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Editado por TAZER2012:
8/17/2015 6:20:30 PM
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The Mrs or Destiny?
My girlfriend say I'm a lazy shit who does nothing around the house and that I spend more time on my PS4 than I do on her.
She says "give up the games or I'm gone"
What do I do fellow guardians?
(Edit)Well this escalated quickly I wish I never asked
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#Destiny
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11 RespuestasI'm a happily married man with two young children. I've had, somewhat, the same conversation with my wife. I don't believe your girlfriend, truly, believes you're "a lazy shit". She, more than likely, feels neglected or is simply looking for affirmation. From my experience, women want to be desired. They want to know that you find them captivating. Sometimes we, men, get caught up in ourselves and our hobbies and forget about her needs and desires. Try setting aside time in the day or throughout the week where it's all about her. Be proactive when it comes to household chores. Don't wait for her to ask you for help either. And be consistent. Leave a post-it note on the bathroom mirror first thing in the morning that tells her how beautiful she is every once in a while. Bring home a small bouquet of flowers once a week (these don't have to be exspensive). Remember, no girl ever wants to be the "nagging wife". But sometimes it comes out because they've tried to keep their mouths shut hoping that we will get a clue. So it builds up and boom. You're now a "lazy shit that does nothing around the house". So what I'm getting at is don't take what she said personal or as an ultimatum. Acknowledge her feelings and apologize. It's not about being right or wrong. It's about respecting her feelings and emotional needs. And do not under any circumstances in the midst of your apology try to work out a gaming schedule. That can come later. Hope this helps bro. I've been there.
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Take a break and make her feel appreciated. Then have a conversation with her and figure out if you can balance the relationship and gaming (you will probably need to play less often for this to work). If you can't balance both, figure out which thing is more important and choose that (no judgements from me if you pick gaming. I couldn't be with someone that expected me to completely give up my free time and the things that I enjoy).
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If she doesn't understand your hobby then get rid. Plenty of women on the planet.
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Do what she says now, and then lay it on heavy when TTK comes out. By then you will have leverage to play. But more importantly; if she is that off put by something that gives you joy, there's no reason to be with her. (Unless you are really just forgoing your responsibilities and neglecting her.)
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If your gf acts like that and you like to play games, then u shouldn't be with her.
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Fuk the game that shit isn't real your gf is... unless you don't like her then keep playing lolz
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11 RespuestasCall her fat, then when she pulls out a knife on you. Pull out some bread and mayo, her instincts will kick in and she'll make you a sandwich and start a load of laundry. You'll be playin destiny in no time.
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Bye Felicia.
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1 RespuestaEat her ass
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1 RespuestaAsk off topic.
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I don't do ultimatums. But you do need to ask yourself why you find the game more compelling than her. Says to me that you either don't really want a relationship....or you dont' really want to be in one with HER.
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You're the highest calibre of a desticle. You'd rather play the game then do something with her.
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10 years of bitching or 10 years of bitching. Damn.
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3 RespuestasChicks like glimmer, give her some and she will ascend your relationship. If not she will get the last word and you will be stuck using your exotic hand cannon.
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Hey man, it's pretty simple...if you really care about her than just find a compromise. I'm a husband and new dad and I work a full time job plus overtime. I help out around the house and make dinner when needed...sure life is busy and I wish I could game more, but ultimately my life is more fulfilling because of my family. If it's worth it to you, you'll find that balance.
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Hmmm a real life girl...or a game that means nothing in the real world [spoiler]I just answered this for you[/spoiler]
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1 RespuestaBe yourself. If she's into you she won't mind you and your habits. If she's not into it, the relationship would have never worked out anyway. Choose yourself.
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[quote]give up the games or I'm gone[/quote]
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2 RespuestasIf I was you, the first thing I would do in this situation is to come on to the forums and get the opinions of a sweaty mix of Virgins, Neckbeards and Trolls, they are guaranteed to give you sound advice on all things woman.
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prioritise your time don't neglect they wife
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Give up the games or she is gone
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1 RespuestaDo more round the house spend time with her then play
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"Give up the games"? I understand if she meant take a break but give up?! From what I understand you enjoy video games and it is something you enjoy. If a girl asks to give up (for good) something that is fun that you love then she isn't worth it. A real proper girlfriend would like the way you are and would try to change you. What she is doing is selfish and you deserve better.
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Games aren't everything, but you shouldn't have to give them up entirely. We all need our hobbies or our ways to relax, or connect with friends.
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Editado por SoSorryUDie: 8/19/2015 3:50:32 AMJust give up the games for a bit and spend some time with her. Or just wait till she's asleep. Pu$$y > Destiny.
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8 RespuestasEditado por silver: 8/18/2015 6:25:14 AMI am a girlfriend of a gamer and wouldn't be playing Destiny if it weren't for him. At first I had my reserves and questioned how much time and attention my boyfriend would give me versus his gaming hobby. But honestly, it let me into his "world." I love watching him play different games, I get to learn about them too, and I don't ever feel bored. He hands me the controller and we take turns on PS4. So maybe, give her a chance and invite your girlfriend to understand and involve herself in your hobbies. When this game came out I had no idea how to play first person shooters. Let her have the controller, she can play some patrol or heck, Mario Kart would work too. Get her involved in "your world", maybe she will accept it and enjoy it, maybe she won't. There isn't any harm in trying unless you fear it will make things worse. If you really are spending too much time on games, take a break! Video games will still be here after spending time with those you care about. :)
