“Get a life. It’s just a video game.”
This is an all-too-familiar response to those of us who dare to share that we have a connection to Destiny that is emotionally deeper than simply a way to pass the time or unwind after work. When I read these sorts of responses, it occurs to me that what is sad is that people insist on judging us (and thinking themselves somehow [i]better than[/i]) simply because we have an [u]emotional investment [/u]to a video game.
I really enjoy being invested in video games (I also enjoy being invested in hunting, basketball, and baseball - my other hobbies). In fact, my emotional investment to a game is why I tend to be a one-game-at-a-time player.
I love it that my family enjoys video games, too. My sons love video games - my 10 year-old is deep into Ark Survival Evolved and my 14 year-old is loving Fallout 4 (so is my wife, who also has an amazing career). I enjoy it so much when they share those worlds with me; when they articulate their emotional connection to them. They are also A/B students who play sports, and are the best hunting buddies a dad could ask for. Do video games keep us from going sledding or out to movies? Never. But we all get excited for a cold winter Saturday spent in PJs playing video games!
Side note: My 14 year-old daughter has no interest in video games or hunting, which is perfectly fine. The best part, though, is that she LOVES target shooting, and can outshoot the boys any day of the week (talk about a proud dad!). And, when a couple of us are playing, she’s often in charge of the music. It’s rad the way she’ll try to find music that fits the mood of the game we’re playing – her choosing The Chemical Brothers while I was racing the SRL was simply sublime.
Another side note: If your gaming is creating a disconnect between you and your family: first, know that you are not alone (most, if not all, of us have felt that disconnect at some point), second, try to find ways to include them, even if it’s not by them playing the actual game (e.g. my daughter doing the music), and third, recognize that this may require you to [i]take off the headphones[/i]. This last one can be hard for some of us, but it's important that video games add to my life, not detract from it.
I digress: So, I ask you not to discount my emotional connection to Destiny (or any other game) simply because you don't feel it, or because, for reasons I can't quite put my finger on, you simply can't accept it because “[i]it's just a video game[/i]." Honestly, one of the primary reasons I enjoy video games is [i]because[/i] I become emotionally invested in them. I enjoy great video games for the same reason I enjoy great books: [i]they transport me to places I cannot go in my real life[/i]. What's wrong with that? Answer: nothing. Absolutely nothing. In fact, I'd say it's [i]enriching[/i] my life.
Now, if playing video games negatively affects my marriage, my job, my interpersonal relationships, my health, then obviously I need to step back and reevaluate things. But until it does, I will enjoy losing myself in the incredible worlds of video games (and sharing my adventures with my family, my friends, and you folks). Judge me if you must, but when you do, I’ll simply suggest to you that you look in the mirror and ask yourself why you feel the need to judge.
Try immersing yourself in a video game. [i]Become connected[/i]. You might be surprised by what you experience. I promise I won't judge you for it.
[spoiler]Bungie, fix your shit. There, it’s feedback.
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[spoiler]Ninja Edit: Moving this to Destiny[/spoiler]
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#Destiny
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For some people this game is their livelihood
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1 ReplyBecomming really engrossed with the games I play is exacty why I get so frustrated with Bungie over the shoddy managemant and how badly they've mishandled this IP so far. Nothing pisses me off more than seeing wasted potential and Destiny is sadly filled to the brim with it - it makes the artist and gamer in me weep for the glory that could and SHOULD have been. Well, at least Marty got justice (kinda).
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For me, video games are the best kind of fiction because they're interactive and always change, and can tell stories just as good as any horizon-broadening novel or tear jerkingly beautiful film. Books and movies are always the same when you re-read/re-watch them. Video games, hardly ever.
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i would guess that anybody typing "get a life" is either 12years old or 12 years old in their mind. you shouldn't feel the need to defend yourself against that. Games bring people together, when shared. Thats all you needed to write. Dad on, dude. ;)
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Well said!
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3 RepliesWell said sir, well said. I feel more of connection to games than most other forms of entertainment (music is still number 1 for me), I've never felt emotionally invested in movies, tv, or really even books. But games like The Last of Us, you bet I shed a single man tear during that roller coaster of emotion.
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6 RepliesEdited by Furi: 1/15/2016 2:04:08 PMI completely agree, I've gotten so much out of the game, friends from places I'd never think. I even found a girlfriend through Destiny, I've never been happier with my life, my escape from emotional and mental stress soon become a place I enjoyed taking my time in. Even if it was a one in a million shot that I met the most of them, it's at the point where I've become so connected with these people I'd choose them over that stupid power ball. I could give two shits about Destiny DLC as long as I stay connected with almost every single person I've met through this game.
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1 ReplyCouldn't agree more, well said
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1 ReplyAgree!! well said!!! Great post!
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30 Repliesthe problem is you have an emotional investment in a video game.
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1 ReplyBeautifal
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I have a life And get "connected" to video games, without my actual life suffering #dealwithit
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1 ReplyI absolutely love that other folks get the same emotional connection to games as I do. Most times for me, it's the story. Of course, many people complain that Destiny is woefully lacking in that department, but in this case, it's not just about the cinematics or the cutscenes for me. I've read a lot of the Grimoire, especially the parts about the Darkness and the Collapse. And one of my favorite things to do is imagine a fireteam of Guardians in a shootout on Mars or Earth, [i]fighting for their lives[/i], and the lives of the people of the City. (I even have a story planned for my Titan, along with her fireteam consisting of my brother's and best friend's characters!) For me, it's about being able to put myself into the characters' shoes, the ability to immerse myself into the universe, and for some reason it's very easy for me to do with Destiny. Maybe the "lack of story" is the key to that. Without every little event being spelled out for me, I'm free to imagine on my own. We know enough, in most cases, to know what's happening as we progress through the existing story. Maybe it's time that this is enough to keep the story moving. (Sorry for the wall of text. I could have kept going but I think you get the point. Didn't mean to ramble for even [i]that [/i]long. XD)
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4 RepliesIf you truly do all those things then you're not in the category of gamers you are defending. Those players are the ones that play ten hours a day and aren't quite sure what a job is or where food comes from. And anyone that plays a game for any extended period of time has an emotional connection to it which is why they've put time into it in the first place. So I agree with lots of your points I just don't think you'd be in that gamer group who are locked in a "sunless cell"
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5 RepliesI respect that but I just find difficult to believe that is possible to have a connection with a game like Destiny. I mean I love it, it's fun and I love the super cool Sci fi setting and how wonderfully smooth the controls feel. But apart from that it's just a mental hook built on the loot and the grind for it. How can you connect with a shabby story and superficial characters? Now, if we were talking of games like Bioshock infinite that makes much more sense.
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2 RepliesAn intelligent post… I wonder if it will catch on?
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4 RepliesSpot on, right up there with you, currently studying game design and world building myself :)
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6 RepliesI've played this game for like 1300 hours since day 1. But the moment I get emotional involved in this game I will quit immediately. Yes it's just a video game I play for fun. Nothing more than that. I don't judge anybody but there is more in life to get emotional involved in than a virtual video game.
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95% of the time someone says to get a life, their life is either way worse than yours or they have the same habits and hobbies you... they're either to scared to admit it or they just want to look cool and superior!
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28 RepliesEdited by Andy: 1/15/2016 1:08:25 PMvideo games mean nothing. they are just that. GAMES for kids. anyone who takes them seriously (and is not getting paid) should re-evaluate their life.
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8 RepliesHaving a life means doing things that make you feel happy and fulfilled, which can mean different things to different people. In this day and age, "not having a life" is basically just the vanilla insult that people spew out when they have nothing better to say.
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1 ReplyThis. Nailed it man thanks. Feel exactly the Same.
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17 RepliesIts just a game. The female body withholds many more hours of fun. If you dissagree then find yourself a dude.
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2 RepliesPeople get emotional over 90 minute romance video. You know what? I'm a god damn adult. I will get emtionally invested over a cactus and there isnt a damn thing you can say. So shut your team jacob ass mother -blam!-er. Thats right, we still remember.
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1 ReplyThank you for posting this, it was an amazing read, i play video games with my dad all the time so its great fun.
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14 Replies"Get a life" is something gamers say to other gamers when the former gets their ass kicked by the latter.