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Edited by cdiienno:
7/12/2015 8:39:03 PM
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Is anyone slightly intimidated by finding Raid groups
It might just be me but I'm very intimidated by doing raids nowadays. I've done and finished VoG hard a bunch of times and ive done crota but I've had a couple bad experiences that have kind of made me wary of doing raids. I'm not the best player, not by far. There's been a few times when i was still level 31 and the entire raid group blamed EVERY SINGLE WIPE on me and made fun of me for not having a gally. There has been two occasions where i spoke and the rest of the raid i was being virtually humped and like some of them were shouting very rude comments at me for being a female. And probably the most annoying experience was when i got kicked by a bunch of giggling squeakers for the sole reason that i was a girl and "girls arent good gamers". From all these past experiences and the added weight of very bad social anxiety, finding a raid group can be very hard for me, at least in the recruitment forums on the app. Has anyone else had annoying situations like above or am i just unlucky with finding good groups?
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I was a bit apprehensive joining my first raid and that was with friends I know IRL! But the advice was "bring your best stuff and try not to die". That's all you need. No [u]need[/u] for a gjallarhorn ever, I survived fine without one just fine for a long time. Being female shouldn't discourage you, there are a few women in our clan that are no better or worse than the guys.
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1 ReplyI'm a girl, I didn't raid for the longest time (unless it was with friends but they stopped playing before the dark below) it's nerve-wracking, that's for sure. I was so used to the call of duty mentality of "oh my god a woman's voice we have to verbally harass her" Once I started doing it regularly, it was fine. MOST of the time, everyone's chill, I don't talk much but they [i]usually[/i] don't freak out when I say something. However, it still happens. I would say 1/5 raid groups there's going to be someone who just can't function properly because there's a girl speaking. As for Nightfall, Trials and PoE... In small groups I can't even remember any harassment. I also talk more during them. I only get the occasional "woah cool I'm not sure I've ever grouped with a girl in destiny" which is fine, cuz it is rare.
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I get tired of posting on LFG and seeing: must be experienced, level 34 with Gally. If they were that experienced they would know none of that is necessary, myself and another 34 took 4 first timers through 12 raids this week all V.O.G normal and V.O.G Hard and all Crota normal and Crota hard. I am on XB1, my post this week on LFG was: Must have mic, no other requirements like the rest of these clowns. Feel free if you are on XB1 to add me or send me a message, I will be doing them all again this week as I am after ascendant and radiant materials for motes for The Taken King when Xur arrives. Same goes for everyone here, we are happy to carry. We easily 4 manned oracles and templar while 2 pickups went AFK without letting me know....try not to do this as it defeats the purpose of carrying/teaching you.You will never receive any hate from me. I am exceptionally patient as are most of my team mates. GT: JD1ZZLE
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Unfortunately the maturity level on destiny is disgustingly low. I'd be happy to help you raid if bungie makes them relevant again or I'm helping others. Unfortunately I don't don't raid too often anymore since I get nothing from it.
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If you get any comments just go. Must be weird talking to a female that isn't your mother.
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2 Repliesthats the main reason whenever i raid i take leader status so i can boot harassers at anytime
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well you're a girl so you're automatically a target
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If you're on PS4, you can add me! PSN is ziFeanaro. Love raids, but hate some of the douches I have to run them with. Have a pretty good clan, and I'm sure they wouldn't mind you tagging along.
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Little kids are the worst. They seemed to have an annoying fascination with gally horn and think it defines a player -_- . Pretty shitty how they were paying you out for not having one (rng anyone ?) and because you're a girl . Keep at it! We've all had our bad experiences.
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Edited by Sturm with no Drang: 7/14/2015 6:27:33 AMNo, you're of sound mind. Personally, the problem I have is going on the forums to set up a team for VoG. I often have a better chance of getting a team by randomly getting invites and going on Patrol to farm ether chests. As for the immaturity and unprofessionalism from those past raids of yours, screw 'em. It's often those very same people that are the ones who mess up with relic and supplicants. I've done quite a few raids with squeakers who, surprise, actually acted their age and were team-players. None of that "who did that" or scapegoating stuff. And for the record: Gjallerhorn is a good RL, but get over its overratedness. Doesn't take skill to use a rocket launcher, let alone get it from a [u][b]random[/b][/u] drop on Nightfall or Raids.
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3 RepliesThough I will agree that it's ALWAYS intimating to find an lfg alone. I used to bring ONE friend with me so it was bearable and I could actually talk and not play in achward silence. Those were the days where everyone was still new to destiny and finding out that an exotic primary dosnt beat an exotic heavy( 2nd week of xur anyone? Lol) If ya feeling nervous about, feel free to add me if your on ps4, me and my usual group generally always get our raids done( unless it's the holidays or something of similar nature). And also yes being a female gamer, male gamers will have this innate feeling that they are superior than you . that's false I have plenty of female friends that can easily keep up with me. Best of wishes, IPod
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7 RepliesWhenever I get i bad group like that I just leave and find a new one. Sometimes I screw with them first tho, like getting them caught on gorgons and then self-resurrecting to waste some of their time lol.
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Maybe hard, but try and find a clan of all female players that formed for the same reason. I know theres a couple out there that ive helped. If not that then a bunch of players who just dont give a shit. Probably your best bet. I would like to believe my clan is pretty mature, but that's half lying as most of us are pretty spiteful towards each other. I can't speak for three of them either as even I don't trust them.
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Just find a reliable clan to run with. Destiny is a lot more fun that way.
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2 RepliesIf ever want to get carried (not that you are bad) or just have fun playing this game, add me! My friends and I are the most accepting and laid back guys on destiny- we are also very good. Add me, you won't regret it. :)
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2 RepliesIf you are nervous about raiding, add me. I have a very regular group that I raid with and we could carry a gamer with no thumbs. My wife gets on mic sometimes while I play too, so it's definitely not a judge mental experience. We've carried plenty of people, for hours, just so they can get through. I'm sure you'll be fine. PSN: bigricharddaddy
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Not nerves as in I nervous because it's gonna be a battle But nervous as in I hope these guys I picked up are serious I'm not trying to play VOG for more than an hour
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Your experience sounds about what I would expect from LFG. I know that being female in this community can be really rough, especially if you don't play along with all the bullshit. If you really like raiding, I guess keep trying to find a cool raid group. You may also have some better results playing with other females; you can check out some lady-clans.
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Kind of unlucky finding groups. There are a lot of assholes in this community, but they're slowly leaving. We run a few raids a week, feel free to add me Android_304 if you need help. We're assholes, but we're funny, so it's cool lol
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I'll help you or anyone else on ps4. Preferably scrubs. I want to help the lonely scrubs that can't get gear or weapons.
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Sorry to hear this. 95% of my experiences have been great. I don't raid much anymore since I've got all the gear, but if you're on PSN add Lostcityrocker. I'm just down to play with chill people
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I wouldn't worry too much about it... now that everyone knows you're a female, expect plenty of guys offering to help you.
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Yeah its probably worse for females then us males. Years ago when i was doing the vidmaster challenges for halo 3 recon myself in Australia teamed up with 2 Americans and an English guy. The Americans were very rude to us (fyi nearly all Americans i meet are cool and super polite). I guess they were frustrated at the progress. Lag was to blame however. I got fed up with their crap and told them if they didnt stfu i would disconnect my ethernet cable just as they hit the next checkpoint. They settled down after that. I wish exotic bounties were as fun as those challenges.
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9 RepliesSome people I do raids with don't talk vey much and are shy. I always try and lighten up the mood and get everyone to talk and just chill and play the game. I also try and teach people how to use the relic or sword depending on the raid group I have some people have patience and some just want to get it over with. I've taught a lot of people the mechanics of the raids and also how to relic and sword bear. I may not get rewards from doing vog 5 times a week to help newbies through it but helping new people to raids and teaching them about the sword and relic is a gjallarhorn in my book :)
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I find honesty to be the best policy when LFG. Make your own post detailing your experience etc and I think you'll find you get more positive results. I love showing people through raids, its one of the best ways to get more out of the game! It was quite frustrating however, when asking for a 32 swordbearer pre HOW and getting level 30's who'd never run Crota before. Feel free to add me, my team usually 2 or 3 man crota three times a week and you're more than welcome to join in, PSN as above - run on Eastern Australia time
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Nope. I just die and let ppl carry me. Free awards
