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由Nephilim713编辑：
11/7/2014 3:10:57 AM
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How can people be so daft?
A family member of one of my professors died yesterday and as a result, class was cancelled. Today, in another class for my program, we were just about to begin the seminar. Prior to this class, one nice friend of mine was passing around a card to sign so we can pay our respects to our professor's family member so we can try to make her feel better, when she arrives next week.
Okay, here is the ridiculously arsehole part of this story. So back in the other seminar, yeah? My friend decides to pass the card around so others can sign regardless of if they had her or not. My friend even explained with a nice smile that it would be nice to sign even if they never had her. Everything is going well until the card goes to two girls in front of me (who I never talk to) because I do not really like their style. ARE YOU -blam!-ING SERIOUS? They just looked at the card and one said to the other "We don't need to sign this because it doesn't matter" This is coming from girls who have been 3-4 years in my program now. Therefore, my initial reaction was that they never had said professor. They just passed it around as if it was nothing. Every single person's name was on it except them. How can you be so cold/daft? Holy shit, man and these people got in this hard program. Haha, wow. I thought they were nice people except for their style, but Jesus Christ.
I honestly looked at them with a mean look and so did others. They knew we were disappointed in them. After class, I decided to be brave and approach them. I asked, "Why didn't you sign the card?" They replied, "Yes we did" Ha-ha, no, no you did not, is what I said. They then said we have nothing against you so leave us alone. I was brave and called them shit for not signing the card. The best part is that people agreed with me. I hope they gained something from me, and when I told my friend, she said they were horrible people. Every student might see this professor every day, considering our program is damn competitive so not everybody gets in.
This is just pure stupidity. WHY would some people ever do this?
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2 回复Who the -blam!- are you telling someone what they should sign? Cards are just garbage anyway with the most unicorny, fairy landish, candytastic, horseshit messages people can think of. I would've pimped slapped your ass for speaking to me like that!
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The definition of "bitches". The post was tl;dr, but the gist was, [b]The professor got hurt or sick or something, so your class got him a card. 2 girls that have been 4 years of the program were too bigoted to sign it. OP calls them out, they flee. OP looks cool in front of supporters.[/b]
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I never sign cards at work if I've only known of the person rather than actually know them. Things like leaving cards, congratulations on your baby cards, marriage cards, anything like that doesn't get signed unless I actually knew the person rather than just passed by them and I fully expect the same in return if people decide to pass a card round for me. The last thing I'd want is an empty signature on a card from someone I've never or hardly talked to. Maybe the girls in your brave little escapade feel the same way. Treat others as you wish to be treated and all that.
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3 回复They must not have had any sort of personal connection with the professor. It'd be worse to send empty condolences rather than being honest, it's better to be straight up. Being fake when dealing with someone's death is just as -blam!-ed up, and I can guarantee you, in 2 months the majority of the people that signed the cards will have forgotten about the entire incident. Also, maybe... Look, we can go off of what ifs, and what they felt, and what you felt, but the point is, they're not obligated to do anything in this situation.
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7 回复Well, it could also be insensitive going around and blabbing about your professor's death in the family. When my grandfather died, the last thing I wanted was for people to come up to me and remind me over and over again what had happened. Perhaps they understood this, and weren't signing the card out of privacy concerns? Or maybe they thought it was inappropriate coming from them if they didn't know the professor personally? I don't know about you, but if one of my classmates who I wasn't close to [i]at all[/i] walked up to me after my grandfather's passing and tried to console me, I might have smacked them upside the head. It's uncomfortable enough dealing with death; you don't need random people butting into your life, too. I can appreciate your sentiment. It is very sweet. But you don't know the whole story, and they may not have wanted to call you out for invading your professor's privacy. Calling them assholes is likely going to do the exact opposite of what you were hoping it would do; I doubt they will be kind to you in the future, or that they will track down the professor/card to offer condolences. Just some food for thought.
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1 回复Who really cares if they didn't sign it? They're not hurting anyone. People should do what they want without fuсkfaces trying to shame them because they didn't do what everyone else did.
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1 回复This thread just looks like its you promoting how 'brave' you are, I mean, you literally said 'I was brave'
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12 回复由Upperclass Bum编辑： 11/7/2014 2:10:24 AMHow is any of what you described an idication of them - or rather people in general, since your title says people - being [i]daft[/i]? They aren't stupid, they just don't care nor do they have to. Get over yourself, dude...
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5 回复There is nothing wrong about not signing a card to a person you don't know. It'd be the same thing if someone asked you to sign a get well card to a person in another country you never met. If you sign a card for a person you don't care for all that signature is, is just ink on paper and nothing more. Might as well be like signing for a package delivered by fedex. There is nothing special about it and I'm sure the professor knows the same.
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15 回复Like stated before they are not daft as in [quote]#idiots[/quote] daft, so your thread is wrong. They are insensitive at most; and you can't really force them too, even though they should have just done it and gotten it over with instead of causing drama. Also; from down below, I believe you are the daft one here, friend.
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6 回复Death is a part of life, get over it. If I were a teacher in this situation I wouldn't want students signing a card giving their condolences, while yes it is respectful, signing a card is pitiful, literally. You are signing it out pity, and half the time you may not even that well acquainted with the person the cards being given to, empathy is one thing, but sympathy in this situation is only happening because it's "right" and if you didn't give sympathy, a negative opinion would fall upon you. That's completely fake, undesirable, and pathetic. I feel like funerals are idiotic as well, waste of money, waste of everyone's time, when I die I want my family to respect me as the man I was, maybe celebrate my life with a formal dinner or something, and use the 5k usually spent on a funeral to go on a vacation to get over the grief of losing a loved one. Why the fûck should my family be paying 5k just so everyone out of my immediate family can go to an old dusty house to see me in my final resting place to watch my immediate family grieve over me. It's an entirely pitiful experience, by definition. It wastes everyone's time, and is just a 3 hour flashing light in everyone of my immediate family's eyes saying "hey guess what, mikes dead haha motherfûcker good luck next time"
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5 回复You can't nor should you force people to grieve. Why would you want those indecent people to sign a meaningful card like that anyway? I know I wouldn't. People have their opinions.
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6 回复由Pheonix编辑： 11/7/2014 1:42:29 AMIf they didn't have the professor, I can't really blame them. If they did, it's really not as big of a deal as you're making it out to be. I doubt they had a close personal connection to the guy.
