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Edited by NightMist:
4/13/2015 11:31:47 PM
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Question for the Ladies! Gentlemen feel free to comment.
How do you feel about who pays in a first date?
Bonus question: If you are homosexual, do these issues still come up?
Fellas, what are some of your experiences with this?
Edit: so far the poll is in favor of the guy paying. The comments are in favor of who ever initiated the date or picked the place paying, unless you just want to pay.
Edit2: I know I messed up the poll and guys are filling up most of options 1 & 4. (But mostly 1)
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I play Rock Paper Scissors for it :3
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7 RepliesDoes anybody hate it when a women tries to refuse when you've offered to pay the bill? I don't want to argue with you for 2 minutes about who should pay the bill. Just let me do it in peace.
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Interesting to see chivalry isn't dead.
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Edited by CrimsonIXEspada: 4/13/2015 11:42:22 PMFirst few dates? Guy pays. After you and the girl are already an item and have so for a while (at least 4-6 months), then the girl can pay or chip in. Or if it's just a female friend, be a gentleman and pay. But let her pay if he insists.
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I pay even if it's not a date. I'm a gentleman, when a woman (even just a friend) is with me, I hold open the doors, follow her up the stairs, lead her down them. I always pay, this is non-negotiable. It's called being gracious and good host.
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Guys always unless there's a strong long relationship and she's got the cash and he's low.
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3 RepliesIt's the first date. The idea is just to get to know one another; splashing out unnecessarily is not a good idea imo. If this person is right for you, there will be plenty of time to buy them dinner in the future. Why rush it? Second, third, fourth dates etc. those are the times one party can legitimately pay the whole bill; because you already know each other and you can genuinely use it to say something, but on the first date it feels just a little bit corny imo.
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1 Reply5% feminazis
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4 RepliesEdited by AmberlanceXD: 4/12/2015 7:46:54 PMSpilt or I pay I'd feel bad if he paid for me
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I prefer paying, being the alpha blooded make I am.
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I'm a guy who believes in gender equality. I say split it.
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Begs for equality. Still thinks the guy should pay for her and have to look after her
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5 Replies[quote]Gentlemen feel free to comment.[/quote] This goes without saying on the internet. Anyway, I think I can help explain what gay couples do, because it is a little different from straight ones. Since men are expected to pay for the meal, things can be a little complicated when two men go out. A good compromise is for them to go to the restaurant together but then sit at separate tables and order separate meals; this allows them to fulfill the role of provider by fully paying for their own meals. Lesbian couples have the opposite problem. Since neither woman on the date is biologically able to pay for her meals, dining and dashing is a preferred method. It is considered polite to leave a note to the waiter explaining the circumstances, and they generally understand.
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I'm old fashioned. I think the man should pay the majority of the time. However, it's nice when the lady can step up and show that she can provide for the two of us as well. This is not a "She's incapable of affording a meal for the two of us" thing, it's a "I like you so much that I [i]want[/i] to pay for you" thing.
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6 RepliesDepends on who asked who out If the guy asked the girl out and is taking her to the date, he should prepare all the necessary arrangements including payment If the girl asks the guy out, then same principle Same for homosexuals
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1 ReplyWomen seem to always want a higher standing in business but seem to also still want men to pay for everything. I'm not saying either gender should pay more than the other, but if you're making money and CAN pay, then why wouldn't you offer? The more money you get, the more you'll have to pay.
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2 RepliesWhere's the "work it out like adults" option? Payments should be decided beforehand between the two people going out on the date. It can be determined based on several factors: -financial situation of both parties -location of date (this can determine how expensive the date will be) -If someone immediately offered to pay everything up front. You have to keep in mind that most women (assuming this is a date between a man and a woman) do not make as much as their male peers in most fields and often don't make as much as their spouses/significant others. When I was a broke college kid, I would often bring the fact of my financial situation up to potential dates, offering to go some place I can afford to pay for myself. However, if someone insisted upon taking me somewhere I couldn't afford, I'd tell them that because I couldn't afford to eat there, I wasn't going to pay fully for my meal. Don't take someone to a place they can't afford and expect them to pay. And if you do pay for their meal, don't expect any "favors" in return. Set up the expectations ahead of time. Don't play stupid little games with gender roles for dining. If this person is a potential spouse or already your spouse, why not treat them like an equal and not assume the worst when it comes to paying? And if they're always duping you into paying for them, then maybe you're hanging out with the wrong person.
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1 ReplyEdited by With Reverence: 4/13/2015 3:29:56 PMYou should've made another choice that said "I'm a guy but wanted to see the results"
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I'll assume I'm paying for myself unless he offers to pay. If he offers, I'm not going to fight it or anything.
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Always split the bill with him
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On a first date, a guy should, but I don't think that he has to bend over backwards to always pay
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1 ReplyI payed for the first date with my girlfriend, but that's because I got to the theatre first and bought the ticket for her. But we've both payed for stuff equally, we don't make a big deal about it. I think you should offer to pay for whoever you're taking on a date, but if they want to pay for themselves then let them.
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I pay one. She pays the next. Or vice versa.
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2 RepliesEdited by Charlemagne: 4/12/2015 3:22:19 AMThis is actually a good question but I do believe an answer has been created. The current custom is that, on a first date, if you haven't discussed who pays be prepared to pay, but the person who asked the other person out should expected to pay. Edit: Saw this on reddit a while back and most people agreed that this was the new norm.
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Splitting the bill is fair, I think it's rude to go to dinner with someone expecting them to pay unless they offered to.
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1 ReplyThe guy should pay. Men are the providers, showing you can support your woman financially is part of that. Yes I still believe in basic traditional gender roles. And many women still look for those qualities, just like men do. Its part of our biology. [spoiler]this is my opinion, I don't care if you disagree[/spoiler]
