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7/5/2025 4:08:31 AM
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What is wrong with me?
I’ve never had marriage as a goal in my life. In facet, I’ve never had trying to have a girlfriend as a goal (in context, I am a male) I’ve always seen being in such a relationship would do nothing but hold someone down financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically.
From all the married couples I see or any couple, they always have to make sure they are caring for the other person and making sure they have their needs. But I feel this makes life so much harder, especially with kids.
Think of a life without kids or with someone you “love”, imagine how much more happy and successful you would be in your life without such distractions.
It also seems just so illogical to be in a relationship with someone. You just throw the rest of your life away having to do nothing but care for the person you “love” and if you have kids, it’s worse.
Also, what is love supposed to be? Is it an emotion, a state of mind. I understand liking someone like having a crush on them, but what does it mean to LOVE someone.
What also doesn’t make sense is why would I like anyone if there will ALWAYS be people more beautiful, more kind, or just more in every way. And why would anyone like me if there will ALWAYS be people stronger, faster, taller, more handsome, and better in every way.
All of my friends are constantly trying to get girls to get into a relationship. But with all of this said, what’s wrong with me and why don’t I have the same feelings?
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2 回覆There's nothing wrong with not wanting a romantic relationship. It just means either: A. It's not something you understand right now, but you may grow to understand later B. You're aro/aroace With A, this is a very common thing that happens with most people. They often don't really care for romance when they're younger, but as they grow up they develop a desire for it. B is less common, but just because it's uncommon doesn't mean there's anything wrong with it. Ultimately, if you're content and happy not being in a relationship, then by all means, you don't have to be in one. Aro/aroace is considered to be part of the LGBTQ+ community, so if you feel isolated, or alone, or wrong for not wanting a relationship, you could try to find likeminded individuals within those circles. If you're wanting an explanation for why other people desire love so badly, though, it's pretty simple. It gives people security, and peace of mind. It makes them happy. Most people are not comfortable alone, and when they can't seem to find a relationship, it tends to undermine their self esteem. They feel ugly, or unlikeable, etc. Or in other words, you mention above to imagine a life where you don't have a family to take care of. For you, that may be a happy thought, but for others, it's usually a very depressing one.
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1 回覆Nothing is wrong with you. I never wanted a relationship either. I don’t have feelings for anyone and to me that’s okay.
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