So a old friend of mine just came back to my highschool. She was far away in a boarding school because she attempted suicide a few times. She just got back after 15 months away because of some complication there. I only just found out that she is back at my school an hour ago when she surprise hugged me in the hall, so I do not know much. The problem is, at the start of this school year I decided to myself that I was going to separate all negative influences in my life. I have stayed committed to that all year. I don't want to hurt her just when she gets back but I am afraid she will only be a negative influence on me. She was a good friend before and she might still be but... It has been a long time. What do fludz?
Plz post why you think what you think.
EDIT: I have decided to give her a chance. But it turns out she is really, really into me. Now the problem is that I already have 2 other girls I am interested in. It would only be one girl but she lives far away and we decided that we should get experience from relationships that don't work out before we have our own. (We plan on getting together after high school is over [Yes I know it is very optimistic] but if you don't understand it is very, very early and it what I just said does not have anything to do with this girl). So it would be fine if it was only that girl but, there is another girl at my high school i'm kinda into. We started getting close from a bet ([url=http://www.bungie.net/7_so-I-have-this-bet-on-with-a-cheerleader/en/Forum/Post?id=63343574&path=1]for reference[/url]) and we have been going good. We have not started dating but we are close.
I used to be kinda interested in the girl I guess but it has been 15 months. I do not want to hurt her feelings but... I am not sure if I want to go into one sided relationship like that.
Tl;dr Bitch came back from being at bitch school for 15 months, me and bitch friends again, now bitch want the D, wat do?
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Never stick your dick in crazy, man. That's rule number one.
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4 RepliesTWO IN THE PINK ONE IN THE STINK! ADVICE FOR WHEN -blam!-ING CHICKS
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3 RepliesWhat's a "girl problem"? I heard of these creatures before, but only through tales from elders...
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1 Reply[quote]putitinherpooper[/quote]
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1 Replydat tl;dr doee
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1 ReplyBE FRIENDS WITH ALL THE FAT CHICKS! ONCE THEY FINISH HIGH SCHOOL, LOOSE THE WEIGHT AND BECOME 10/10 THEY WILL LOVE([b]F[/b]UCK) YOU FOR BEING NICE TO THEM.
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1 ReplyDon't be an asshole and give her a chance. It'll do good for both of you.
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OP updated.
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I'd give her a second chance, and heres why. At this time, you guys don't know how different the other really is compared to when you last saw each other, correct? Catch up and explain your predicament. If she appreciates your feelings, she'll comply (albeit maybe unhappily). You've got to make a choice then, to keep your promise to yourself or support her. Both have faults you'll have to think over, and I'd recommend thinking it to a point which you will have little regrets with.
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Give her a chance. I'd only cut ties if she pulls some shit, but from what you wrote OP, she doesn't sound like she'd cause you too much trouble.
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Give her a chance. Be as good to her as you can, see if you can turn her around.
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Give her a chance, maybe your positiveness might rub off on her.... What's the worse that could happen, you get depressed too, maybe, but at least you'll be able to get over it and not wonder, what if? It's better to live with mistakes then with regrets....
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[quote]I am afraid she will only be a negative influence on me.[/quote] Take a Leap of Faith.
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If you don't mind me asking, what did she influence you to do that was negative? drugs?
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[quote]I decided to myself that I was going to separate all negative influences in my life[/quote] [quote]I am afraid she will only be a negative influence on me[/quote]The logic is clear. Why would you need to ask us?
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4 RepliesSo, uh, why do you think she'll be a negative influence...?
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Give her a chance, and if she starts being a negative influence kick her to the curb.
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1 ReplyYou stopped trolling. Guess I should unmute you. OT: Help her. She clearly missed you.
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2 RepliesGive her a chance bro.
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2 RepliesKick her in the Vagina and walk away....
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If my wife never took the chance to get too know me better I would most likely be alone still. Yeah I had friends but that's what they were friends the understood my predicaments, and I love them all for that. But someone to have a tight bond with can drastically change the person. And life isn't life with out a little risk. I know that sounds stupid. But it worked in my case. So in my opinion you should giver her a chance. And if it doesn't pan out well there are different bonds you can still forge.
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1 Reply[quote]I decided to myself that I was going to separate all negative influences in my life.[/quote] Yet you're still here! Impressive.
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3 RepliesEdited by Gatsby: 2/7/2014 9:21:43 PMJust be friends? You can just be friends, why do her actions influence you?
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1 ReplyGive her a chance. There is no way you can live sheltered from negative influences, because we live in a far from perfect world. Part of life is standing up and overcoming such obstacles. Also, if she spirals into depression due to loneliness and does herself in, you will forever feel the guilt. You could think of it as potentially saving a life.
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1 ReplyEdited by Cicero J Faraday: 2/7/2014 8:31:38 PMWhat if you decide not to help her through what she's going through, and no one else does either? Be a hero. Help her out. It'll build character and it could grow into a strong friendship.
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Edited by Horseman of War: 2/7/2014 8:32:36 PMTo tell you the truth I've grown up with zero female childhood friends. I had those two (I would say three but we lost contact) friends I'd give the world for, and my brothers... all male. I dated and got engaged to Snappy McEmotionpants, and cut it off soon after. I have no idea how I should expect to see women act. Confidence has worked excellent since then, but I... should probably read the OP. -- I don't know. Just saw a romance flick for whatever reason and that would have me tell you to help her become the positive influence in your life instead of trying to push her away... but hey, what do I know? I really have no idea what I'm talking about.