Or, in the case of my bisexual and lesbian friends, women? I just don't understand this. Why be afraid? If they don't return the affection, so what? Get that disappointment done and over with. Why torture yourself by keeping it pent up and secret? Just tell him. Just do it, girl. What's the problem? He has a girlfriend? Well, shit, maybe he wouldn't if you had approached him before she did. Tell him anyway, just don't try to get with somebody else's boy. Seriously, what's the deal? Talk to me Flood.