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5/7/2017 4:25:07 AM
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Who is in the wrong here?
So, I went on a date. This girl invited me to dinner. So I expected her to pay right? And she wanted me to pay.
[spoiler]The date went well, but it ended bad due to this situation. I ended up paying for most of it, and she put some money too. Drive back home was awkward. [/spoiler]
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Should've split the bill.
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On a couple occasions, I've actually explained prior to the first date that I would pay. It completely avoided that awkward scenario.
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If you want to be a gentleman then the guy should pay
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Edited by Sainyule: 5/12/2017 6:19:06 AMThe only time the host pays for the whole meal is when they say "My treat" or "let me take you out for dinner/lunch." That only changes if the date isn't going well. Decent people would still pay for the whole meal. Indecent people would make the guest pay for half or their portion. Unless the guest places the offer that'll they pay for theirs or half. It is also fair that if you ordered a lobster and steak and they got the chicken tender platter, you change the pay half offer to their share. If the host offers says "Would you like to go on a date with me." They are not inclined to pay for everything, but it would make you look so much less like a douchebag. Also what's going on with the word paid in your poll options.
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Edited by Commander Tempu: 5/12/2017 6:18:13 AMMake it clear they need to pay half or have an understanding that if you buy they buy. Compromise is the first key into dating. Some people go through life never learning that lesson. But short of that pay for yours. Too bad if they did not bring money. They should have said that up front and before. People learn quick that honesty earns trust. If i can't trust you then hell no. you are not touching my money. I would have drove back got myself some food at a fast food restaurant after dropping her off. Not trying to be mean or a scrooge just i need to know if people can pay there way. Thus we would have left before even ordering. I know it seems harsh but its not like she is homeless and starving. Then a fight happens or they try to guilt trip you or they tell you the truth. So if the truth comes out we go back in. I seem to forgive people way to easy. Even my enemies...
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I pay for everything until/unless we're dating. I've had a few pre buy movie tickets and it made me feel odd. Maybe I'm caveman?
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Both of you. Pay for your own -blam!-ing shit.
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2 RepliesIf SHE invites you, she should pay. If she DOESN'T expect you to pay, then it is warranted for your manly instincts to kick in and make you feel you should pay, then you should pay. However, if she expects you to pay, especially after INVITING YOU, then she is an entitled snob who is probably just using you. Chivalry applies only to those deserving of it.
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Too many people are taught that men always pay, and are too closed-minded to understand that those ideals came from a time when women didn't have the same opportunities as they do today. On the other hand, most women want a man who is going to take care of them. People use dates to gauge whether the other person is compatible with them or not. If you're a man or woman and you want a give-and-take relationship, then you need to come up with a plan before hand. Otherwise you should atleast be prepared to take the initiative and pay for the date
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My opinion is that if you invite someone to dinner, then you should pay, regardless of your gender. Obviously both parties should have money on them just in case one can't pay it all, but it's on whoever chose the venue to foot the bill.
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I'd tell my husband to pay most of it or all as usual.
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3 RepliesThere used to be a saying "Be a man" clearly millennials don't understand this. I know you all were raised believing you were all special snowflakes, the world revolves around you and everything is about you.....but hey, good luck with all that.
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She invited you, so it's expected you'd either split or she'd pay. Anyone going under the assumption of "chivalry" that would also imply that the man was the one initiating. Also, there's a lot of ladies out there making well more than the gents. It shouldn't be crazy to ask them to contribute to making a relationship happen, especially if she's the one asking.
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Personally I think dates should be split. This puts much less pressure and expectations on both parties and lets you enjoy the company of eachother instead of worrying about how much the activity is going to set you back. [spoiler]-blam!- that man always pays bullshit[/spoiler]
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I believe in women's equality. Therefore she invited you and she should pay. Unless she states differently before hand.
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12 RepliesUnless the woman offered to pay or split it, you pay.
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1 ReplyThe person who initiates the date should pay. If not, then split. That "man always buys" is bullshit, 1950's thinking.
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Edited by Generic: 5/10/2017 7:03:05 PMWell society says the man should pay. You should have decided on who would pay before hand, the most fair way would be for you to both pay for half. Although, since she invited you to the date, she should have paid.
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You cant not pay for this pretty lady http://imgur.com/gQmIdz8 [spoiler]Am I pretty?[/spoiler]
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Men should always pay but before you even act for paying if she says that you should pay that's just rude. Also when you are paying she should also try to pay it otherwise it's just rude again if you ask me.
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11 RepliesIf she invited you, it would only have been logical if she had paid for it. I mean, it was her idea after all.
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Edited by Gandhi 2: 5/9/2017 5:42:07 PMThe host (in this case, the lady) should pay, unless otherwise specified in the invite. [spoiler][b][i][u]WORSHIP ME[/u][/i][/b][/spoiler]
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7 RepliesMen pay, plain and simple. If it's two women, the one wearing the flannel shirt pays.
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The host pays or the bill gets split IMO
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Why don't people just split the bill on dates?
