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Destiny

Discuss all things Destiny.
Edited by Cozmo: 1/14/2016 8:06:33 PM
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Judge me if you will, but I think you're the one who's missing out.

“Get a life. It’s just a video game.” This is an all-too-familiar response to those of us who dare to share that we have a connection to Destiny that is emotionally deeper than simply a way to pass the time or unwind after work. When I read these sorts of responses, it occurs to me that what is sad is that people insist on judging us (and thinking themselves somehow [i]better than[/i]) simply because we have an [u]emotional investment [/u]to a video game. I really enjoy being invested in video games (I also enjoy being invested in hunting, basketball, and baseball - my other hobbies). In fact, my emotional investment to a game is why I tend to be a one-game-at-a-time player. I love it that my family enjoys video games, too. My sons love video games - my 10 year-old is deep into Ark Survival Evolved and my 14 year-old is loving Fallout 4 (so is my wife, who also has an amazing career). I enjoy it so much when they share those worlds with me; when they articulate their emotional connection to them. They are also A/B students who play sports, and are the best hunting buddies a dad could ask for. Do video games keep us from going sledding or out to movies? Never. But we all get excited for a cold winter Saturday spent in PJs playing video games! Side note: My 14 year-old daughter has no interest in video games or hunting, which is perfectly fine. The best part, though, is that she LOVES target shooting, and can outshoot the boys any day of the week (talk about a proud dad!). And, when a couple of us are playing, she’s often in charge of the music. It’s rad the way she’ll try to find music that fits the mood of the game we’re playing – her choosing The Chemical Brothers while I was racing the SRL was simply sublime. Another side note: If your gaming is creating a disconnect between you and your family: first, know that you are not alone (most, if not all, of us have felt that disconnect at some point), second, try to find ways to include them, even if it’s not by them playing the actual game (e.g. my daughter doing the music), and third, recognize that this may require you to [i]take off the headphones[/i]. This last one can be hard for some of us, but it's important that video games add to my life, not detract from it. I digress: So, I ask you not to discount my emotional connection to Destiny (or any other game) simply because you don't feel it, or because, for reasons I can't quite put my finger on, you simply can't accept it because “[i]it's just a video game[/i]." Honestly, one of the primary reasons I enjoy video games is [i]because[/i] I become emotionally invested in them. I enjoy great video games for the same reason I enjoy great books: [i]they transport me to places I cannot go in my real life[/i]. What's wrong with that? Answer: nothing. Absolutely nothing. In fact, I'd say it's [i]enriching[/i] my life. Now, if playing video games negatively affects my marriage, my job, my interpersonal relationships, my health, then obviously I need to step back and reevaluate things. But until it does, I will enjoy losing myself in the incredible worlds of video games (and sharing my adventures with my family, my friends, and you folks). Judge me if you must, but when you do, I’ll simply suggest to you that you look in the mirror and ask yourself why you feel the need to judge. Try immersing yourself in a video game. [i]Become connected[/i]. You might be surprised by what you experience. I promise I won't judge you for it. [spoiler]Bungie, fix your shit. There, it’s feedback. [/spoiler] [spoiler]Ninja Edit: Moving this to Destiny[/spoiler]
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  • You're just sad...

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    • Great post! Thanks for articulating so clearly how many of us feel about our Destiny experience. I originally thought I was a little weird when I would stop to admire the scenery or watch the sunset from the upstairs tower deck. I'm totally connected and don't care what anyone thinks of that. I'm very late to gaming. I'll turn 73 in July of this year and Destiny is my first game. I've tried a few others, Fallout 4, Uncharted, the new Star Wars, but nothing compares to Destiny. I know I'll never be very good and my skills will decline with each passing year but my hope is that I can continue to play until my grandson turns 13 (about 3 years , my daughter won't let him play until then) and we can play together.

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      • While I've been playing Destiny since launch... [spoiler]Please don't crucify me...[/spoiler] Destiny, out of all games, is one of the strangest games to get an emotional connection to. Sure, I still feel nostalgic about year 1 sometimes (Even though it's just blind nostalgia because year 1 was pretty terrible in a lot of ways), Destiny is just so emotionless and flat. Even characters like Cayde that have "personality" are only barely a step up from how nonexistent the characters in year 1 were. I guess it was a pretty awesome moment for me when I got my first Gjallarhorn and finally found that exotic I was chasing after for a few months, but every time I feel an "emotional" connection to Destiny it just feels so artificial. I always feel as if the game was wired like a big virtual casino; it was designed only to keep you playing and nothing more.

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          • Nice post man. Good to see some positivity

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            • Amen to everything you just said, but surprised you didn't reference the social aspect of the online community also. For me at least, just getting on and chatting for a bit with any of my teammates, regardless of what we are playing, is usually a great way to de-stress after a day at the office. 😊

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              • Edited by Phreezer: 1/15/2016 6:05:51 PM
                Wow.. It's a just a freaking video game. Maybe you have some mental health issues or addiction issues you need to address through a professional. Turn it off man... focus on your other hobbies... I think you'll find them more rewarding then trying so hard to make a fantasy world your reality.

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                • Emotionally invested in a video game? You may need to talk to the suicide hotline people before this takes a bad turn

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                  • b-but but its ... its just a game! ITS JUST A GAAAAAMMMMEEEEE NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO *head explodes*

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                    • Edited by Elitespear: 1/15/2016 6:19:30 AM
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                      • are you kidding me? an essay about video games and how magical and amazing they are? you pick up a control and press a few buttons for an hour. how in any way is that amazing? you need to get out and do more things sir

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                        • *Mentions "emotional connection" to destiny [spoiler]Confirmed desticle lol.[/spoiler]

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                          • Honestly the only way to play a game is to get emotionally invested in it, it's a story that's what games are made to do tell a story with you at the center their goal is to make you feel everything the main character feels I couldn't imagine playing games like Fallout, Skyrim, or Destiny without having some attachment to the story.

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                            • Some people........ http://youtu.be/h66V1hYAjG0

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                            • Well put. I, too, enjoy the emotional investment towards video games. Growing up, video games were often associated with them getting in the way of doing important things. Of course, you shouldn't allow video games to get in the way of your actual responsibilities. But when you maintain a great deal of balance between the two, video games can play an important role in addressing stress-related issues, among other things. I come home from a long day at work, and it really helps if I can get in an hour or so of any type of game play. The connection between our real world and this virtual environment is amazing. The constant hand-eye-coordination helps the brain stay active, and isn't always easy. And like you said, as long as it's not negatively impacting your life, there is nothing wrong with having an emotional connection with a video game. To be honest, Destiny really made me feel that way. That's why I've stuck around for so long, continually giving this game another chance, hoping that it will improve. It hasn't yet, but hopefully it does. All in all, I agree that we should try and connect with video games, and also find that balance between being responsible and letting loose. I think it has a significant affect on the human psyche, when balanced well.

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                              • This is why me and my girlfriend always go out together or with friends when we feel like we're doing exactly this.... Life may be a bitch at times, but making video games the most important thing on mind and in life is not healthy.

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                                • The amount of hate on this post is unreal, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised because it's on the bnet forum. I can completely relate to forming emotional connections to video games. I'm glad I'm not the only one that does it lol

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                                  • All I saw is that your 10 year old son plays ARK. *Salutes* You have one person in your your family that knows good games, and the right thing to play them on.

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                                    • Yeah, nailed it amígo. If I didn't have a connection to the immersive world of Destiny, I wouldn't have spent 1400+ hours (no idea actually... may "only" be 1100) exploring and wandering here. I have met awesome people, done awesome things and found some awesome stuff. All while having an awesome time. Well said op!

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                                      • Edited by Snugle Wugle: 1/16/2016 12:39:53 AM
                                        I have no problem with being immersed/emotionally invested in a video game. I might question why you choose to invest yourself so much into a game like Destiny that has never delivered on promises and severely lacks depth and scope, but won't question or put down the idea of immersing oneself in a game.

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                                        • Tired of seeing this thread every time I open the app. Muted

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                                          • Warning - it has been noted that some guardians have died of boredom while reading this post. Stay safe out there.

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                                            • I like to dip bread in milk.

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                                              • Blasphemy! He just use logic in this forum!

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                                                • You do have a point.

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                                                  • Edited by your f(r)iend: 1/16/2016 1:44:58 AM
                                                    Well said although I think it's a social media problem in general (where people are way too negative and abusive)

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