i've never raided but i have gotten "um...are you a girl or a boy?" once from a 14 yr old kid that afterwards made a weird mexican joke and kicked me out.
i joined an all girl clan thats realllyyy active and there's always raids happening. i joined recently and they're very nice. if you join make sure to find their band app link because that's where all the planned raid/crucible/etc stuff happens.
regardless if you join or not, i hope you find some awesome, nice people to play with! https://www.bungie.net/nl/Clan/Forum/584799