Does Bungie.net say you already are properly linked? You can find your status in the Refer-a-Friend tab. If you are properly linked, you both will have to pick up a special quest from the Speaker. If you are not properly linked you will have to link each other first. Note a few things: -you both need The Taken King purchased under your own profile to be eligible for referral (looks like you fulfill this criteria) -you both need to complete the introduction Story Mission "A Guardian Rises" (also seems that you've completed this) -it can take up to one hour that your linking is confirmed on Bungie.net --if you have linked each other but it is not completing, please check if it shoes you any error ---you also can simply stop the linking, your friend creates a new link and you start the linking process again Since all this may sound complicated, here is Bungie's official Refer-A-Friend FAQ: http://www.bungie.net/en/Help/Article/13962 It may help you out with things I've not listed. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me.