Well, you can blame other players for most of that. Specifically, if you don't rush through content, you often end up doing raids once a lot of people have already mastered it. And sometimes, you do the raid with impatient people you don't know all that well. So it's quite possible to do your first few runs of a raid not running any relic at all (be it VOG, CE, or KF). Then you get up being afraid to take the relic, because you actually don't know what you should be doing, and you're very much aware you're going to get your team to wipe the first few tries around. You can change that. Just spend a few runs offering people to let them try out the relic (or take golgoroth's gaze), and figure out what they should be doing. Be very obvious about it. You have no idea how many people have had exactly zero chance of learning how to do that thanks to impatient people.