Guys, it's something most of us have to do even though we hate to admit it..
What do you do or say to convince your better half to [b]let[/b] (That's right, and you know it!) you spend sweet precious time playing on Destiny or let us say to game in general?
Oh, and before someone throws the word 'sexist' around, we all know what women offer ( or refuse ) when they want something. 😉
[u]Don't take this too seriously guys, it's just a bit of fun.[/u]
[quote]The irony of this statement is just too good to ignore. You who sit behind your keyboard, spouting about the 'pussification of the new generations' which you are literally the personification of.
You see, the post was a joke. It refers to the eye rolls and compromise, the inside mechanisms of the long term relationship that I doubt you have any idea about. In fact, I doubt you've ever felt an adult relationship have you? If at all, but I imagine when you strain your little head to think of some quippy comeback that you've been married for 20 years.
Here's some advice [u]kid[/u], and the rest of you teenagers on the whole "If she loves you, she should let you do whatever you want" bandwagon should listen up too;
When you eventually grow up and find hair on your nutsack, and then one day possibly find a woman who for some unknown reason to me decides that you're worthy of spending her life with - You will realise that actually yourself and your own happiness isn't your main concern anymore. You'll soon have responsibilities, and you won't have as much free time as you think you will. When it comes down to choosing whether you're going to play on the PS4 or spend time with your wife, it's no hard decision, and that's called being a real man.[/quote]
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lol @ the edit
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2 RespuestasThis is my problem. She doesnt hate the game at all btw, and has said shes glad its something I do and enjoy etc. Its when it comes to the point that the game interrupts me and gets priority over other things in life that is her main gripe, and tbh, trials not being on this weekend has had me getting a lot more done (the normal amount I would do) than if trials was on. Ive realised myself that I spend too much time on this game. And its usually to my own detriment. Dont get me wrong, I love the game, but when youre playing it just for the sake of it, thats when its time for a bit of a reality check. The main reason for this behaviour however is that I have an incredibly addictive personality and cant do things in half measures. I wrote about this in another post also regarding my musical interests (drums/guitar playing) and going to the gym. I obsess over things I put my focus into if I enjoy it. All in all, ill play a bit less, but hopefully too, when I can confidently say there isnt something higher on my priority list to be done. It should be fun and enjoyable, and not a chore, especially if you end up getting cranky and pissed off with playing lol (many a bad trials run helping people at half 4 in the morning has led to angry sleeps lol) Just my 2 cents haha
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3 RespuestasMy wife doesn't mind my game time as it's always after I put her and the kids to bed. She said that if I am in the livingroom playing then I am not in a bar or in an over night stay so she is happy with that. Nothing like calling the better half for a pick up from the old pokie.
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My fiancé is cool with my gaming. We make plenty of time for each other. I mean I don't get mad at her for going out with her friends so why should she get mad at me for gaming?
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1 RespuestaThe wife knows this is my decompression technique from my day (jobs, kids, etc.). As long as we watch a movie and go out to eat once a week, we are on solid ground. Anyone who demands your full attention all of the time is a ticking time bomb.
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My wife is just cool like that. You know why? I've figured out how to balance my hobby with my responsibilities as well as spending time with her. I work odd hours that are always shifting. And so when she's awake and home, my time is with her. When she's sleeping or at work and I'm not, my responsibilities come first, then my hobby. It's not difficult gentlemen (and/or ladies). I get the things done she may need, I get the things done that I may need, I spend whatever time I can with her, then I get to play some games. And it works both ways. She does the same for me.
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She doesn't [u]let[/u] me do anything. I don't run her life, and she doesn't run mine. I do, however, split my time between her and the things I like. She does the same. Allows for less suffocation
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1 RespuestaIt's all about the compromise, as long as you have quality time together and the house work is done it's all good. Most guys put off their husband duties to play games and that is what causes the problem, not the actual gaming it's the neglect of their jobs. I have been married for 5 years with a kid on the way and gaming was an issue for a bit then I figured this out and now it is all good.
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1 RespuestaEditado por Chuck P69: 5/22/2016 5:22:03 PMMy wife and I have an understanding. Some guys play in a card club, bowling league, or even go out to the bars. I equated it to every tuesday after work I play destiny. She knows where I am and im not drinking and out with the guys. Everyone deserves an escape and a hobby. If your significant other does not understand this then they are too controling and posessive. I also play after she goes to bed during the week and on the weekends.
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4 RespuestasLol, op has to ask permission to play a game
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6 RespuestasYour relationship is flawed. If I want to play, I play. The only compromise here is not getting into too much mic chatter when she's asleep. Such is the benefit of each of us having our own interests. No strategy or begging required.
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6 RespuestasIt's funny, actually, the bottom of your post. "underthumb" Meanwhile, in pretty italic letters, spitting negative assumptions and insults to people who are not under anyone's thumb. A relationship is a partnership. It's about equality. If you are "underthumb," she does not view you as an equal. Nay, just another big ass kid to take care of. And, like a kid, you have to strategize to get your Destiny "privelege" back. Meanwhile, according to you, it is we who treat each other as equals who have to "find hair on our nuts" and "be a real man." It's funny even if it is a little sad.
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4 RespuestasEditado por Obi-RonKenobi: 5/23/2016 2:19:36 PMI never have to ask. I just play, we are individuals. We spend a lot of time together but if one of us chose to do something by ourselves, the other doesn't intervene. If you're in a relationship where you have to ask to have a hobby you might want to reevaluate your options. Only a completely insecure narcissist would try to dictate what someone else spends their time doing. Married for almost 10 years now.
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2 RespuestasMy husband usually says "hey, I'm gonna play a little Destiny. Do you want to join me or are you still playing (insert Dark Souls 3, Fallout 4, etc)?" Sometimes I ask him to load the dishwasher before we log in but it isn't a deal breaker.
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If you 're a grown up man and in a long-term relationship, there shouldn't be a situation where you "have to choose between lady and video games". If that sounds like chinese to you, your relationship sucks. Some actual advice would be to show her that netflix on your computer comes with a million movies you'd never watch but totally fit your lady's preference.
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3 RespuestasThe couple that [i]worts[/i] together; stays together. [spoiler][i]wort[/i][/spoiler]
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We have different timetables most of the time. Usually I don't play when my gf is at home, but then again, I don't need to. She's a great person to be around. Also she doesn't mind me playing occasionally
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12 RespuestasI'm not a husband or a boyfriend, but if you have to [i]convince [/i]your significant other to let you play, you've got issues... and if sex is some sort of bargaining chip.... [i]lol. You're both stupid.[/i] ([i]Or[/i] your relationship is stale. Which means you've got issues.)
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You can try to Wombo Combo the entrance to your man cave. It's a pretty strong area denier, she'll have trouble getting in.
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I bought another tv for gaming. I can game and watch our programmes together.
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My wife doesn't care, she understands I need time for myself
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1 RespuestaGive her Cosby's special drink. Works every time.
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Become gay
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I'm very lucky, I finish work a few hours before my wife, so I use this as my "gaming time".
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4 RespuestasChloroform. Works every time [spoiler]kidding kidding !!![/spoiler]
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She has her own Xbox/pc so she can do what the -blam!- she wants while I do what the duck I want