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7/16/2013 5:49:39 PM
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I know I've already posted on this thread months ago, and my reply still stands; I've accepted it but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm okay with it.
Actually, me and my mother was discussing this topic yesterday, because lately I've been really dreading going out in public. It seems like I can't go to the drug store, grocery store, the mall, etc, without feeling extremely uncomfortable by having these men, which are clearly old enough to be my father (or some even grandfather) making it bluntly obviously they're sizing me up. It's completely disgusting and before someone makes a comment saying; "Well, cover yourself up more", when it's 30 C, I'm not going to wear a sweater and jeans because grown men can't keep their eyes to themselves. Even in the winter, it happens, but lately it's been so much worse, to the point I usually decline my friend's invites to go shopping. It's not flattering, it's not cute, it's gross.
It makes me wonder, what exactly makes these grown, older men, (sometimes even with their wives) think it's okay, to size up a young girl, that's clearly young enough to be their daughter, and to have no shame doing so? Perhaps they're just perverted, but why are there so damn many of them? Why do it happen so frequently? I honestly believe it's due to the media, which constantly show these men (of all ages) that woman are objects and it's okay to view them as such. It's okay to size them up from head to toe, although you may make them feel uncomfortable because that's what they're there for. Their body is for your viewing pleasure, and I think a lot of men carry this mindset into the public.
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Well, one expected way is that my girlfriend has to deal with it. Almost every time she goes out to the mall or somewhere populated, she gets the eye from every other male specimen that happens by. One day I'll get the chance to say something to one of them, etc, etc, you know how this story goes. The fun part is that I actually have to deal with it sometimes. I don't get it whenever I go out in public like some people do, but I do have to deal with a guy that likes to make much more than just one-too-many sexual nudges. I hate the guy to begin with, so hearing him make innuendos on everything I say is [i]very[/i] irritating. I can't even make a joke around him without feeling his breath on the back of my neck.
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[quote]Well, one expected way is that my girlfriend has to deal with it. Almost every time she goes out to the mall or somewhere populated, she gets the eye from every other male specimen that happens by. One day I'll get the chance to say something to one of them, etc, etc, you know how this story goes.[/quote] Ahh, yeah. I guess in that sense some males can understand pretty well how annoying it can be. My boyfriend himself hates it whenever I work, or when we go out to a club/bar for the same reason, but I expect it at those places. I just hate it more, (perhaps because I'm sober) when I'm out in places like malls and whatnot. I just feel like it's more inappropriate there. [quote] The fun part is that I actually have to deal with it sometimes. I don't get it whenever I go out in public like some people do, but I do have to deal with a guy that likes to make much more than just one-too-many sexual nudges. I hate the guy to begin with, so hearing him make innuendos on everything I say is very irritating. I can't even make a joke around him without feeling his breath on the back of my neck.[/quote] I'm sorry you have to go through with that. I can see how that would be very uncomfortable. Have you ever told him you didn't like it whenever he acted that way?
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[quote]I'm sorry you have to go through with that. I can see how that would be very uncomfortable. Have you ever told him you didn't like it whenever he acted that way?[/quote]I don't see him often, so it's not something that I'm consistently bothered with.
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its funny because well its not funny but your situation reminds me of the time I was hanging out with a friend but she could not stop telling me that my other friend that was with us was making her uncomfortable. She was telling me that he was staring her down but I didnt believe her. Low and behold a week later my friend that was staring at her was telling me that he had a tremendous crush on her and thanks for not ratting him out when he was staring st her. The hell my ignorance caused her to be exploited or whatever you call it. perhaps over sexualization will soon end.
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Lol. By the sounds of it he made his crush quite obvious. It's hard for many males to really understand the situation us females can be put in once in public, so it's easy to be ignorant towards the subject. Don't feel bad.
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由MajorTugh编辑： 7/19/2013 2:28:26 PMstill I probably should have been more aware. And now the more I pay attetion the more I see it. Im not going to go all white knight as they call it but its really disgusting when I see. Where I live it is so bad I dont even bother to try and stop it. It makes me wonder why do I even bother trying to? Especially when 99% of the people who get mad for you noticing is the girl who was getting stared at (well at least where I live). My friends mock me and tell me just to be like the rest but I will still try to change the world and keep being told Im too nice or man up. Sorry for ranting/wasting ur time/the long post just needed to get that off my chest.:(
