Finally something worth putting effort to lol First I'll hit you with a quote from the book "The Superior Man" "Admit to yourself that if you had to choose one or the other, the perfect intimate relationship or achieving your highest purpose in life, you would choose to succeed at your purpose. Just this self-knowledge often relieves much pressure a man feels to prioritize his relationship when, in fact, it is not his highest priority. Your mission is your priority. Unless you know your mission and have aligned your life to it, your core will feel empty. Your presence in the world will be weakened" This is probably the toughest challenge in your life yet. It's an important thing to note that EVERYONE goes through heartbreak man. We might feel like our situation is so unique, but other great men have been in your position before and come out on top. It will build you into a stronger man. You do NOT need her. Stop telling yourself that, it is a toxic mindset to have the idea that you need anyone to make your life complete. It's going to hurt a ton, but understanding that you need to go through it to get over her is essential for recovery. Do not give up your hobbies, do not fall into a depressive state where you do nothing. Use everything in your power to push through and be more productive than ever before.