WARNING:I have bad grammar so just reply DAT GRAMMAR THO if you have a problem with it.
So I play Destiny of course and enjoy my time on Destiny especially this week with patch 2.0 up!Sadly my grandmother has been bugging me about me being addicted for many years and not giving me a break and allowing me to play Destiny because she believes im addicted.I was addicted to Halo when I was 6 I must admit and she took my Xbox 360 away from me a few years later.I got a PlayStation 3 at 2014 and enjoyed playing Destiny but my grandmother jumped in shortly after me getting one and got scared that I was gonna get addicted again.She told me I couldn't play it on the weekend's but never cared to talk to me about it or give some good explanation why.I started going to therapy for my addiction on Xbox and continue to go there because my grandma continues to think I'm addicted to Destiny.She made some points saying how I don't get off when I'm told to because I'm doing an activity when she tells me too and I expect her to respect what im doing and say something like 30 more minutes then turn it off but she just comes in my room and tells me to lock it off and when I say "I'm almost done grandma."she begins to yell at me just for saying those words.Her only real excuses that I can try my best to point out really are-
·School
·What she says go's
·You don't get off when I tell you too!
I try to talk to her about it but she doesn't care and is too ignorant to talk about games all she really is interested in are grades and I'm already doing good in school and she tells me to go pick up a book even though I'm not interested in reading books at home.So today I sat next to her and talked to her and she ignored me but I carried in talking for about 30 minutes until she actually cracked but all she said was the exact same thing she always says when I manage to get her to crack."Whatever I say go's."I talk to her saying that's unfair and not a very good decision.I'll just show you our conversation
Me:Grandma can we talk about the game and why I feel as its a good idea for me to play it throughout the week?Becau-
Grandma:(Cuts me off)NO!NO!NO!
Me:Why is you buggin?
Mom:You don't talk like that to your elders
Grandma:Exactly
Me:I was kidding but seriously grandma can we talk about it?
Grandma:No!We've spoken about this and I've said many time whatever I say go's!
Me:That's not good decision not to.give much reason on why you act like this to me Grandma.I just want to play my game throughout the weekend and I enjoy it but when I want to talk about it you just ignore me.
Grandma:You understand but I don't.
Me:That made no sense at all,you're basically telling me that you don't understand why I like it but I understand why I like it but because you don't understand I can't play it?
Grandma:(Ignores)
Me:Grandma I just want to enjoy my time and play my game and you think it wouldn't work because of school but I actually have a reason explaining why it would be a good idea!If you let me play my game I might just not be obseesed with playing it on the weekend's.You leave me without my game and I can't chill out and enjoy my time the way I would want to enjoy my time because I enjoy playing it.But I'm becoming obseesed with the game because of this and your just thinking about the bad things not the good ones so why don't you allow me to play it throughout the week so I won't be obsessed with it.You know since I know I can play it another day..
Grandma:I don't want you on that game at all because I said so.If you touch that game I will rip the cords out and throw it out the window.
Me:You're being too ignorant about this grandma.You should be a better guardian/parent and just compromise with me.
Mom:My head's hurting me because of you.All you keep talking about is the game
Me:Well since you're my mother you should be backing me up on this and understanding what im talking about!
Grandma:Just get out my face,I'm trying to watch TV
Me:You never let me have my own opinion!Why can't you just be reasonable and actually compromise with me?!
Grandma:Isn't this compromising?
Me:*Facepalm* No...
Grandma:Well this is the best you're gonna get
Me:I have a family of unreasonable assholes...*Runs into room*
My grandma called my father and I never really wanted to talk to my father cause he'll just kick my ass and the guy f*cking scares me sometimes.Saying that I'm worthless like my mother when I mess up something when he's angry.I talked to him and all he said was "No game on school days.Go on your phone or watch television end of discussion."So he didn't help at all and I just felt as if nothing that I say can change anything in the house.I remember when my aunt was the age I am now she gave her own opinion but I can't.I cried in frustration wishing I had a better guardian who can just compromise with me other then school but even with the game and can just respect me and respect the game even if you don't like it in a conversation
Well there it is,I had to let everything out and not let it out to my therapist since she isn't helping.By the way I live with my grandmother instead of living with my parents due to my parents domestic violence.
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#Destiny
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You might want to let your therapist know about what you've shared with us here. It's very emotionally damaging to have your opinion disregarded/ ignored and can lead to a lower confidence level overall. I know how it feels to convey your thoughts and feelings just to have them shot down in an instant. Don't worry too much about what your family is saying; it kinda seems like they're "Debbie downers". It's tough getting that type of treatment at home but just remember as long as you keep your school game tight you can get scholarships to colleges that are nowhere near your family. Now that doesn't mean to disregard them entirely but keep in mind that one day whatever you say goes.
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If you can't go a week without playing, and if you have to binge on the weekends to make up for whatever you didn't play on the week, do you ever stop to think "maybe she's right". I don't play during the week. Why? Because I have shit to do. I have work, practice, and school. So I play on weekends, whenever I have some spare time or something of the like. If you CANNOT tell yourself "I won't play for a month" and enforce that through your own will, you do have a problem.
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2 AntwortenSave your plastic grocery bags from when she goes shopping. Old granny has to sleep sometime. You know what to do.
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Try asking your Grandma to come to an agreement: Limit yourself to one hour a day, and only play on Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday or Sunday. Your Grandma will like that you can control your "addiction". Or Ask your Grandma for a certain amount of time (e.g. 5 hours), and you can have those 5 hours whenever you want. This means that you would have enough time to finish a raid, strike, crucible match e.g.
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4 AntwortenDude, one day she's going to be Nada. Please respect your elders, do what they say. Family is more important, it's a game and I know you enjoy it. I enjoy it too, hell I almost have full raid gear, but that's not it. I listen to my mother, I turn it off before she get's home. Just do as your Grandmother asks. You're going to mourn when she's no more. You're going to weep, to cry, to say sorry after all of that. Just listen to her, dude.
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If you think she's a terrible grandparent, then you have no idea...
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How old are you? I'd tell grandma to go -blam!- herself if she's not your legal parental unit. It's your game and console put that shit on and play whenever you want as long as your homework is done and grades stay up to par. Tell that bitch she can't sit around and watch TV all day if you can't play your game. I swear, some -blam!-ing parents or "elders" are so -blam!-ing close minded and wonder why kids go -blam!-ing crazy and hate them and don't want to listen to them growing up. They have such stupid -blam!-ing rules and are so beyond ignorant, with there power trip bullshit.
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4 AntwortenBearbeitet von Bora: 9/13/2015 7:45:14 PMDude how old r u? I stood up to my stepdad ( i know this isnt relevant) when i was 14 and always pocked a fight with him... Then i ran from home and lived on the streets for a while selling candy to get by. My mother always sided with him but once i left she had realized she had made a mistake... So 3 months later they find me and tell me to come home and me and my stepdad worked it out and i moved back... We still fought but there was more respect on my side. My opinion is if your around 16+ you should sit think and come up with a well thought out plan of showing your family that destiny will help you... For example: id tell them if they dont let me play ill just go to my friends house an smoke weed... And u start leaving and coming home late
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The words addicted and six should never be together
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Gutted mate
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Tl;Dr - forget about video games until you are educated. Don't waste too much time on this stuff while you are being handed an education.
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Nobody cares
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I'm surprised that the punishment is that you are limited to only TV and your phone.
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also, saying you played halo at age 6? How old are you. You must be the youngest obvious troll I've ever seen.
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shes right, you need to focus on your studies and better your grammar skills before you can grind your destiny skills.
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THAT GRAMMAR THO. lol seriously, im sorry about your situation man.
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I also am in school, and I play during the weekdays. I'm in one of the best schools in my state and am in the highest classes possible. I have a 4.0 gpa, but yet my parents do the same thing.
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1 AntwortenIf your living in her house not paying bills you must obey her rules cut and dry. Listen to her you will thank her when you get older.
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You should fill your extra time robbing liquor stores and selling dope. Save your dope money and build a gym. Use steroids to produce an enviable physique and become a famous workout expert but then you fall from grace and lose business when people find out about your juicing. After that you could become a ecig store owner and play games behind the counter.
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I got the feeling while reading that he was going to tell he he's a Nigerian Prince at the end and ask for my help by giving him my bank info. Tough nuts, kid. When your guardians provide for you, they get to decide what they feel is best for you.
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There is a whole lot more going on here than not being able to play games on weekdays. I feel bad for this situation.
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That does kinda suck man. However I can see their side of it also. Best thing you can do is soak up all the knowledge you can right now. We need as many well educated and informed people in this world as we can get. :)
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If you start dropping hints about homes and murder and violence.. Talk about how your strength and start having some random outbursts or beat on someone ... Or just tell her that it relieves stress and that your therapist thinks it's a coping mechanism
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Just kill her...
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Not sure this is the place for airing out family drama. Everyone has got family stuff.
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Although i understand the fact that you can't play on weekdays, i do not agree with her reasoning. I absolutely hate it when my parets say 'because i said so' even if its something im arguing against or not, if they give me an actual reason, i will respect it and try to find a solution for it and actualy try to find something that will make us both happy. This isn't possible with 'because i said so'