Why is it that we find it humane to put a much loved pet down, but when I family member is dying, we force them to suffer? I watched my grandmother die slowly. Alzheimer's ate her mind away and caused her to die. No, it was not the actual cause of death, but it contributed to her not taking her meds, over dosing on her meds sometimes, things like that. She was in pain, she was confused and she was begging us to send her home to her family. I don't think she meant here on Earth, because she was a devout Catholic, she believed in the after life. Why do we make our own loved ones suffer, while we consider it a good thing to release our pets? No, I am not talking about angsty teen wanting to leave it all behind, I mean strictly our family members who are dying of disease or cancer, etc and are in agony. Forgive me, she passed away 6 years ago and I have never figured out how to deal with it. She raised me while my mom worked, she taught me how to think through puzzles, she was a tinkerer and an amazing woman and I have carried the guilt of her looking in my eyes and asking me to send her home for all these years and that post really hit home with me. [spoiler]Before you ask why she was not in a home, we did get her there finally, there werw family issues with my uncle's not wanting to admit Gramma was sick, but my mother, who was working and could not take care of her, I have my own family and I am 4 hours away, my sister tried to help my mom, but it was a cluster and I don't want to get any deeper into it, if you don't mind.[/spoiler]