I'm not making light of your situation, but you might be better off not playing if your doing Strikes or even just Roaming PvE. The Lag is 100 to 5000 ms (that's 5 seconds!). I did the Venus strike and spent 2 minutes just punching Vex minions in the head with my Titan - then 5 seconds later they exploded / burst / died after that. Same with shooting them in the head. This sure made it easy to kill the Nexus boss - except for the fact it would suddenly leap sideways 3 body widths making your shot / grenade miss. I checked the Green bar besides my name in the Roster listing and it showed full green with the words "Good" besides it. I'd hate to see "Bad" connection then if mine was "Good". I'm uploading a 4 minute clip of this debacle now and will post it on You Tube later on.