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4/28/2017 6:03:50 PM
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Stupid relationship poll
So I get it this isn't meant to really be about things outside of gaming but I just want to see what people think and get a point across.
My boyfriend thinks that who he adds or messages let alone give out personal information to is none of my business. Recently he added three girls and would not tell me if he got their numbers or not and told me to "get off his ass"
I understand how it wouldn't be my business if I wasn't in a three year relationship with him but I believe that it is my right as his girlfriend to know who he's talking to and why he's hiding all these girls from me.
Let me know in the comments if you think it's right or not.
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What's his reasoning for not letting you? If you have a history of harrassing his female friends then I may agree with him. But, if you don't then I would talk to him and find out why. Disclosure of information in a relationship is best done voluntarily. If he has a history of cheating then you definitely need to talk to him about this.
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4 回复由Nixtress编辑： 4/29/2017 3:54:21 PM
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You do not have a [i]right[/i] to know. But he does reserve the right to his privacy. He's done unfaithful things before and you've chosen to stay with him for whatever reason, but now it seems that he is heading down the same path yet again. Personally, I think you should grow a backbone and break things off with him before you two get married. No, it won't be easy, but it'll be much easier than having to get a divorce when/if he does cheat. The kid obviously doesn't "love" you if he cheated on you before. You're simply allowing yourself to be treated like shit. If you decide to stay with him and he cheats (again), you deserve it and it's nobodys fault but yours for allowing it. Hate to be blunt, (not really), but that's just how it is.
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The ground work for a strong relationship is trust. If that does not exist, the entire relationship is weak and shakey. You each will remain to have independent lives even if married. He was he before he met you, and you were you. However, something as obvious as what he is doing shouldn't go unnoticed of course. My personal opinion? Don't waste your time on someone who seemed to get bent out of shape so easily about social media. There's no point for a man to wonder off and want to speak to more females when he already has 1 he should be serious about. Unless he already knew those women from somewhere, like old school friends, co workers, etc...the plot just thickens in a story you shouldn't want to be a part of. Someone might say you're insecure about yourself because how you're handling the situation. Someone else will say you're stupid if you let it go unnoticed. Which would you rather be?
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2 回复Your motto says "happily married" yet you refer to your spouse as a boyfriend. Are you both cheating on each other? Is there more to this plot? My questions do not end.
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3 回复由Celestial-bEing编辑： 4/28/2017 8:31:48 PM#offtopic is for anything, doesn't have to be about gaming. And if he's adding girls and not telling you if he gave them his number or he's hiding girls from you then he's probably doing some sus shit with them tbh.
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6 回复Maybe you're a bit insecure judging by the fact that you get worried by your boyfriend simply associating with females, definitely a lot jealousy going on there. On the other hand, if he has a history of dishonesty then he's probably at it again.
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Communication is 100% key in a relationship. I hate to say it but he's acting fishy af. I've cheated and been cheated on, so I know the signs. I got three guesses: 1. He cheatin. He is definitely hiding that stuff for a reason. 2. He likes the girls but doesn't have the balls to pursue them as a single man. 3. He thinks you are the jealous type and doesn't want to accidentally hurt you with what he's saying to the girls, despite not liking them. Explanation for that last one: I had a female friend who I wouldn't really mention a whole lot to my gf because she was always afraid I would fall for her even though i have assured her multiple times i had no feelings for her (I really didnt). Best of luck!
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Yeah, you have the right to know if he's cheating on you with one (or all three) of those girls. Now I'm not saying he is (I don't know what kind of guy he is) but if he's hiding them from you I'd get suspicious. I say make him choose but be prepared for either choice.
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8 回复You're in the right, and I'm surprised you haven't gone through his shit yet. It's a woman's right of passage. I'm all for privacy, but only when trust is also involved.
