The OP, or my conversation with you? In the first case, it would be my compassionate nature which prompted me to share my understanding of how best to avoid a great deal of pain. In the second, it would be my sense of decorum that moved me, although if my initial criticism offended you I apologise, I merely thought to nurture a sense of camaraderie and join in the spirit of the blossoming exchange so as not to be thought a prig.