[quote]1. I'm sorry. I know it hurts. 2. You can't con an honest man. The fact that you gave it your all, and she didn't appreciate it doesn't reflect badly on you. It reflects badly on her. Its like the con-man who cheats people by pretending to be a charity and stealing donations. The people who donated aren't fools. The con-man is just a d!ck. 3. Life lesson: Don't make someone else your "everything". You didn't need her before you met her....and you don't need her now that she's gone. ...and you didn't really need her while you were together because she wasn't really "there" for that last year anyway. The point of a relationship is to have someone to SHARE you life and your happiness (and other experiences with). Not to be the SOURCE of your life, happiness, and other experiences. That way you are never dependant upon someone who is always free to walk away from them. Be responsible for your own happiness...and it doesn't matter what she (or any other woman) does. You can welcome them when they want to be a part of your happy life...and can contentedly show them where the door is if they choose to leave. Because---unless you mistreated her----the cheating and the leaving wasnt' about you any way. Its about her and her baggage. 4. She may not have cheated on you. She may just be an even bigger d!ck and is saying it just to hurt you, because she left and you aren't begging her to come back. In a twisted way that hurts some women's pride. They leave, but then are mad that you aren't devastated by it.[/quote] All of this. Also cut ties entirely. Dont have someone that dishonest in your life. Cheating is the lowest of the low.