This afternoon, and I will not go into detail, I was content with my indifference and mental fortitude. This afternoon during the play-offs game between Cardinals and Panthers I was challenged by someone who literally called me out "on the carpet" and publicly stated, in front of friends and my wife, my "negative" characteristics. This person chastised my character and called into question my honesty, integrity, and decency. In summation the so called "mask" I wore was tore off by this despicable little revolting character. And disturbingly I reacted modestly and meekly. I couldn't lose face and slander him because to do so would substantiate his claim about my character, of which I believe was his ploy. Though I didn't play his game and reacted like a decent human being ( instead of a raging personality disordered person ) the fact is he planted that seed of thought into very important people I depended on.
Now they will question my motivations. So, it would seem to me I am at a rather large disadvantage and there is very little I can do other than through good deeds make them believe this critique of me by this person was unjust and spiteful. Deep down what angers me is he was right about me and I do not know how I ever gave him the impression I may have a personality disorder. Specifically he referred to me as a "severe narcissist." Now I am seething at his impropriety to belittle me in front of important people in my life. This is a sure sign of Declaration of War.
What should I do? Thank you for your input.
[spoiler]And if you choose to insult or castigate me for this post please do so creatively.[/spoiler]
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Simple: If he was wrong about you, he has victory, but for a short time. If it truly plants seeds of doubt in those close to you they will inevitably come to fruition, and be dispelled over time. If he was right then you lost.
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I believe this shows as a fault of his own character. There's no reason for him to start a conflict out of nowhere or without justification.
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You are who you are. Everyone has characteristic flaws. I'm sure your wife already knows of them as well as your friends but has gotten past them. For you to be bothered by this is a sign that you do have some decency about others. The person that called you out in front of everyone sounds like a complete ass and should have done that in a private place rather in front of friends and family. Had it been me in your place I would have either kicked them out of my house if I had to drag them by the throat or I would have left their place and never came back. What they did was very immature. If you do believe you need to change something about yourself then there is nothing else you can do but try to change. Take a step back and try to view yourself from a 3rd party perspective.
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I would act the exact way the person accused me of being, but in a snarky sarcastic way. Just for that instance, but after that, be the way I would normally conduct myself. Because if that one person thinks youre this one way, they obviously dont truly know you and dont want to get to know you.
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