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Edited by cdiienno:
7/12/2015 8:39:03 PM
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Is anyone slightly intimidated by finding Raid groups
It might just be me but I'm very intimidated by doing raids nowadays. I've done and finished VoG hard a bunch of times and ive done crota but I've had a couple bad experiences that have kind of made me wary of doing raids. I'm not the best player, not by far. There's been a few times when i was still level 31 and the entire raid group blamed EVERY SINGLE WIPE on me and made fun of me for not having a gally. There has been two occasions where i spoke and the rest of the raid i was being virtually humped and like some of them were shouting very rude comments at me for being a female. And probably the most annoying experience was when i got kicked by a bunch of giggling squeakers for the sole reason that i was a girl and "girls arent good gamers". From all these past experiences and the added weight of very bad social anxiety, finding a raid group can be very hard for me, at least in the recruitment forums on the app. Has anyone else had annoying situations like above or am i just unlucky with finding good groups?
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You've done VOG 3 times and you don't have a grimoire card for crota . Sounds like you had bad luck with groups you got. Try again as most of the times I went through lfg it's been fine. I don't like playing with squeakers either and if there annoying I just mute the little -blam!-ers. Specify on lfg your looking for players over 18 or something Most groups are also fine with very little communication ( if you know what your doing) . Just call out basic stuff like left or right conflux , who's doing relic etc. if your pulling your weight then it's no problem
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2 RepliesYes Crota is fine to solo but vog is a whole different story. I wish i played earlier when people had no requirements to just be in the team. To this day I've only completed vog 2 times. I'm still fairly new and I've had no luck trying to find someone/ group to teach me. (The maze part or how to handle the relic) If someone would like to be my sherpa, much appreciated.
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Edited by Andy: 7/13/2015 1:08:49 AMI ONLY raid with strangers and if anyone even tries to shit talk me I will drag them to the pits and shut them down.
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Yeah, especially lately. Don't get me wrong, I'm not the best raider out there, but I still have done it a decent number of times and I know what I'm doing. This being said, I struggle a little bit looking for people on LFG, especially because so many people sport this attitude of "No nonsense, quick run, be experienced or be kicked attitude." Unless the group is going for a flawless, no one should be getting on someone else's case about dying or even causing a wipe. No one should feel nervous to make a mistake because others in the group will complain. As for these people "looking for a quick run," look, if you don't have the patience for errors, wait for a time until you do, or get a group of friends with the same goal. There's no need to pressure a random person you just met off a website [b]unless[/b] they have specified they are also want a quick, no nonsense run.
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Edited by daddy-o_727: 7/13/2015 12:51:26 AMHonestly I very rarely raid with people I don't know. If my normal group or a good portion of my normal group isn't raiding I just don't do it. Just read some of the posts in this thread and you'll understand why.
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Easy there baby.
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I only use lfg for getting one or two randoms. And only for vog, crota is a joke when u have a gally/hunger only two people needed.
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Sure, but it's important to remember, the final decision is yours. This is why hosting is always preferable -- [i]you find your[/i] team, the one that's right [i]for you[/i] -- no need to ride others coattails.
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Not so much intimidated, just leary. I'd rather run with my clan, but the otherday nobody was on. So my one clan mate and I got a random vog group together, and couldn't get past confluxes. Then ppl started to rage quit. about that time another clan member joined us. We went to lfg picked up one random guy, and proceeded to four man that shit all the way up to Atheon where we picked up a fifth man to have two people out side. breezed right through Atheon. One of my best raid experiences using lfg. So I guess it's just hit and miss with lfg.
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Add bigSTARman on ps4 i normally play tues - thurs and sat night. Ill take you thru and show you the ropes. Ill run prisons and things w you as well. Turn you into a vet in no time. That goes for anybody else as well. Just b willing to learn.
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1 ReplyBack in my day...... You just started dancing to get a raid group to go into the vault of glass!
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I've had my share of bad groups (drunk people, those who brag too much, people with cruel senses of humor). But there have been some amazing people I've met that have made Destiny refreshing. Hang in there Guardian!
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From my experience, you don't have to be the best, just have the ability to listen and cooperate. There will be douchbag groups, and if that's the case, just leave. Eventually, when you find good groups, just ask if you can add them. Eventually, you should be able to get the majority (if not all) of a raid group just from your friends list. If you aren't confident in your skills, just stay away from the LFG groups that want a "fast run" as usually they want to get through the raid without having any major hiccups.
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Edited by a clumsy scrub: 7/13/2015 12:08:42 AMBe honest, and be willing to learn. (If you are new) Be quiet, communicate when necessary, and otherwise kick ass. (If you are just not a social butterfly) Be real, make jokes, ask genuine questions, be quiet when you dont give a shit, comment on how silent the group is if its been a while since anyone spoke. Kick ass all the way. (If you are anything like me [: ) Also you dont need gally for anything, those who claim you [u]need[/u] it are crutched players for sure, you dont need them. If shit goes down and its all your fault, just humbly apologize. If they continue to nag you: tell them "calm down" if theyre mad, or "grow up" if they think teasing someone who feels bad is funny. You have every right to voice your opinion, so just let it go bruh. There is no situation that you cant get through. Now if shit goes down and its [b]not[/b] your fault, you need to lose your shit. Dont be anyones punching bag like that. Call them immature for pointing fingers, let them know that several people were at fault, question (maybe not out loud, just think first) "why werent you helping?". But in the end say "who cares anyway, lets just try again." Remember this is the internet, you are better than anyone you meet lol. Edit: I now realize OP is a girl and I called her bruh. +10 points to me.
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I don't use the forums when I'm looking for groups, I prefer destinylfg.com . I've had a couple bad experiences but overall it's been good. I get what you're saying though, especially being female. My wife plays and has been a hard core gamer her whole life and sometimes the things I've seen her have to deal with make me smh. Feel free to add me, I'll play with you. I'll also give you her PSN if you'd like.
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2 RepliesGo to the 100. I was in the same boat, joined a week ago, done poe 32, 3 night falls, poe 34 and vog hard (up to final checkpoint, did not finish). Everyone I've met there was awesome, not one single word as it took me 9 min to get through the puzzle section, only encouragement. Wished i joined earlier, its the way to go...
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Mmm, idk I game with quite a few females on Xbox 1. I think with any raid group you gotta pick and choose though
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Add me on ps4 same as above Ill run with anyone in need of help. I Know these raids inside out.
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I was anxious the first couple times I used the boards to join raids - bc I was new to the game and to raids and I have some social anxiety in general. I was honest and posted that I wanted to learn Crota and VOG, and I hadn't done either. Never got invited or people to join. After days, I eventually had to lie and say I was experienced (sad that I had to do that). I caused a couple of wipes and had no clue what I was doing. My nerves, anxiety and blood pressure were through the roof. I left the fireteam in the middle of it. Long story short, an awesome group finally picked me up and EXPLAINED Crota, as we were doing it. Even saying what the cheeses were and what the "real" way of doing it was. Same thing for VOG the next day. Now, if I have time after doing my 32 and 34 POE during the week (I'm a parent and have less and less time for destiny) I try to run VOG normal with a random group of the boards. I look for those posting as a 30 or 31 or carrying someone else. I try to answer questions - even if they aren't asked. If others want to try relic, I encourage them, if not, I'll run it for them. This is the most fun I have in the game now. Long story short - OP, lots of people in this community have a very elitist attitude and view themselves as on a Destiny pedestal. Ignore them! You'll find the group (even randoms) that will put your mind at ease and will be excited about teaching a "new" Guardian about the things that were so exciting and fun for us in he beginning. Your anxiety will slowly wash away - and you'll soon be celebrating that Vex Mythoclast, Fatebringer and Black Hammer that you earned. And hopefully, hopefully ... You'll do the same for others shortly after. Good luck to you! :)
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There's assholes everywhere. Just keep trying. I've found 85% of people I find in LFG are pretty cool and willing to help out new people. Don't let a few bad experiences ruin the best parts of the game for you.
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Yeah while looking for trials
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Not really. I get intimidated by poe 35 recruitment
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Edited by Raider TCK: 7/12/2015 11:38:51 PMGenerally no. I have always beaten raids week 1 or release and have 70+ raid completions. I got a gjallarhorn and ice breaker the week the game came out. It's very rare that I don't end up leading the raid and being relic holder at Templar and swore user at crota. I host a lot of raids and am really happy to take new people through even if they have never done the raid before and have no idea what they are doing. If anyone on Xbox one wants to raid for the first time, don't worry about your experience or weapons you can always find groups and I will help. 'Elitists' who still think max level and gjallarhorns is a requirement of raids really don't know what they are talking about.
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Seems strange to force me to call you a scrub just because I don't find it intimidating...
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Human forge bonds by creating in and out groups. You cannot make friends until exclude someone else. Newly formed friends online, or LFG groups thrown together depend on people forging bonds quickly in order to be successful. Unfortunately, these groups can also be filled with very insecure adolescent boys who search for the weakest link so as to avoid being scrutinized themselves by their peers. Sadly, often it easy for them to pick on the women in the group (regardless of whether it is legitimate or not) because they are most identifiable (voice).
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I usually raid with my friends but I just found another group that's chill and we run all raids in one day. Probably takes 2-3 hours at most.
