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由Ogma: Destroyer of Worlds編輯：
8/10/2016 11:34:23 PM
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Found a cute nerdy girl that I'm dating but....
....she has two kids and is a busy person. I have no desire to have children. Never have. She knows this. She isn't a kid person either, admittedly. She's honest, and weird. The good weird. Which I like. She wants me to teach her to play video games. She's also self admittedly kind of a freak, which I will likely find out soon. Not sure how far I want it to go though in case I can't get past the kids thing. We're both in our early thirties, neither one of us really want random sex with strangers. We connect very well, minus the kids thing.
What do?
Edit: We had the conversation and decided to end it. It really sucks because we connected so well otherwise. I'm really bummed right now.
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1 回覆Just keep moving. You could likely find another nerdy girl [without priorities and 5-10 years younger] at PetSmart or GameStop.
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7 回覆Single parents have enough to deal with without having their heart broken. If you can't get passed the kids, don't sleep with her and end the relationship tonight.
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I've never been a fan of a woman with baggage. 1 kid is permissable, but 2 is a lot! You know the father of those kids will always be in the picture. The problem with that is women are usually vulnerable to rekindlement. You'll be kicking yourself when she says "something happened" that she needs to tell you. That will be the time she says shes going back to the father of her children because its the right thing to do. Im not saying this out of my own experience but from 5 friends who went through that. [spoiler]Ive got 2 kids and its a ton of work and sacrifice!!!!![/spoiler] [spoiler]start with a clean spree. [/spoiler]
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Dont be a douche and take in kids if you aren't going to be like a dedicated father figure to thm. Be friends but don't do stupid shit. If you care enough you'd take her with all her luggage. And what a dedicated mother she is if she didn't really want kids to begin with lol, says a lot about that kind of a mother.
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2 回覆Run. If you aren't ready and don't want to deal with kids don't do it. You'll regret it and break both your hearts.
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1 回覆Be completely honest, tell her you like her but you're not a person who plans on kids. You might warm to the kids
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2 回覆It depends on how old the kids are, imo. But it ultimately shouldn't matter if you like her enough.
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3 回覆Sell them to African slave traders and tell her you lost them in your local Wal-Mart. Crisis averted.
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