“Get a life. It’s just a video game.”
This is an all-too-familiar response to those of us who dare to share that we have a connection to Destiny that is emotionally deeper than simply a way to pass the time or unwind after work. When I read these sorts of responses, it occurs to me that what is sad is that people insist on judging us (and thinking themselves somehow [i]better than[/i]) simply because we have an [u]emotional investment [/u]to a video game.
I really enjoy being invested in video games (I also enjoy being invested in hunting, basketball, and baseball - my other hobbies). In fact, my emotional investment to a game is why I tend to be a one-game-at-a-time player.
I love it that my family enjoys video games, too. My sons love video games - my 10 year-old is deep into Ark Survival Evolved and my 14 year-old is loving Fallout 4 (so is my wife, who also has an amazing career). I enjoy it so much when they share those worlds with me; when they articulate their emotional connection to them. They are also A/B students who play sports, and are the best hunting buddies a dad could ask for. Do video games keep us from going sledding or out to movies? Never. But we all get excited for a cold winter Saturday spent in PJs playing video games!
Side note: My 14 year-old daughter has no interest in video games or hunting, which is perfectly fine. The best part, though, is that she LOVES target shooting, and can outshoot the boys any day of the week (talk about a proud dad!). And, when a couple of us are playing, she’s often in charge of the music. It’s rad the way she’ll try to find music that fits the mood of the game we’re playing – her choosing The Chemical Brothers while I was racing the SRL was simply sublime.
Another side note: If your gaming is creating a disconnect between you and your family: first, know that you are not alone (most, if not all, of us have felt that disconnect at some point), second, try to find ways to include them, even if it’s not by them playing the actual game (e.g. my daughter doing the music), and third, recognize that this may require you to [i]take off the headphones[/i]. This last one can be hard for some of us, but it's important that video games add to my life, not detract from it.
I digress: So, I ask you not to discount my emotional connection to Destiny (or any other game) simply because you don't feel it, or because, for reasons I can't quite put my finger on, you simply can't accept it because “[i]it's just a video game[/i]." Honestly, one of the primary reasons I enjoy video games is [i]because[/i] I become emotionally invested in them. I enjoy great video games for the same reason I enjoy great books: [i]they transport me to places I cannot go in my real life[/i]. What's wrong with that? Answer: nothing. Absolutely nothing. In fact, I'd say it's [i]enriching[/i] my life.
Now, if playing video games negatively affects my marriage, my job, my interpersonal relationships, my health, then obviously I need to step back and reevaluate things. But until it does, I will enjoy losing myself in the incredible worlds of video games (and sharing my adventures with my family, my friends, and you folks). Judge me if you must, but when you do, I’ll simply suggest to you that you look in the mirror and ask yourself why you feel the need to judge.
Try immersing yourself in a video game. [i]Become connected[/i]. You might be surprised by what you experience. I promise I won't judge you for it.
[spoiler]Bungie, fix your shit. There, it’s feedback.
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[spoiler]Ninja Edit: Moving this to Destiny[/spoiler]
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4 RepliesEdited by your f(r)iend: 1/16/2016 1:44:58 AMWell said although I think it's a social media problem in general (where people are way too negative and abusive)
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1 ReplyLife is a word. My mother gave birth to me, and I lived. I don't remember stuff before like the age of 6
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1 ReplyI completely agree
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3 RepliesThat's awesome!! I like sports but my dad doesn't like playing them... I remember when we played the first mission of destiny and we were having a great time!!!! Destiny has motivated us to get a second XBOX just so we could play together!!!!
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5 RepliesThat's generally why it's difficult for me to bounce back from a game that's kind of always available with other people always kind of around, you know. In Bloodborne, even if you're not with someone, you can see their image or their mistakes. There are also messages that can either trick you, help you or just be funny or weird. You feel connected in a way you couldn't be in real life. In real life, you see and maybe walk by and interact with so many people, but you'll never really connect with most of them. I'm sure we all could pick a game where we connect with other players and feel connected. It's nice. You could also be a solo person who enjoys time by themself, playing a single player game that has you focused on the world. I don't mind if people ridicule me or just don't understand. I don't care to make them understand because at the end of the day, it won't matter.
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1 ReplyThat feel when it hits you in the feels. Most logical post in a while. Kudos.
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1 ReplyThis is how it should be.
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1 ReplyTL;DR, but I probably agree with you.
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Well said and I totally understand. Destiny is a good community, these forums do not reflect that unfortunately. Its full of hatred and insults is dragging destiny down. Bungie are doing a good job. Never played a game for as long as I have this one.
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1 Replyif only my mom felt the same way
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1 ReplyI'm jealous of you.
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2 RepliesCool thread. I'm sure there are many others that share the same sentiments.
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Bump for visibility
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3 RepliesI couldn't have said it better myself. *much clapping ensues*
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1 ReplyHmm... I need cliff-notes plz.
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1 ReplyWell said. Gaming allows me to do things I could never have done in reality. And some things I hope I never have to do.
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1 ReplyI dig this post. I'm also an avid gamer. While I have to admit, I'm not emotionally attached to destiny, I am attached to other amazing games. Like Zelda, Kingdom Hearts, Final Fantasy, etc. It's awesome to see a family who can play together and share their experiences. -blam!- what the haters say, man. You keep doin you, and keep being an awesome dad.
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1 ReplyLoved reading the post, you done good
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1 ReplyTried getting immersed in this game, and what I got was disappointment more often than not.
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1 ReplyIt's ironic that you make a post telling us to immerse ourselves in video games,on a gaming a forum,where people are technically immersed to the point where they want to communicate with the rest of it's community. Shouldn't this be in a newspaper or something? Seems like cheap article fodder to me.
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1 ReplyAn amazing post, I completely agree.
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1 ReplyA+ post, thanks for the positiviy
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6 RepliesHunting is disgusting
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That response I have only seen used when people get all cocky about how awesome they are and start the "scrub" talk. I've been playing video games for over 30 years and haven't been immersed in one for about 10. But someone once said to me once, when talking about taking it up the ass "don't knock it until you try it" I said "-blam!- off", not everyone is alike
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1 ReplyHa, gayyy!!