“Get a life. It’s just a video game.”
This is an all-too-familiar response to those of us who dare to share that we have a connection to Destiny that is emotionally deeper than simply a way to pass the time or unwind after work. When I read these sorts of responses, it occurs to me that what is sad is that people insist on judging us (and thinking themselves somehow [i]better than[/i]) simply because we have an [u]emotional investment [/u]to a video game.
I really enjoy being invested in video games (I also enjoy being invested in hunting, basketball, and baseball - my other hobbies). In fact, my emotional investment to a game is why I tend to be a one-game-at-a-time player.
I love it that my family enjoys video games, too. My sons love video games - my 10 year-old is deep into Ark Survival Evolved and my 14 year-old is loving Fallout 4 (so is my wife, who also has an amazing career). I enjoy it so much when they share those worlds with me; when they articulate their emotional connection to them. They are also A/B students who play sports, and are the best hunting buddies a dad could ask for. Do video games keep us from going sledding or out to movies? Never. But we all get excited for a cold winter Saturday spent in PJs playing video games!
Side note: My 14 year-old daughter has no interest in video games or hunting, which is perfectly fine. The best part, though, is that she LOVES target shooting, and can outshoot the boys any day of the week (talk about a proud dad!). And, when a couple of us are playing, she’s often in charge of the music. It’s rad the way she’ll try to find music that fits the mood of the game we’re playing – her choosing The Chemical Brothers while I was racing the SRL was simply sublime.
Another side note: If your gaming is creating a disconnect between you and your family: first, know that you are not alone (most, if not all, of us have felt that disconnect at some point), second, try to find ways to include them, even if it’s not by them playing the actual game (e.g. my daughter doing the music), and third, recognize that this may require you to [i]take off the headphones[/i]. This last one can be hard for some of us, but it's important that video games add to my life, not detract from it.
I digress: So, I ask you not to discount my emotional connection to Destiny (or any other game) simply because you don't feel it, or because, for reasons I can't quite put my finger on, you simply can't accept it because “[i]it's just a video game[/i]." Honestly, one of the primary reasons I enjoy video games is [i]because[/i] I become emotionally invested in them. I enjoy great video games for the same reason I enjoy great books: [i]they transport me to places I cannot go in my real life[/i]. What's wrong with that? Answer: nothing. Absolutely nothing. In fact, I'd say it's [i]enriching[/i] my life.
Now, if playing video games negatively affects my marriage, my job, my interpersonal relationships, my health, then obviously I need to step back and reevaluate things. But until it does, I will enjoy losing myself in the incredible worlds of video games (and sharing my adventures with my family, my friends, and you folks). Judge me if you must, but when you do, I’ll simply suggest to you that you look in the mirror and ask yourself why you feel the need to judge.
Try immersing yourself in a video game. [i]Become connected[/i]. You might be surprised by what you experience. I promise I won't judge you for it.
[spoiler]Bungie, fix your shit. There, it’s feedback.
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[spoiler]Ninja Edit: Moving this to Destiny[/spoiler]
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1 ReplyEdited by bobswerski: 1/15/2016 10:29:07 PMI'd have to assume that's said a lot because it really does seem like some people (not you, it would appear) are way too worked up about the game and it does affect them personally to a level that it's hard to believe doesn't impact their real life in some way. May not always be true but IMO, if you're angry enough about a game to go on the forums and type up some 300 word screed about how evil the developer is and how they lied to you and stole from you and liken them to war criminals or child molesters, you really need to calm the -blam!- down and reassess your priorities in life.
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That's true, and I can't argue with that, really. Video games are a form of entertainment, always have been, but there's art in them like in movies, literature and music. But, unless you work in the gaming industry, you shouldn't let it overtake your life. That's the point people are trying to make. Now saying 'get a life, it's just a video game' is kind of silly, but can be used in the right ways.
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2 RepliesAwesome post, man! I totally agree with you on being emotionally connected with a game. Good luck with the family. Oh, and tell your kid (the one playing Ark) to have an awesome time playing the game and that I wish him or her with luck on not getting murdered by a T-rex!
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1 ReplyGreat read. I must say that I agree with you.
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4 RepliesNo tl:dr ? Who gonna read this shit?
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8 RepliesEver since my dad died destiny has been an outlet for emotion (especially the people I play with help) I completely understand an emotional connection to a game and hope to lead a life simple but as great as yours sounds
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3 RepliesI h8 Destiny. It's dying.
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2 RepliesWell said. And thank you for sharing with us! I'm housebound a lot of the time due to illness. Gaming is an escape from all of that. I can get to do things that I can't in this world and for that time while playing,it's almost like I don't have an illness. With Destiny,the social side is what's kept me playing. With not getting out much it's been great to interact and socialise with people,many of which I would never have met otherwise. I've made some really good friends through this game.
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13 RepliesThe fact that you needed to post this to justify your virtual relationship with a video game says enough lol. Anyone who says it's not sad is kidding themselves. If you don't think that it's sad, like I've told you before, go and tell one of your elders that you're emotionally attached to a video game lmao. If you were on the nightly news in your home town talking about this relationship you have with a video game you'd be the laughing stock of your town and you know it. Now matter how you try and justify it, it's always going to be pathetic. Having said that, you're weird and sad but that's ok. A lot of people are and it balances out humanity lol. So flame away you weird, sad kid. It won't make a difference...
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1 ReplyYou sound like you lead a pretty amazing life
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1 ReplyLove this post <3
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1 ReplyGreat post. Great read. Well said that man
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1 ReplyEdited by bloodocean13: 1/15/2016 7:44:39 PMSome people say I take videogames too seriously, to them I say -blam!- you, you don't take them seriously enough.
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1 ReplyIt's fine to be invested because of the people and experiences you have enjoyed. There is a limit though. You need a healthy grasp on reality and things that really matter. When Everquest was HUGE there were multiple reports of people committing suicide because their accounts got hacked and they lost their 100,000+ hours invested in a virtual world. Things can get out of hand. At the end of the day it's your business.
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8 RepliesTL:DR?
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If your 14 year old daughter is out shooting you, an adult, there's some issues there. Just kidding, good post!
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16 RepliesSo uh you uh like kill animals.... For fun,? Shit man what sorta twisted country you from.... Let me guess
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4 RepliesI can't edit my post since it was edited by a ninja (Cozmo;)), so I'll leave this here: http://jalopnik.com/son-finds-his-late-dads-ghost-in-a-racing-video-game-1609457749 Thank you to BoomerSooner51 for sending it to me.
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Bump.
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Bump! Thanks for the post land I too feel that way about being emotional invested in the game one at a time
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1 ReplyI hope to one day when k grow up to be as cool of a father as you. I hope I find a girl that likes gaming so one day we can do what your family is doing. Pretty cool man and I 100% agree with everything u said.
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I am sorry you felt the need to write that. I have not noticed quite that much animosity towards gamers who shall I say like getting a little lost in a game. I find it refreshing and use it as a way to unwind and have fun. I do however think that in some circumstances people need to truly look at the statement you began with and re-evaluate whether games are as important as they think. Most of us have a healthy balance. As with most anything in life, moderation is key......
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1 ReplyBasketball is love. Basketball is life.
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8 RepliesAnyone else feel like this guy just found a subtle way to brag about his family? Love the game too dude, don't need your life story.
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10 RepliesHere here my man........but seriously watch this ;)