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Edited by Froggie:
1/11/2016 8:56:16 PM
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My gf has had sex with 20 different guys
Found out that bit of info yesterday. Can't help but feel a little weird about it. I mean my views on sex have changed drastically since I've gotten older but -blam!-. If I start to dwell on it it really makes me feel like shit for some reason. How do you cope with the thought of your partner having had so many sexual partners?
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Get tested, fool!
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Damn... If that were me I wouldn't be with her personally... Just think of all the guys that's been in there... I wouldn't be able to sleep at night.. Plus you might die like Eazy E :(
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yeah that shits hard to put aside but that's what I did and it's for the best. I also have some things from my past that I'm not proud of but dwelling on the past won't change anything. it's about looking past it. I know I'm a different person then I use to be and I'm sure she's a different person then she use to be. you just gotta let it go
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3 RepliesEdited by GinjaBear: 1/7/2016 7:46:01 AMThat only means 20 guys have failed at the point where you are, out of the 20 guys she has been with, she is picking you, imagine if she had only ever slept with you, then you would wonder, "would she be happier with someone else". Now you know that she wouldn't, because she has had opportunities to be with other people, yet, she chose you. Congratulations my friend.
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Me and my girlfriend were each other's firsts. We both had relationships but never took them to that level. So we were each other's first for a lot of things. We don't have to think about that stuff, she doesn't like to sleep around and kept her V card for someone she loves and neither of us regret our choice.
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Dawg everybody has a past. She didn't know you when she had relations with those guys. If you have that big of a problem with it just leave her alone and try not to air her out on this or any other forum.
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Don't be "Stan Smith". That's all I can say. lol
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That weird feeling is telling you something, listen to it. Guy got to trust his gut. She doesn't deserve you. Dump her and move on. Let some other shlub deal with it and suffer.
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I'd move if I were you. Wouldn't want to catch std's
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It wouldn't hurt to get tested...Just saying. (There is porn stars with less partners out there)
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4 RepliesEdited by gethyn007: 1/7/2016 12:43:26 AMDid she know you then? Probably not. If not, then how can you feel bad about her living her life and going with the flow when for her, you didn't even exist? I also suspect that the relationship is fairly new. Probably not completely new, but new enough to where the relationship hasn't yet given you a solid, sense of security which takes time to achieve. Right now, you're pretty vulnerable. You're feeling hurt by her past - betrayed even - because you're having feelings for her and her past is filling you with jealousy as if she's cheated on you or something which is completely not true. Dwelling on this will only drive you crazy and can push her away. No one can change the past and they shouldn't have to want to. Whatever she's been through has led her to you. Whatever has happened has helped to make her who she is and helped her to know what she does and does not want. I tell you what, if my wife had somehow judged me not on who I was when we met but judged me on who I was when I didn't even know myself then I wouldn't have had a chance in hell. She was way outta my league and I knew it. All I use to do was party and there's no telling how many I had slept with - at least more than 20. The point is that I didn't know my wife and went through periods of believing love was a stupid trick of nature and nothing was sacred - sex meant nothing and I would never find anyone that it would work out with, never be happy. So yeah, there you go. Be happy man. Life is short. Just go with it and hope for the best. Security and trust takes time. The past is the past. Can't change it, and no need to dwell on it and let it ruin the present. Don't know if this helped at all, but hopefully it did.
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3 RepliesCould be worse.
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12 RepliesPast doesn't matter, it's about the present. You can't hold her accountable for what happened before you two dated because she's probably not the same person and she wasn't with you at the time. Also how many partners you have isn't important, I personally wouldn't have a lot, but I don't look down on people that do. Everyone can live their lives the way they seem fit, it's not really anyone's place to judge. If you're not comfortable with how many partners she's had then don't be with her, but if you are then drop the subject and don't hold it against her. She's with you now and you shouldn't let something this small ruin your relationship, especially if you're really into her.
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Buddy, I met a girl who's literally done it all and still went after her. You just gotta leave the past in the past.
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1 ReplyTo be honest it just means that she will be pretty good at sex. Practice makes perfect. Just try not to be the #21 that she tells to her next lover.
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1 ReplyMake her help find girls to have threesome with you two. Even out score
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Seperately or all 20 at the same time?
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Did she say how many times she slept with each one?
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It's not something to get caught up on. You know, as long as it was before you and not whilst with.
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Did she take your virginity? If so that explains a lot. It shouldn't bother you anyways seeing as how your the one who gets to enjoy 20 dudes worth of experience she has under her belt. If your worried about STIs or STDs ask her to get tested.
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Bro, relax. It's nothing to get worked up over. Yeah, at first you might be like "damn that's kind of a lot" but once you realize that her past is her past you'll be fine. As long as she is STD free and monogamous, what's the problem? Think of it this way, I could drive over to Tallanasty and 20 sexual partners would be the norm at that college. Another thing, say you were 30-35 and getting into a serious relationship, would you honestly care that your SO had somewhere from 30-50 sexual partners? No, you wouldn't.
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1 ReplySloppy 21st?
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13 RepliesPics or it didn't happen?
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1 ReplyWhy would you even talk about how many? That's when it gets weird, because it doesn't matter.
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2 RepliesBe happy. Succeed where they failed.
