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9/29/2024 10:03:04 AM
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Got called Sir today
While wearing a skirt and actually making an effort. I even put makeup on. Man I feel like -blam!-.
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#Offtopic
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I know it does not always feel this way, but you’re valid. And you don’t owe anyone an explanation for where you are in your own journey. I know some cruel jerks can set you back a step. I know validation from expected and unexpected sources is nice. And I know some people are out to be cruel anyway… But you took the steps. And regardless of how others responded to those steps, it took some mental, emotional, and spiritual wherewithal to take them. So keep taking them. Others will try to suck up the oxygen. Let them. In the end allowing yourself to be you will be more empowering than their attempts to rob you of that. And stopping to engage on their terms is what they want anyway. Anything to rob you of another step. So keep going. You don’t walk alone.
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2 답변I’m sorry that happened. Whatever you do though, don’t go into the actual Destiny game forums, the people there are absolutely disgusting towards queer people.
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That's no fun. My girlfriend is mtf and worries a ton about that stuff. I think the talking is what bothers her the most. I hope you have less shitty interactions with people going forward. Don't waste energy on the shitty people, they ain't worth your time or thought
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23 답변I know it's easier said than done, but honestly, the best thing to do is just not let it get to you. Most of the time, from my experience, it's just an honest mistake, nothing to get worked up over. I've had it happen to me all the time, and most people are quick to correct themselves and apologize. Heck, I've even written a character in one of my books that uses they/them, and I still accidentally call them a she or a her every now and then, and this is someone I designed every facet of their personality and design. It just happens sometimes. It doesn't mean you aren't girly enough or anything like that. The other possibility is this person was trying to intentionally be insulting, in which case you also shouldn't let it get to you, but for the opposite reason. All that was going on here was a person was being a jerk, which doesn't say anything about you. You could be the most stereotypical girly-girl in existence, and someone wanting to be mean could still call you sir. No point in letting someone like that get in your head.
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3 답변So what would I call you? To be fair, having never seen nor heard of you before, I wouldn’t know anything about you.
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작성자: High Charity 10/4/2024 10:14:25 AMThats always the worst. It's like goddammit why even bother trying sometimes. Like yeah there's like a solid 50% chance they actually don't know (because the "We can tell" crowd really can't) but it still sucks when you put the effort in
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I just don't use pronouns with strangers. Live how you wanna live but I won't bend my beliefs for someone else.....but I also won't make it a point to hurt someone because of my beliefs. So just not using pronouns is a win win for all involved in my situation. F that dude for purposely doing that outta spite tho.
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2 답변I would take it as a sign of respect. The clones in The Clone Wars refer to their female commanders as “Sir”, which I have always liked.
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I was at a mcdonalds once and went in the men's bathroom, and some old guy said "excuse me miss, you're in the wrong place" I have long hair, but other than that, I don't think I look much like a woman.[spoiler]so sorry that happened to you, that's just sucky. People are dumb.[/spoiler]
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2 답변To be fair they may not have known how to act because they might have not known your pronouns. For a lot of people, especially if they haven't really encountered people with different pronouns, just don't know how to act.
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