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Destiny

Discuss all things Destiny.
Edited by Cozmo: 1/14/2016 8:06:33 PM
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Judge me if you will, but I think you're the one who's missing out.

“Get a life. It’s just a video game.” This is an all-too-familiar response to those of us who dare to share that we have a connection to Destiny that is emotionally deeper than simply a way to pass the time or unwind after work. When I read these sorts of responses, it occurs to me that what is sad is that people insist on judging us (and thinking themselves somehow [i]better than[/i]) simply because we have an [u]emotional investment [/u]to a video game. I really enjoy being invested in video games (I also enjoy being invested in hunting, basketball, and baseball - my other hobbies). In fact, my emotional investment to a game is why I tend to be a one-game-at-a-time player. I love it that my family enjoys video games, too. My sons love video games - my 10 year-old is deep into Ark Survival Evolved and my 14 year-old is loving Fallout 4 (so is my wife, who also has an amazing career). I enjoy it so much when they share those worlds with me; when they articulate their emotional connection to them. They are also A/B students who play sports, and are the best hunting buddies a dad could ask for. Do video games keep us from going sledding or out to movies? Never. But we all get excited for a cold winter Saturday spent in PJs playing video games! Side note: My 14 year-old daughter has no interest in video games or hunting, which is perfectly fine. The best part, though, is that she LOVES target shooting, and can outshoot the boys any day of the week (talk about a proud dad!). And, when a couple of us are playing, she’s often in charge of the music. It’s rad the way she’ll try to find music that fits the mood of the game we’re playing – her choosing The Chemical Brothers while I was racing the SRL was simply sublime. Another side note: If your gaming is creating a disconnect between you and your family: first, know that you are not alone (most, if not all, of us have felt that disconnect at some point), second, try to find ways to include them, even if it’s not by them playing the actual game (e.g. my daughter doing the music), and third, recognize that this may require you to [i]take off the headphones[/i]. This last one can be hard for some of us, but it's important that video games add to my life, not detract from it. I digress: So, I ask you not to discount my emotional connection to Destiny (or any other game) simply because you don't feel it, or because, for reasons I can't quite put my finger on, you simply can't accept it because “[i]it's just a video game[/i]." Honestly, one of the primary reasons I enjoy video games is [i]because[/i] I become emotionally invested in them. I enjoy great video games for the same reason I enjoy great books: [i]they transport me to places I cannot go in my real life[/i]. What's wrong with that? Answer: nothing. Absolutely nothing. In fact, I'd say it's [i]enriching[/i] my life. Now, if playing video games negatively affects my marriage, my job, my interpersonal relationships, my health, then obviously I need to step back and reevaluate things. But until it does, I will enjoy losing myself in the incredible worlds of video games (and sharing my adventures with my family, my friends, and you folks). Judge me if you must, but when you do, I’ll simply suggest to you that you look in the mirror and ask yourself why you feel the need to judge. Try immersing yourself in a video game. [i]Become connected[/i]. You might be surprised by what you experience. I promise I won't judge you for it. [spoiler]Bungie, fix your shit. There, it’s feedback. [/spoiler] [spoiler]Ninja Edit: Moving this to Destiny[/spoiler]
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  • Beautifully written, thank you

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    • Well written post; I used to enjoy Destiny a lot, But I find my attachment to it dwindling fast. Most of my raid group has retired/moved onto other games(Fallout, Rainbow Six, etc). It makes me a bit sad, Because while the raid wasn't super rewarding, The experience was fun enough for me to want to come back on. I never got a raid helm for my titan from vog or kings fall... Year 2 made some good improvements, But the grind....,Id rather level up in Final Fantasy 1 than get bored in Destiny trying to get the weapon I need. Meanwhile....that huge wishlist keeps growing..., Things that the devs should have probably had on the whiteboard during the development phase of the game I feel.

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      • Very well written, and is supported for very clear reasons.

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        • sometimes you need to remind someone it's just a game. Don't let games effect your life in a negative way. But you make very valid points. Nothing wrong with being connected to and enjoying a game. And nothing wrong with caring about what is being done with a game you care about. You should feel connected to your hobbies. That's why you enjoy them. [spoiler]yes bungie. fix your shit! start listening to feedback[/spoiler]

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          • Touché, sneaky ninja. Very well played.

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          • This. I didn't think it could put it into writing this well. Nearly everyone I know doesn't get this, some know part-way. Just not on the same level as this.

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            • Nice post CL. Believe I know the impetuous and he should be good and banned about now. But yeah, that's pretty awesome how video games serve as another bond for your family. It's funny the people who rip others for caring about a game as they're freaking out about what someone else thinks about a game.

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              • Everyone has a thing they enjoy doing; we all search for that certain something that squeezes our pituitary gland for those endogenous opioid neuropeptides, and when we find it, we hang on to it. In the end, you can chalk up every little experience we have as fleeting and ephemeral and therefor irrelevant; so what's it matter how we spend our time? Don't worry about being judged is the moral of the story.

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              • Well written, Carnival. I'm not at the settling down and starting a family phase of life, but I completely empathize with your stance. I am one of the folks who hardly picks up this game because of my sheer frustration with its direction, but I can't help to check the forums because of the emotional attachment I had for so long. That's why I continue to give feedback pertaining to aspects of the game that would draw me back. Video games really are a new form of entertainment that can bring us into new and enriching universes the same way books, movies and television have throughout the years. Game on, buddy. Keep preaching the good word.

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                • Great point. Sounds like you've got a nice tight knit gaming family. If someone's on a gaming form to begin with they kinda lose the right to say "it's just a game". Clearly it's not just a game even to them.

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                  • I cri every time. But well written my friend

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