Possible options include 1. Explain to her that, while she [i]is[/i] the most important person in your life, you need time for yourself and can't be expected to be doing nothing whenever she wants. That's pretty much it. Shit if I had bothered to do this 9-ish years ago who knows, maybe id still be with my first girlfriend. Maybe. But no one has the right to expect you to drop whatever you're doing just for them. As for the playing single player games when she visits, just let her from time to time. She might be trying the game out to see if she likes it.