(Its a long story, I’ll promise I’ll put a TLDR at the end)
I’ve been friends with this kid since 6th grade. We were both weird, unathletic kids who liked Minecraft and broadcasting class, and he was my only friend for a while. The only conflict in our friendship was our political beliefs; he’s a Trump-supporting Catholic, and I’m a Dem. But besides from that, everything was fine, until today.
Last year, I finally realized that I was bisexual, but I stayed closeted because I live in a Really conservative area and because I was still in school. I did tell some of my very close friends and my family, but I didn’t tell this friend because I was afraid of what would happen, and unfortunately, I was right.
I told him today. He got upset, said I should’ve told him earlier. Then he told me that I should go to church with him, and that it might help. I asked him how it would help, and he started to go on this homophobic rant about how I was going to hell. This was a shock to me, because in all of our conversations he seemed to be very supportive of the LGBT+ community. I ended up leaving by myself and going home.
TLDR: My friend went on a homophobic rant after I told him I was bisexual.
It’s been 6 hours and I’m still not over it. Did I do something wrong? What do I do now?
(Sorry if it’s written weird, it’s almost one in the morning here and I’ve been an emotional wreck for the past few hours)
Edit 1: Going to bed now, thanks for all the kind messages (including those who sent pms)
Edit 2: Wanted to answer a couple of questions:
1. What he said was homophobic, he told me it was disgusting that I could even think about gay you-know-what, despite the fact I told him i was more interested romantically than sexually in men.
2. I am an Episcopalian, who’re traditionally more tolerant of the LGBT community. I am not very religious though.
3. I’ve reached out to him, he hasn’t responded yet.
4. We’re both seniors in high school.
5. He said he couldn’t support my “lifestyle choice” and left. So yes, he never said the exact words “I don’t want to be your friend.”
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20 AntwortenBearbeitet von TheArtist: 8/1/2019 11:31:46 AM[i]"It is better to be hated for you are, than loved for who you are not."[/i] Although it hurts, this individual did you a favor. He is NOT a friend. He may have been lifelong companion....a longtime acquaintance. But he is not a friend. A friend is someone who accepts you for who you are....in truth. Which is why a TRUE friend is actually something quite RARE....and something to truly be treasured when its found. A friend----even if goes against his religious beliefs----would have accepted this about you. What he's told you is that he can only accept you to the degree that you are LIKE him. That he cannot see you as a seperate person....but simply as an extension and reflection of himself. ...and I know it hurts like hell. Because someone who was very important in my own life, could only relate to me in that manner. But you need to move on....and find a true friend. Fact is that we sometimes outgrow the people around us. We evolve....and they don't. We change....and they can't cope with it. People, places, and things only have the power over us that WE give them. His inability to accept you the way you are is HIS problem. Don't make it YOUR problem by giving him the power to control what you think of yourself, and how much you value yourself. HE belongs to a religion that preaches that we are to LOVE even those whom are believed to be "sinners"....and he has been revealed to be a hypocrite. Do not let an insane world tell you who you are, who you should be, and what you are worth. They don't have the right. You are NOT a Child of a Lesser God. Live the Truth of who you are. Because---as long as you are not harming anyone else.----you have done nothing to be ashamed of. You ARE nothing to be ashamed of.