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Edited by TheyCallMeHodor: 10/22/2014 1:06:21 PM
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Im too old for this shit?

Im 29 turning 30 in Feb and I feel like im too old to be playing, I have a wife and 2 kids in which I spend quality time with and work 6-7 days a week usually. I play Destiny whenever I find the time to do so but lately I keep getting invited to do VOG (I still havent done it yet) and the other 5 fire team peeps are like screaming 12-13 year olds and that is also the reason I refuse to use a mic. Tbh, I feel embarrassed because these people are young and being the only adult just makes me feel uneasy, like if I used a mic and spoke they will probably give me shit about my age and some of the people wont let me come do VOG unless I use a mic anyways. It was like when I played mw2 when it came out and the lobbies filled up with screaming trash talking kids and it spread like a cancer so I quit and haven't touched a CoD game since lol. I bought the game to enjoy it,not to listen to kids yell at each other going on about being molested by their dad or gay this and gay that. I just dont know what to do? I think I might just stay at level 29, any other adults here that feel like they can somewhat relate to this? [EDIT] So much positive feedback, I was not expecting so many replies and you can believe me when I write that I have read every single comment in this thread and it warms the heart knowing just how many others are just like me. Thank you so much everybody. Oh and I noticed a few people asking what console im on, im on the PS4 and I will be sure to check out the mature clans out there that were suggested.
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  • I think that what you are feeling is something we all go through, to some extent. I have a younger brother who is your age, who went through the same thing - and for him, he did walk away from gaming, for the most part. He will pick up a controller and play socially, but he he does not own a console, or have an interest in getting one. For me, it was similar for a little bit. When I was closing in on 30, I started to go through this knee-jerk reactionary phase where I started questioning a lot of what I did or liked. Found myself why I still played game, why I still watched cartoons, and other things in a similar vein. Had convinced myself that I was just trying to "hold on to my youth". Eventually, though, I realized that I just liked what I liked, and it wasn't a reflection on who I am. Part of the reason, I think, is the media stigma that exists around gamers today. There is this archetype, that a gamer is an easily influenced pre-teen or teenager who is prone to enjoying violent content, and it is everything wrong with the world. Obviously, it is not true. We come from all age ranges, and walks of life. People are often surprised, in real life, when they find out that I still play. But surprisingly, I've found that there is a larger group of us than you would imagine. Not sure if it is because I work in the software industry, and there is a tendency for people in that industry to still play, or if it is representative of a larger trend, though. My only problem with my coworkers who are playing Destiny right now, is that we play in different timezones (eight hour difference) and they mostly are on XB, while I have a PS4. ;-) I used to play Call of Duty, as well - from the beginning. But, I never had enjoyed the PvP aspect, for the same reasons you do not enjoy it now. Up until a few years ago, I still used to get every single game that came out, but found myself giving them away or trading them in after I had gotten through the story missions. The story missions going to hell, though, was all I needed to cut that tie, in general. Realistically, I do not blame the game, though. The game, in my opinion, only highlighted the generation gap that does exist and is unavoidable. Am sure that most of us on this thread find ourselves just drawing the comparison of how different things were when we were that age, in terms of respecting each other, etc. Not wanting to make it into a "this generation versus that generation argument", but some of that definitely has dissuaded me from the more social aspects of gaming. For me, I do not even bother with PvP. My Hunter was my first character on Destiny. He has maybe six PvP matches, in total. My Warlock, which is my current, has zero - and I still enjoy the game. With my first character, I found that the way that I paced the game actually killed some of the enjoyment I should have gotten from it. Had raced through the story and was left feeling like I missed something. When I restarted my game, I paced myself - focusing on the story and exploration, and making sure that I was actually focusing on leveling up the character more than progressing through the objectives. As it stands right now, I still have not done the Black Garden with him, but he is a level 24 right now, instead of the 17 or 18 that I was when I had blown through it with my Hunter. I did not even do my first strike with him until the other day. And that is where I start missing those levels of social interaction, to a degree. Part of it is not wanting to deal with a lot of the personalities that are prevalent in this community, and part of it is the lack of time commitment I can give. Realistically, that is my primary issue with gaming, still. I just cannot commit like I used to be able to. So, doing raids, for example, is something that I've not yet thought about. When I wake up in the morning, I have no idea if I will be playing a game after I am done working - and when the weekend rolls around, I will definitely get play time in - but it may just be for a couple/few hours, while I am the only one awake. Some days, it is all I can do to stay awake until dinner, after putting in ten or twelve hours in the office. Of course, I do have the distinct advantage of working remotely, so at least I do not have a commute to contend with. But, in the end, when I play is as random as what is in an Engram. Apart from that, though, we do not have any children. We do have family near us, though, and we do have them over or spend time with them often. Not the same, I know, but it is still time that I generally can add to when I will not be playing a game. The important thing is, that you need to play as long as you find enjoyment in it. What matters, at the end of the day, is that you should not be limiting your enjoyment of something based on the opinions or actions of others. As long as you are still getting your entertainment value out of it, then it is time well spent - albeit, seemingly less and less time, as time goes by. Apologies for the long and meandering post. This is the exact reason I do not respond to emails for the first hour that I am "in the office". Lack of caffeine. I am not myself until at least three cups in. ;-)

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