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9/24/2020 8:33:15 AM
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DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR
after visiting my sister recently I saw the worst side of the players of this game.
my 15 year old nephew was playing one of the pvp modes, he gets invited to a private match, then his team starts abusing and messing with him. he is obviously getting upset as we hear him from the other room. I went in watched for a few minutes then took his headset and jumped into the conversation. as I used to play I can hold my own with toxic players. after a few minutes the reason they are abusing my nephew comes out. one player was on a 9 game win streak and lost the 10th and according to him my nephew didn't get double figures therefore he was the reason his streak broke.
straight up you people who cant handle losing or the fact that others are actually better than you are truly pathetic. but to attack a 15 year old who isn't the type to stoop to this level is absolutely unacceptable.
just who do you people think you are, if he talked trash and brought it upon himself I wouldn't be here. but he isn't the type, he just likes to play.
back when I played I knew the type, but this is next level.
GET IT STRAIGHT
1-THERE ARE PEOPLE BETTER THAN YOU GET OVER IT
2-ITS A GAME WHO CARES IF YOU WIN OR LOSE ITS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN REMEMBER
3-YOU CHOSE TO PLAY WITH THE CIRCUMSTANCES BUNGIE PROVIDE, STOP BLAMING EVERYONE ELSE
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2 Repliesare you gonna ask for bungies manager karen?
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They make one handed controllers for all of the consoles ya know? He may do a bit better with one of those if you insist on holding his hand.
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2 RepliesEdited by BC1 Edge: 9/24/2020 11:06:36 PMNoticing other people’s comments and your response below, people are always going to behave that way. You posting this message won’t change the way their behaviour so you need to take steps to prevent your nephew from hearing it.
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All I'm seeing is people -blam!- about how your nephew could just mute and block these players or even how he shouldn't join in parties if he can't handle it but the point is that he shouldn't have to! Why is it so hard for people just to be decent? Why should you push someone to that point where they have to mute, block or never go into a party out of fear? And for what? Because they MIGHT have damaged your streak? Of all the reasons, that is the most ridiculous and pathetic. It's players like that who make this game crap. I hope your nephew is okay and it hasn't put him off socialising as there are still some lovely people left on this game.
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Sorry to hear about your nephew people always look to blame others before themselves.
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Tbh its just unfortunate to see that something so entertaining can really bring out some bad choices from frustration, hope your nephew knows not all guardians are like that 💪
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Sorry this happened man to avoid this just change your privacy.
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13 RepliesI get you don't like your nephew being picked on but really; 1. There is a MUTE button 2. There is [i]also[/i] a Leave Group button. 3. People can be jackasses, see 1&2. He wasn't "trapped" there beyond his will to do anything.
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I’m so very sorry this has happened. I’m sorry you and your nephew were disrespected this way, and I take shame on myself for associating with behavior in this community sometimes. Please don’t give up on the whole community, these individuals will get what is coming to them. I hope the support on your plead comes though and you don’t feel the need to resent anymore. Regards, Doc
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4 RepliesEdited by Yander-7: 9/24/2020 10:53:46 PMThis is dumb. Mute. Leave match. Don't play with people like that. If he doesn't know this at FIFTEEN, then he needs someone to TEACH HIM. For God's sake, you said he's the passive type. So, tell him that the passive's best choice is to simply leave or mute. If he stays despite that advice, then it becomes his own fault. If you really want to help your nephew, don't attempt to fight his battles or change/call out the behavior of others. Changing others is not the solution to any problem. You CANNOT do that, it is impossible to force someone to change. "wah, toxic player base, wah". Yeah, no shit. We all know it's toxic. Guess what? I don't play with those people, or I mute them if I can tolerate playing with but not talking to them. It's NOT DIFFICULT. It's like you're going to a public space and whining to strangers about who your nephew let's into his room. Shut up.
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5 RepliesA couple of days ago, some PvP sweat kept messaging me on Xbox about how bad I was. Every time they sent a hate message, I responded with an emoji of food. They eventually stopped. The key is not to ignore them, but to confuse them so much that they will never want to message you again.
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Gamers being toxic.... who would have thought...
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Edited by Ghost: 9/24/2020 10:42:15 PMI'm so sorry to hear that did you or your nephew report the players responsible? Reporting and blocking someone prevents those players from trying to contact your nephew Destiny is a game meant for fun times and a great place for the Destiny community to have a friendship bond with one another it's not alright for someone to completely be rude and disrespectful towards anyone also do not delete any messages from any of the people who were harassing you or your nephew so the platform your on can look into it and take action
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Lol you don’t have much experience playing multiplayer do you
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He is 15 not 8 years old everybody deals with this kind of shit online. Don't turn him into -blam!- snowflake.
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Bullying is never ok, online or in the real world. Bully's are just pricks. You did a good thing defending your nephew, a bad thing by taking to the forums to tarnish us all with the same brush. You should consider rephrasing some of your post. It's almost like you're blaming everyone who reads it for bullying your nephew. I understand that isn't the case, but if you want support from the forums (I imagine that's why you posted here in the first place) you can't really seem to be attacking those who read your post. There are quite a few unsympathetic replies below, that could be to do with the way you worded your thread. Hope your nephew is all good and not put off the game by those pathetic idiots
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Edited by BoyarD: 9/24/2020 8:47:11 PMThere is an amazing feature called the mute button or even "leave party" or "leave fireteam". It can easily be avoided. Should teach yourself and your nephew that
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Amen! I don't think it's okay to put others down because of a game. After all, it's only 10 wins. I've gotten a higher streak in comp 😪
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2 RepliesI'm actually amazed people were even on mic ... I've been playing this game for over a month and haven't heard a single solitary tween, teen, or millennial so much as make a peep or even ask for some hot pockets in the background while playing in mommy and daddy's basement ...
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Agreed! However, as you know, those toxic jerks exist in all facets of life, in school, traditional sports, business, etc. In multiplayer gaming, your nephew just needs to either mute/block the toxic person, or just hit orbit. He doesn't owe anybody an explanation. He's there to have fun and be a decent kid, and if it's a toxic fireteam, just dump them and move on. The earlier in life he learns that he has that power, the better off he'll be. It's tricky at that age what with peer pressure, confidence issues, etc, but he'll be fine. I'm at the age where I have a zero tolerance policy for a lot of negative nonsense, but I remember being your nephew's age, and I can empathize.
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Edited by MetalliKat05: 9/24/2020 9:09:43 PMI think too many of you are missing the broader point. Quit taking the game so seriously. Quit taking your frustrations out on others. Quit blaming others for your mistakes and faults. This was never about toxicity in the game and your myriad of ways to ignore it. It’s a broader statement about the environment, the community, and the folks in it. Anyone who says, “just mute them and move on” clearly cannot empathize. I’m glad it’s that easy for you. I really am. It’s that simple for me, too. But to say those sorts of thing don’t affect me, well, that’d be a lie. Bottom line, just be a nice person. None of you would act like this face to face, so what is it really about the anonymity of the internet that makes you turn into a toxic dickbag so easily? Just stop.
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2 RepliesWhat your nephew experience is the norm with all PvP games. For me it's like joining a raid group and you have the team lead that just has to have things his way, and if you mess up they go off on you. The first sign of someone like that I'll laugh and just leave. I don't deal with kids...
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3 RepliesKids shouldn’t use microphones nor play multiplayer games at all. That’s crap parenting from your sister.
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People get mean about losing in Survival, which it sounds like he was playing. (Either that or Elimination.) We’ve all been angry about losing Survival matches, but we also have to expect losses to happen. It is not a “light and fun” mode. Haha. He can set his messaging system to friends-only and play without a headset. If his friends are being jerks, he needs to join a different clan. He shouldn’t engage. Just ignore it. Private matches are the way a lot of trolls challenge people. If he didn't know that before, he knows now, so he should just avoid those invitations. Some players enjoy trolling and feed off each other. It’s fun for them. That’s part of why people do it. My over-all experience learning how to play PVP from the ground up in Destiny has been positive. I meet more helpful and friendly players than jerks and I rarely receive hate messages, even when I have my messaging open to 'all'. I just block the few mean ones and report anything over the top.
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3 RepliesEdited by damnter: 9/24/2020 8:50:02 PMWay to many kids who haven't got a life outside Destiny take this game way to seriously. The toxicity is just discusting. 🤮 Those are the type of kids that only run meta with fully stacked teams. Using cronus controllers. Those type of kids are just sad. The sickness of the pvp-comunity. 😑
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[quote]He is 15 not 8 years old everybody deals with this kind of shit online. Don't turn him into -blam!- snowflake.[/quote] Yeah, seriously, the maturity and writing of this post makes me think you have the emotional of someone a lot less than 15, sure, people are toxic dick bags on online games, that’s why there are report functions. Tell him he can play the game without a headset if he is that sensitive and in the meantime report the douches and move on with your life. The forums aren’t the place for this drivel, we are much too busy laughing at everyone still playing this trash game to be moved by your -blam!-. There proper ways to handle it. Make use of it and get over it.
