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Edited by Elrond Hubbard:
9/15/2013 1:07:49 AM
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Raising a kid theist or atheist?
So my friend's son was just born, and him and his wife are debating whether they should raise him Catholic or Atheist.
They've never discussed religion because it's never been much of an issue before. He's more of an agnostic-atheist, so he didn't mind getting married in a church. But he doesn't think his son should have religion thrust upon him, and my friend thinks he has better things to do with his time than go to church.
Meanwhile, his wife is adamant about raising their son as a Catholic. She says she wants it, and so does her family, and that it would cause a rift between them if she didn't follow their wishes. She also thinks religion serves as a moral foundation, and worries about what may happen if her son is raised an atheist.
Also, they're debating about circumcising their son. The father wants him intact, but his wife wants their son cut because it's God's wish for him.
Discuss.
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Teach him the catholic culture while hes growing and let him make his mind up on whether he wants to follow it or not once he gets older?
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1 ReplyMarrying Catholics? Aren't there laws against bestiality?
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1 ReplyEdited by Y SO REACH BETA: 9/15/2013 3:37:17 AMAbsolutely not. You should not raise your son to mimic your beliefs, you should give them the structure to become their own person, if they want to eventually be religious, fine, but raising them as religious is indoctrination. Also, circumcision is a barbaric practice. That is not 'how god wants him' it is cutting off a part of his genitals for no reason. This is why I don't see myself ever getting married to a religious person.
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Don't raise him catholic. But allow him to learn about Catholicism and over religions.
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Why not raise him as neither and let him makes his own decisions?
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Edited by Magical Robot: 9/15/2013 3:25:06 AMPerfect solution! Respect the child as a person, by giving them all the information, and letting them make the choice for themselves. When they are young, their brains are in development and absorb information at a faster rate. This is the time to worry about life skills like reading and math. That is actually more christain than you would think. The bible states that God wants us to choose him, not to accept him blindly. He gave us choice. Raise the child to be intelligent.
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Let the kid make their own decision rather than forcing either view down his throat.
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Teach him how to think properly, and for himself.
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Literally never speak to your kid about religion and let them discover it and make his/her own choice
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Raise him without teaching him of religion, but teach him about being respectful and being nice to people. If you feel ready, tell him about it.
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If the kid needs a church to find God, then God is avoiding him. But in all seriousness, if the kid doesn't want to go to church, forcing him won't help. And circumcision isn't going to help the boy.
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Edited by CAMMCAM: 9/15/2013 2:37:53 AMThey have quite some time before they really have to "worry" about it but honestly, I have raised my daughter to question, to be aware. She's only 5 but she already knows that people are different and believe and do different things. I never deprive her of going to church with her grandma but she doesn't ever have to go if she doesn't want to. The only personal problem I have with it all is not having a lot of answers to her questions about certain religions but that's when we do our research and learn about it together. However, she will always know who I am and the things I believe in. It's all a learning experience and it should always be that but my child will grow up being able to believe in whatever she wants (so long as its not hurting anyone or herself) but, first and foremost, believe in herself. I personally think that her believing in herself is far more important than any religion.
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4 RepliesWhy not just raise him like religion of any form doesn't exist, and let him make his own choices in life? Theoretically I believe in times of struggle atheists become religious, and religious become atheists.
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Raise him Catholic, then teach him to question what they teach him in church.
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3 RepliesCircumcision is a Jewish ritual smh... idk why soo many Catholics/Christians or even americans in general circumcise their kids... Jesus himself was [i]opposed[/i] to the practice of mutilating your child...
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Edited by MajorCrabs: 9/15/2013 2:00:04 AM[quote] his wife wants their son cut because it's God's wish for him.[/quote] So she is a catholic by name. Obviously she hasnt even attempted to read or learn about the bible. Meh in the end it doesnt matter. We all go to the same place anyway.
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3 RepliesHe's going to have atheism shoved down his throat 80% of the time anyway, so I don't see harm in the mom raising him Christian.
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1 Reply[quote]But he doesn't think his son should have religion thrust upon him[/quote] Are you kidding me? Tell that friend to man up and stop acting like an angsty teenager. Unless the mom plans on having the kid attend christian schools where he learns nothing but Christian ideals, there shouldn't be a problem. Besides, judging by what information you told me about the dad, he'll probably be trying to shove his atheist beliefs down the kid's throat as soon as he can listen to them. Might as well let him hear both sides of the argument.
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Or, just shut the -blam!- up and let the kid make the choices that should be between what ever omnipotent(or lack of) being and himself.
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I´ll let him believe in what he wants to believe. It´s his choice, not mine. As long as he doesn´t start getting all obssesed with it.
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1 Reply[quote]She also thinks religion serves as a moral foundation, and worries about what may happen if her son is raised an atheist.[/quote]Oh, come on. [spoiler]I know this is a bait thread.[/spoiler]
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Edited by MurcSpyder: 9/15/2013 1:09:25 AMRaise him as a good person over all that silly atheist vs theist nonsense.
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Raise the child to be non-denominational? Non-denominational is the best choice when talking about Christianity and it's something more people ought to look into.
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1 ReplyWhen God tells him that...go that way. Until then no dice.
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He's being a complicated phaggot.
