurting me because of you.All you keep talking about is the game
Me:Well since you're my mother you should be backing me up on this and understanding what im talking about!
Grandma:Just get out my face,I'm trying to watch TV
Me:You never let me have my own opinion!Why can't you just be reasonable and actually compromise with me?!
Grandma:Isn't this compromising?
Me:*Facepalm* No...
Grandma:Well this is the best you're gonna get
Me:I have a family of unreasonable assholes...*Runs into room*
My grandma called my father and I never really wanted to talk to my father cause he'll just kick my ass and the guy f*cking scares me sometimes.Saying that I'm worthless like my mother when I mess up something when he's angry.I talked to him and all he said was "No game on school days.Go on your phone or watch television end of discussion."So he didn't help at all and I just felt as if nothing that I say can change anything in the house.I remember when my aunt was the age I am now she gave her own opinion but I can't.I cried in frustration wishing I had a better guardian who can just compromise with me other then school but even with the game and can just respect me and respect the game even if you don't like it in a conversation
Well there it is,I had to let everything out and not let it out to my therapist since she isn't helping.By the way I live with my grandmother instead of living with my parents due to my parents domestic violence.
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#Destiny
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20 AntwortenTHIS TOPIC IS NOW ABOUT CANDY! What is your favorite candy?
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4 AntwortenIf she is saying "U play 2 much" and unplugs console U say "U live 2 long" and unplug life support
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Bearbeitet von Merica1216: 9/14/2015 5:08:47 AMOk man find something your grandma really like doing and take it away and say you can have it back if unless I can play games or threaten to break what she likes and if she threatens to break your console idk man or just take your console and hide it from her then take what she likes so she has no leverage on you
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5 Antworten>get a job as soon as you can > when you can get an apartment >get a scholarship to some university >get a PHD >get rich >say no when they ask you for money >play in front of their face
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Damn bro☺ keep ur head up and get out of there as soon as you legally can do.
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7 AntwortenIf my parents and grandparents were like that to me, ignoring me and breaking my stuff when I bought it with my money...that would not happen. I understand respect your elders, but people cannot treat you that way. It is a different time. Her reason is simple, she doesn't want you to. She doesn't want your life like that. That's fine, but she is so used to her era about people listening to her "because she said so". You aren't an idiot. You can see past the bullshit. Now I've never had a problem with domestic violence and I'm certainly not going to talk like I know, but you have to stand up for yourself. You aren't a kid anymore(based on your logic), and you have to show them that. Man listening to your story makes me want to talk to them about what you can and can't do. I get ignored all the time so I know how that is, but family ignoring you?! That's seriously -blam!-ed up. I'm actually pissed off from what I read. I hate seeing people who get there stuff broken and feelings hurt from their families. The parents say they do it for you but give no reasoning. I understand that they don't want you on it. That's fine. I understand that they don't want you to get obsessed. That's fine. I understand that they want school to be a priority. That's fine. What I don't understand is that if you seem like your on top of your shit and have yourself figured out, why can't they let you play the -blam!-ing game for an hour or two. (I mean if your on it all day on the weekends then I can understand the frustration they have, but if you barely play it and they say that shit, then there are a hell of a lot more people problems than I thought. I guess they also missed the part where there has been SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE that games have hundreds of things that are good for you. Yes too much is bad for you. But you learn A SHIT TON of info from games. All the thinking required for all the tactics in multiplayer war games. In battlefield I feel like I'm in the -blam!-ing military. (Obviously you only know what it's like if you were there. God bless our troops). I should stop. I'm getting too frustrated. Sigh. I feel for you man. If you ever need something, either in destiny or just want to talk, I'll help you out in any way I can. Stay strong guardian.
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5 AntwortenAlso, you should draw the Destiny logo on your grandmothers tombstone ;)
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1 AntwortenHonestly, you've clocked in about 28 days into Destiny. Don't you think you really should be taking a break. Often times you parents are just trying to do what's best for you.
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Well damn m8. I just have respect for you surviving. This moves past destiny dude, you gotta think past destiny and work to get away from your family! Find a nice girl, get a job in high school AND study hard. After that, gtfo and away from your family. Destinys gonna be here for ten years. Times to play will pop up, trust me.
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1 AntwortenSo you need destiny to live?
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2 AntwortenI had a similar situation, and honestly it's not that bad. It's good for grades, and Destiny won't matter in 10 years. Grades will
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If grandma can't be reasoned with try earning time - It's something she may be able to relate to - if you do some kind of work for her in an agreement that you earned 2 hours of play time perhaps she may come around . If what she says goes than give her the power of a compromise - like she's grandma right - spend some time with her doing something she wants you to do - then spend time doing something you both enjoy - then when she wants to get away from you go play ur game then .. And know she won't bug you cuz you spent at least 2/3 of your time helping her , learning something that she thinks is useful . I'm not trying to say be your g ma's slave but show her your good in school and love her and want to help her in her life too , then maybe she'll feel shitty for not respecting yours ... Also give it time - At first you may want to prove that you will spend time working hard and helping her and keeping a head in school in mon , tues , wed , for 3/5 days of the week . Then on Thursday and Friday Friday Saturday you do all 3 g'ma help / g'ma quality time / a little gaming b4 bed . I dunno but it looks like your going to have to prove to g'ma that you love her more than XBOX
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Well, damn. I can understand your dilemma, though I've never been in that real position. I wish I could offer advice but if you wanted to maintain your image, I doubt my limited advice would help. At all.
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You know what kid I know exactly how you feel. I'm an adult now but as a kid my dad was a complete ass and simply didn't allow me to play any games at all, especially the ones I loved, simply to not allow me to do it. I'd be given a console for Christmas only to never be allowed to play for whatever made up reason. My brother could always play all he wanted but never me and eventually I was "banned for life". And it wasn't like some problem child either I was always top of my class with straight A's, I was polite to people and I felt like a good person and to this day know I was. But because of how he was he saw how much I fell in love with halo and took it away from me. And for so many years I was obsessed with halo. Its all I wanted to do and all I talked about. It got to the point where I'd sneak into my brothers room at night breaking the lock my dad had put on the door just to play halo 2. And then I got caught shoplifting halo 3 in high school. To this day he doesn't know I ever ended up buying it eventually. Even when I turned 18 and was at home for a while he still refused even though everyone else in my family helped me play behind his back. My point is him taking something I was so passionate about away from me did something to me and I can understand why you feel the way you do in say that you're addicted or obsessed as I'd rather say. I know what you mean by feeling like you have to play every chance you can get. But you can't let it get you bud. If you're in high school just ride it out till you can get your own place or even move in with a friend and trust me idk if you've bought your own console yet or not but when I bought my very own ps4/Xbox one when they came out it felt amazing to know that no one could take it away from me.
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Bearbeitet von KeesDeWerper: 9/14/2015 12:02:52 AMMaybe you should find another addiction, one that isnt so time consuming. I heard crack is a blast. Also sounds like your grandma doesnt have time to explain why theres is no time to explain.
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9 AntwortenWell, after reading the whole thing: •Sorry about your parents •Quit whining about not being able to play games •Based on your writing, I'm assuming you're 12, or at least don't pay attention in school. Maybe you shouldn't play games. •It's a game, it shouldn't matter this much. •Why are you venting on a forum? Vent to your friends, or somebody who cares. •Just get over it. You can't always live exactly how you want.
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4 AntwortenC-can I adopt you?
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2 AntwortenOMG. No wonder the world is going to crap. Listen to your Gma and go to school. Maybe you will even learn how to write.
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1 AntwortenIf tongue punch her right in the fart box if I were you..
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1 AntwortenPee on them to show dominance
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3 AntwortenGo read a book or hangout with some friends or girls, or go pick up some sort of physical activity. Don't coop yourself up and play Destiny all the time, man, life's a big beautiful place meant to be enjoyed and video games can inhibit that most of the time
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1 Antworten[quote]I got a PlayStation 3 at 2014[/quote] I lol'd at this
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1 AntwortenAct depressed and try to kill yourself in front of them they'll change (hopefully)
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Were you 6 in 2006 by chance?
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Maybe she's concerned that you'd use video games as an outlet to work out confusion or anger from your history with domestic abuse. Also maybe, you should be in therapy because of the domestic abuse [i]not[/i] a [b]perceived[/b] addiction to video games. Also maybe you should realize while you still have time to correct your course that playing video games is largely unproductive. Focus on your long-term future instead of your next raid.
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Bad grammar or bad grandma? Joke, respect your elders.