[quote]She totally blew me off on my only day off in 2 weeks, to go over to another guys house til 8pm. I don't get home til 8 most days, but it's my only day off. I tried to stay friends with her, but she says we don't talk enough. When I make time to spend with her, she doesn't make time to spend with me, then cries that she thinks I don't want to talk to her anymore. She thinks I'm ignoring her? Alright, I will ignore her. Comment away, Flood. Do your thing.[/quote] Depends, what's your objective? If you want to get together with her again, tell her how you feel - essentially what you told us: You feel like you've been blown off, and it hurts. One of the hardest things to do is to be vulnerable, due to the fact that when you open up, you don't want to have your heart stepped on. Concerning her being at the other guys house, is it possible that she's planning something special for you? It's the holidays, last thing you want to do is assume the worst & feel like a heel later. She's saying you don't talk enough, so talk. If something that is said can be taken in a way that pisses you off, ask for clarification: flat out say "I don't think I took that the right way, could you repeat or rephrase please?". Ask her to do the same thing if you see her flare up over an innocent statement (What do you think I meant by that, I'm honestly not trying to upset you, I don't think I said that correctly, etc). Ask her what her plans are concerning you. Just be friends or going to try dating again?Keeping you wondering isn't fair to either of you since mixed signals will be frequent and expectations will not be met. Talk to her about what is required to keep each of you happy - be honest, and neither party should assume. If either of you isn't getting something they want, advise the other person of what was upsetting when it happened...don't wait until it's happened for the 17th time & you want to break something. Make sure you know what you want before talking to her as well (Do you want to try again? Just be friends? Farewell?). If you don't know what you want, tell her - ask for her feedback. Good luck - if she's an ex, you guys have seen each other at your worst and your best; easier said than done, try to focus on the best times during conversations (she should as well) and try not to open old wounds, and above all, talk it out.