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Edited by Corrick II:
4/22/2017 4:57:28 PM
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Great post.
This point needs to be made more often, it's true we didn't sign up to be surrogate parents when we started playing Destiny but part of our social contract is setting a good example for the people around us, kids especially. Like it or not, we do have a responsibility to teach the younger generations where necessary.
If you're one of the people who say "It's not my job be someone's parent", then fine, just don't say anything. But if you're a team leader with the ability to kick and you're about to do it to a kid for whatever reason (hopefully not a spiteful one), then you [i]have[/i] to calmly explain why, and also what they should do to improve in the future.
If you don't, they'll keep getting more and more spiteful as they start to blame everyone else for what's happening "to" them, not "because" of them.
Sorry, but that's just part of being human. It takes a village.
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[quote] then you have to calmly explain why, and also what they should do to improve in the future.[/quote] If they aren't being annoying etc then sure.. but its better to just get rid of them and move on, I'm not going to waste time telling them what they did wrong or how they can prevent it in the future of they're being annoying af
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I mean you don't have to spend five minutes doing it, just a quick one then boot. But sure, I get you. I did invite a player once, they join, first thing they say is "what's up, (expletives)"... they got kicked immediately. So sure, there's a very small grey area.
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That... I love that story, however short. That's really the only time I can think of to kick someone without telling them why, it's hard to miss why anyway.
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Ill agree to a quick one, something like "you aren't listening" or "you won't stop talking about irrelevant things" etc but beyond that - it's basically replace and invite someone new quickly
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I'm glad you and Corrick II agree. It's not so much the kids I was commenting on anyways, it's more about the adults who refuse to act with maturity, who don't get that by accepting a kid into their fireteam/party that they've already accepted responsibility for that kid after a fashion. No need to baby them, no need to hold their hand, but the kinder you treat them the fewer excuses they have for themselves when you let them go. And trust me, most kids pick up on that fast.
