So I have been talking to this girl for about six months. I was interested in her and she eventually figured out. I finally asked her out and she said she was in a relationship. She said she would definitely go out with me if she wasn't in a relationship. I waited and waited and finally she broke up with the guy and I asked her out again. Her reply was "O, I thought we were just friends".
FML
How do you avoid this?
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[quote]Her reply was "O, I thought we were just friends".[/quote] If she is that forgetful, stupid or mean that she said that even though she said she would definitely go out with you. Don't waste your time with her. To me it seems like she just said that to make you feel better.
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Yeah if after 6 months you didn't know she was with someone its pretty obvious you weren't as close as you thought you were. You overthought it and didn't but enough of those thoughts into action. You [b]were/are[/b] just friends. Friend Zone is a state of mind, get over it, move on.
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4 回复You weren't alpha enough. When she first said no is when you seduce her and make her cheat on her then boyfriend, perhaps making use of your old friends alcohol and roofies. Then you degrade her into thinking she can do no better than you because she is a cheating whore. Once you have her in, you slowly unravel her life, banning her from seeing friends and family. If she backtalks, you beat her with bags of oranges so you don't leave marks - but always apologize profusely after. Or, you could just move on.
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2 回复Keep trying until she realizes that you want a relationship instead of just a friendship.
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As I'm sure Jay would crop up and say, "there's no such thing as the friendzone". In all honesty, I believe this to be true. I thought that I was friendzoned by someone I'd truly fallen for a few years back, but I'd say the friendzone is more something we come up with as an excuse for them not being interested in being anything more than friends. Sure you might wish for them to be a romantic partner, but if you're only friends for that purpose it's not really a friendship. And I stand accused of having done that many a time, and now I realise it. If you stop looking for a relationship in something, it makes it easier to make new friends and meet new people. Then you might find yourself in a situation where there is mutual attraction, but it often takes time. If you wait for one person, you get hurt, as I know. If a girl tells you they'd go out with you if it weren't for this or that, it's them giving you an opportunity to break off from that pursuit and find someone else. Though girls word certain things one way, they mean something else. When you understand that, life becomes so much easier.
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I think of all of us can relate to a situation like that but I must be blunt. The [u][b]only[/b][/u] way to avoid being freindzoned is not to prevent getting there in the first place. Once you have been friendzoned, there is no way out.