I wanted to quickly share a little convo that took place the other day. This guy was referred to me by a friend because he wanted me to build a PC for him. For those of you who know me, I love building PCs and I turned that into a little side hobby of mine, helping out a few friends and after about two years I became known around my neighborhood and my little circle of friends as the go-to PC girl haha. It started with my brother who helped build my first gaming PC just so I can play with him and spend some time with him and eventually I got hooked and fell in love with it. I've gotten so obsessed that I've even taken apart my own PC and put it back together a few times haha. I'm weird like that.
Anyways, long story short we chatted on Discord and one phrase that came out of his mouth really stood out and struck me a bit: "pretty girls aren't supposed to be smart."
What exactly does that mean? Is it that weird for us to be doing stuff like this? Maybe PC building is a guy-only area of expertise? I'm no feminist but it doesn't take one to realize how disturbing society's view on women can sometimes be. And it's not just PC building, I get the same reaction when I tell my friends I play games. I was wearing a Destiny shirt the other day and a few guys came up to me and asked what console MY BOYFRIEND PLAYED ON. Lmao. Like, helloo?? I'm right here???? I play games too, ya know?
There are no such things as girl gamers. We're just gamers. There are also those of us who love tech. Like PC building. It's something I love to do so much I don't even charge extra to put together the PCs. Yeah, I don't make any money from it lol. But that's beside the point. Don't judge a book by its cover, and this goes with anything really. You might be surprised to see what's inside ;)
Anyways, mini rant over I just wanted to share that. I just thought it was a little weird. Hope everyone is having a good day and yes, Lady Ghost is back. Kinda. You probably won't see me around as much but I'll poke my head in here once in a while :)
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Sounds like he just tried to hit on you and failed miserably.
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Bad way of trying to complement your looks?
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Neeeeeeeerds!
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1 RespuestaThe trick is to be pretty enough so intelligence is no longer required.
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Pretty sure he's just bad at hitting on girls
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1 RespuestaEditado por pValue2010: 6/15/2017 12:48:04 PMTL;DR: someone hit on you indirectly. In a non assertive way, he called you pretty and smart. It's a tactic us beta males use all time.
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7 RespuestasNo girl is pretty in my opinion.
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3 RespuestasExcept youre a man.
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3 RespuestasIt's hard for boys to comprehend that some of us are just perfect
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1 RespuestaI don't know why you surround yourself with idiots. Might need some better homies.
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5 RespuestasIt's true. I'm a very pretty lady, but i r dum..
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No, it's because you don't have to be smart to build a PC.
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Hell I think girls are smarter than guys. I'd trust girls with anything rather than a guy. Unfortunately, it somewhat limits my list of joke. Somewhat
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5 Respuestas...and girls say guys are stupid when it comes to flirting. He hit on you with that line. Also I thought you were leaving fam? Water chu doin hur?
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7 RespuestasWhen I was in highschool the whole pretty but dumb stereotype held up. There were so many popular pretty girls, yet they were dumb as a brick. Asking things like "Is water alive" or "did Hitler know what he was doing was wrong?" But you are forgetting the flip side of the stereotype, guys being athletic/jockish/popular yet dumb as hell. This also held up in my old high school. No doubt there are attractive people who are also smart, but not a lot. Speaking from my 19 years of life thus far. [spoiler]On another note, how goes it? Been a while since I seen you around these parts![/spoiler]
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1 RespuestaMen>women
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5 RespuestasWould pretty smart girls be sensible enough to go for a Planar Theorist?
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2 Respuestas"Goodbye #Offtopic"
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12 Respuestas[quote]What exactly does that mean?[/quote]Human interaction between sexes tends to come down to either parent-child dynamic, or potential mate dynamic. Women's value as a potential mate comes from their genetic suitability to bear children, and so much of male interaction with young women is going to be based around evaluating that potential. Intelligence tends to be very low on the list of child-bearing traits that naturally start the male hormones running. Primary traits are things like body symmetry noting good genetics, wide hips, youth, secondary sex characteristics like breast development, which signal to males that the female's eggs are primed and ready for some fertilization with Barry White music. This leads young men to have a very low value placed on intelligence in other young women and high value in those primary signals of suitability for a mate. This will mean that some may make statements like, "Pretty girls aren't supposed to be smart," because in their natural evaluation of a girl's suitability "smart" barely factors in until after the other characteristics have been checked off the list. A well this is a self-fulfilling prophecy, since women know men value them for those primary traits of sexual suitability they focus on developing those traits rather than their intelligence. This also means that often the most pretty girls are also the least smart, because they have those primary traits so well that there's no need to have any other supplementary traits. This results in men being exposed to pretty dumb girls, leading them to the conclusion that pretty girls generally aren't going to be smart because the data set they're working with supports that. Hope this helped.
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4 RespuestasThere is, technically, such thing as girl gamers. Same with guy gamers. In the end, we're all just gamers, but there is a difference. In the, "gaming world," if you will, it isn't much, but there is still a slight one. And also I agree. Pretty girls can be smart. Society has just seen two different types of women and stereotyped them. Same with guys. You have the fit, dumb, and good looking jocks, and hen you have then not-so-good looking, thin, pimple covered, and smart nerds. Everyone gets stereotyped eventually.
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1 RespuestaEditado por BIGMAC103: 6/15/2017 11:33:06 AMAll the attractive girls I met ended up being some of the stupidest, lazy, and rudest people I ever met. Beautiful on the outside, retarded in the inside. Not saying all pretty girls are like that, I don't want to generalize too much. I'm sure there are some out there who are smart and attractive.
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2 RespuestasEditado por Commander Tempu: 6/15/2017 5:09:01 AMI am not falling for this trick. You have yet to have evidence you are a girl. I have made friends who are women. They are intelligent and Fun to be playing games with. Thus i suspect your ulterior motive in this post was to have a battle of the sexes. I am onto you and there is no battle. Such things should be left in private between two friends wanting to play games together. Unlike some barbarians i know how to keep myself in check. People can make up what they want but the truth is good friends are hard to find. I find it fascinating when you say a woman is your friend. It makes them instantly curious about the type of relationship involved.
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Actually I'm glad you brought this up. At certain levels it is demonstration of a type of control pattern. Objects moving with visual beauty association are often times "programmed" to carry vast amounts of intellectual reaction. And due to the FACT, we are discussing computer building, I find this coincidence indicative of directional sign. We are on the same page, so to speak. I say this, beautiful movement is made to learn and enjoy learning from. Furthermore @everybody: "Everybody is attached to a way to grow as beautiful movement." 👍😇👼
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1 RespuestaBrains, and beauty. It's a good combination. Throw guns into the mix and I'll marry you right now.
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You go gal!! 😍😍
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3 RespuestasBull... I once dated a girl who built a robot and can use a 3D printer to print out things she designs on computers AND she was smarter than the stupid one who didnt know how to add double digit numbers but could do things with her tounge... Smart girl>Stupid girl