“Get a life. It’s just a video game.”
This is an all-too-familiar response to those of us who dare to share that we have a connection to Destiny that is emotionally deeper than simply a way to pass the time or unwind after work. When I read these sorts of responses, it occurs to me that what is sad is that people insist on judging us (and thinking themselves somehow [i]better than[/i]) simply because we have an [u]emotional investment [/u]to a video game.
I really enjoy being invested in video games (I also enjoy being invested in hunting, basketball, and baseball - my other hobbies). In fact, my emotional investment to a game is why I tend to be a one-game-at-a-time player.
I love it that my family enjoys video games, too. My sons love video games - my 10 year-old is deep into Ark Survival Evolved and my 14 year-old is loving Fallout 4 (so is my wife, who also has an amazing career). I enjoy it so much when they share those worlds with me; when they articulate their emotional connection to them. They are also A/B students who play sports, and are the best hunting buddies a dad could ask for. Do video games keep us from going sledding or out to movies? Never. But we all get excited for a cold winter Saturday spent in PJs playing video games!
Side note: My 14 year-old daughter has no interest in video games or hunting, which is perfectly fine. The best part, though, is that she LOVES target shooting, and can outshoot the boys any day of the week (talk about a proud dad!). And, when a couple of us are playing, she’s often in charge of the music. It’s rad the way she’ll try to find music that fits the mood of the game we’re playing – her choosing The Chemical Brothers while I was racing the SRL was simply sublime.
Another side note: If your gaming is creating a disconnect between you and your family: first, know that you are not alone (most, if not all, of us have felt that disconnect at some point), second, try to find ways to include them, even if it’s not by them playing the actual game (e.g. my daughter doing the music), and third, recognize that this may require you to [i]take off the headphones[/i]. This last one can be hard for some of us, but it's important that video games add to my life, not detract from it.
I digress: So, I ask you not to discount my emotional connection to Destiny (or any other game) simply because you don't feel it, or because, for reasons I can't quite put my finger on, you simply can't accept it because “[i]it's just a video game[/i]." Honestly, one of the primary reasons I enjoy video games is [i]because[/i] I become emotionally invested in them. I enjoy great video games for the same reason I enjoy great books: [i]they transport me to places I cannot go in my real life[/i]. What's wrong with that? Answer: nothing. Absolutely nothing. In fact, I'd say it's [i]enriching[/i] my life.
Now, if playing video games negatively affects my marriage, my job, my interpersonal relationships, my health, then obviously I need to step back and reevaluate things. But until it does, I will enjoy losing myself in the incredible worlds of video games (and sharing my adventures with my family, my friends, and you folks). Judge me if you must, but when you do, I’ll simply suggest to you that you look in the mirror and ask yourself why you feel the need to judge.
Try immersing yourself in a video game. [i]Become connected[/i]. You might be surprised by what you experience. I promise I won't judge you for it.
[spoiler]Bungie, fix your shit. There, it’s feedback.
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[spoiler]Ninja Edit: Moving this to Destiny[/spoiler]
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1 RespuestaHa, gayyy!!
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1 RespuestaIt's a shame you're on XBone, you seem like the kind of person I'd like to be friends with.
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3 RespuestasAs someone who can no longer do some of the things I love as much as I would like due to... stuff... I love video games because they allow me to become immersed in a world beyond the ones I might create in my mind, and share it with others when I can find them. I feel connected because I want to feel connected and to try to look at the story and playing through my characters eyes. To get a different perspective. I can forget about everything for a while and just think about the game. So screw you all who criticize us. We aren't telling you how to feel about the game, stop trying to tell us.
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1 RespuestaPost of the year right here
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6 RespuestasI am probably the least stressful person I know because of my hobbies and video games are a big part of that. Less stress = longer, happier life.
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2 RespuestasYou're not alone. Video games are an art form. You can immersed in the environment, affected by the story, engaged in the characters . I remember telling someone how I could only handle small doses of the hospital part of Resident Evil 4, they laughed. But it was [b]scarier[/b] than a movie. Because in a movie, you sit and wait out the tough times. But in a game you gotta get your character outta that situation.
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1 RespuestaI shot the sherif [spoiler]but i didnt shoot the deputy[/spoiler]
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3 RespuestasEditado por Portagaz D Natsu: 1/16/2016 4:07:48 PMAt least the rest of your family is smart enough to see the piece of shit this game is becoming thanks to what seems to be EA's clone of a company.
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1 RespuestaEditado por Recon SR2: 1/16/2016 4:31:16 PMReason? A calm demeanor? A well-written and carefully though out post? On the Bungie forums? This post is overpowered. Bungie, please nerf it. Fusion rifles too, I saw a guy get an assist with one the other day. All jokes aside, an excellent post. Like you said, as long as you maintain the balance between your hobbies and your career/education/family, there is nothing wrong with enjoying or being emotionally invested in a video game (or any other hobby, for that matter.)
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7 RespuestasMy wife, daughter, son, and I play Destiny together! :)
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After being down for a couple months due to a knee reconstruction I can agree. Being able to play with people when I'm stuck inside is really nice
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8 RespuestasThe road to hell is paved with good intentions, and the one rarely allows for the occasion of the other...in this society of instant gratification, this "art" form (along w cell phones n video media) has almost replaced print. I know NO people who play frequently who would trade play time for read time, including myself (a Dr.). I'm talking about REAL books, the 300 page plus variety, but I suppose, until technology fails permanentlyish due to solar/electromagnetic or nuclear interference, will we ever return to the written form...if its not already too late...anyway lets enjoy our escapism and selfish pleasures until the world ends with a whimper.
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11 RespuestasStop writing essays on a gaming forum and get a life.
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1 RespuestaXbox : DgC THE TRUTH Running trials with viewers hit him up on twitch : AJROSAS1 Very nice guy highly skilled player if you like check out his stats amazing player if you need some help getting to the light house come on in and say hi , or if you like to watch a very high skilled player do work in the trials of Osiris you will not be disappointed watching alright guardians see ya ! Www.twitch.tv/ajrosas1
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3 RespuestasOnly idiots say get a life.
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2 RespuestasWell said. Ignore the trolls. If they don't understand, they won't understand.
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5 RespuestasEditado por VictrixGuard: 1/15/2016 7:24:32 PMI have been a gamer for 26 years, I like to think I know a thing or two. The only time I say this to people is when they are putting people down about their stats or getting angry about losing etc and just being plain nasty to other gamers. I say it because if somebodies investment in a game is so deep that they value the game experience more than real world people and relationships then they are taking things to seriously. I myself invest deeply in games and soak up the lore, aesthetics, story and gameplay. The problem is we have a generation of gamers who invest themselves in one thing: Stats. These are the gamers who truly miss the point in why gaming exists, the gamers who become volatile when things are not going there way, who coin phrases such as sweaties, scrubs, try hards etc as to create reasons for why they had a bad game. So when I tell someone its just a game get over it, I am not saying that games don't matter I am saying have fun, play the game and don't get angry over something that shouldn't have to diminish your enjoyment.
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1 RespuestaIs it just me, or did nothing in this post indicate a number of hours he spends of videogames? People keep saying he's spending too much time or just the right amount, but how do they claim to know this? He's talking about feelings not hours lol. OP, it's your life, live it how you want. A past-time is fine as long as it doesn't hurt something more important. Just beware that many people regret not realizing that that anything was wrong until it was too late. But in a way maybe it is good you are thinking about this. Just as the insane people never question their sanity, videogames don't truly rule your life until you feel completely positive they don't ;)
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1 RespuestaGreat post! I agree with and appreciate your argument 100%. However, I think the phrase does apply whenever someone gets abusive towards another player, tirades and rage quits, or posts inane requirements when LFG. To me, phrases like "...I want to get this done quickly" cause me to mute or ignore the request. It's like speed reading through a great novel, or watching a great movie on fast forward.
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1 RespuestaDude so darn true! Thank you for the extremely well said post!!
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Deep Cheers m8
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6 RespuestasThis. This is it. I completely agree with everything you said. For some reason, there is a negative connotation to immersing yourself in a video game. There is nothing wrong with letting your imagination run wild in an environment such as video games. There are people out there that take it too far with video games, and I do not promote becoming absolutely obsessed with gaming. However, have most of us skipped out on a social event or even a class to try out a new game or DLC? Sure, many of us are guilty of that. Video games have the ability to impact somebody's life, and there is nothing wrong with that as long as you take care of yourself first. Video games help us get out of our normal lives and allow us to become formula car drivers or shoot galactic aliens. And there is nothing wrong with that. Now I have been gaming since the original PlayStation came out. Since then, I've become a very avid player. I consider video games a huge part of my life. At the moment, I'm majoring in Computer Science and plan on becoming a visual and graphics engineer, helping program video games and making sure things run smoothly. But why am I hesitant to tell people that's my dream job? Why did my old friend's girlfriend's mother warn her daughter that he was "on the wrong track in life" because he put in 15 hours a week in video games? Why do people judge video games so harshly? People enjoy cars and sports, so why can't I peacefully enjoy playing a game? That is what I cannot understand. There is nothing wrong with casually playing video games and living your life. If anything, it is better than idly watching television. While people need to take care of themselves (physically, mentally, socially) before indulging in video games, you should never feel ashamed for enjoying the world that video games immerse you in. I appreciate your post, and you can ignore the people who are speaking against you. Thank you for the great read!
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1 RespuestaI agree, but my connection is with the Dark Souls games.
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1 RespuestaPreach brother. My wife doesn't play but my 2 daughters and I do. I have consoles in the living room, game room and every bedroom of my house. We enjoy doing a ton of outdoor activities as well as playing games together. Sometimes they watch me play Destiny and other times I watch them play minecraft. Rock Band and Guitar Hero were the best though cause I got them hooked on good music.
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1 RespuestaHow long did you spend writing that?
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1 RespuestaEditado por bobswerski: 1/15/2016 10:29:07 PMI'd have to assume that's said a lot because it really does seem like some people (not you, it would appear) are way too worked up about the game and it does affect them personally to a level that it's hard to believe doesn't impact their real life in some way. May not always be true but IMO, if you're angry enough about a game to go on the forums and type up some 300 word screed about how evil the developer is and how they lied to you and stole from you and liken them to war criminals or child molesters, you really need to calm the -blam!- down and reassess your priorities in life.